new single mum

[anastacia]

hi im 21 and ive just been made a single mum of a 5month and i dont know how to cope. i caught my partner with my best mate in my house and i kicked him out, he still wants to see his daughter and im ok with that but its her i have the problem with. after i found out about their 2month affair i didnt want anymore to do with her, but unfortunatly she keeps rubbin it in my face and showing me pics of them together wen i was still with him. i really wanna get over it and move on but it really hurts and i dont kno how to, to begin with crying helped for the first week, now i jus feel sick and exhausted, does ne one know how ive gotta cope in this situation? i just dont know what to do now! thanks people x x x

 

[lulu35]

i know its a cliche but time is a healer and the best thing for you to do is to show both of them that its not bothering you (easier said than done i know) you have your baby and he still has to see you to see his daughter, so when he comes round put on that brave face, if you see them in the street put on that brave face dont for a minute let them think that your bothered, you can do all your crying when your alone and believe me there will come a day when you wake up and it wont be the first thing on your mind and you'll be glad you did it on your own, your wee girl will grow up with a mummy who put her first....concentrate on making a good life for you and your baby...hugs and thoughts to you xx

 

[sweetlullaby]

No real advice hun but massive massive She sounds like a spiteful cow!

 

[anastacia]

thanks guys, im up at this stupid hour cos i jus cant sleep! i jus wish we were a family again!

 

[Aidedhoney]

Huge hugs hun xxxxx

Time is a great healer as naff as it sounds xx

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I dont have any advice hun, but it wil get easier in time xx

 

[anastacia]

thanks guys for ure support, hes round now and im just not paying him any attention and just getting on with chours, i really feel like hitting him but as lil ones about i cant she droped him off and hes 45mins late! how do i go about telling him that its not acceptable?? xox

 

[LittleMadam]

Best way to get over a man (at least temporarily) is to date or flirt or have sex with someone who is really into you. Great for the self-esteem. Get a babysitter, get dressed up and go on a date or out with the girls.

And remember, chin up!

 

[anastacia]

hey thnx 4 tht, thts wat i done last time (as my ex b4 tht decided to cheat on me for 4months) i had a 'buddy' he was gr8, i tryed to get bck in touch with him but hes in a relationship now i really miss the sex tho, i wish relatioships were alot easier!!!!

 

[Niki]