New single mummy

[tammii1981]

Hi there
Im a new single mummy-me and my OH recently split up due to not getting along anymore...it came from him initially. I'm heartbroken and can't get my head around it all.

Having a baby is so stressful (my daughter is now 2yrs old) and we were living in Dublin, away from all our family and friends so everything was very stressful. No matter how much itry to convince him that this was the reason behind our occasional bickering, he won't listen to me.

Has anyone else had this problem? Why won't he at least give us a go? He has no interest in trying and it's killing me. He loves our daughter so much -and also says he loves me still, but thinks he is too young to 'try at a relationship'. He thinks it should all just be perfect...

I desperately want to convince him he is wrong...

Is anyone else going though this at the moment? We have been together for 7 years and we are not married.

Thanks ladies xx

 

[jemmie1994]

I'm sorry hun but I don't know men are stubborn creatures once they got there mind set on something is hard to change it but tbh he living in a dream world relationships are hard and need work no matter what age you are x

 

[tammii1981]

Thank you-I completely agree with you. I've honestly never known a more stubborn person! Just makes everything that much harder. Especially when I can see what a waste it all is and he won't listen to me when I tell him that everyone needs to work at a relationship...just have to give him some space for a while and hope he comes to his senses....in the meantime, I've concentrated on myself and my daughter-I've learnt to drive (don't know how I've left it this long!) and I'm looking for a new job and putting my daughter into a crèche for the 1st time....I'm getting there!

 

[Laura2919]

I'm sorry hun. you can't make something feel something they don't. Maybe after time he will change his mind and see he loves you and wants to make it work.