New to this and need to rant

[Tanya1]

Thank you everyone who will read this.
I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant and have been single for the past 4.
My partner of nearly two years spent the last year convincing me that I would one day be the mother of his children, that we would start a family together. I caught him cheating, but shortly thereafter, found out that I was pregnant...so I took him back to give it another try.
I then found out merely two weeks after that event that he had been seeing a girl who also works in the same hospital as the two of us for months.
So I left.
Now, because he values this new woman's feelings more than mine, he emails me and calls me to demand that I have an abortion. I do not want an abortion. I am dedicated to bringing a happy healthy person into this world, but doing this alone is already so difficult. My coworkers are all very supportive and so is what little family I have.
I feel so hormonal and heartbroken all at the same time. I thought I lost what was supposed to be my best friend, who seems completely content with another woman so shortly after he threw his own dream into the trash can.
Am I alone? What is wrong with me that someone would do something so terrible to me?
I'm so frustrated and tired.
I'm sorry if this isnt how this works, I've never posted in a forum before and I hope I have managed to do this right.

 

[AP]

*bump*

 

[Ceejay123]

Oh honey I hope you're okay x

 

[babycrazy1706]

Sorry you are going through this. Some men are just such idiots (my ex is too) he has no right to demand an abortion. Its a shame that you have to go through so much heartache right now but just remember the blessing that is your baby and that everything happens for a reason. You will get support in this part of the forum whenever you need it. Us single mummies stick together and help each other out. Take care of yourself and baby. Big hugs. Xx

 

[MissMummy2Be]

Im sorry you are going through this Men are idiots my kids dad left me 3 weeks ago we have 2 kids together I am still waiting for a explanation as to what the hell is going on!!
He has no right to demand you get an abortion no man has that right it is a woman's choice...
the ladies on here are amazing ( the entire site not just this section) dont let him push you into som3thing you dont want to do!

 

[teal]

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. My ex and I broke up when I refused to have a termination when I told him I was 4 weeks pregnant. He has absolutely no contact and has never met my LO. It will be hard at times but you'll get there xx

 

[Dezireey]

Sorry you are going through this, its a very tough time for any woman who experiences this type of pain. I thought I would never get through it, that my heart would just explode with the hurt he caused me. I have been on this part of B&B forum for a while now, and its helped me greatly, the ladies on here, knowing you are not alone and that other ladies go through this and to have support and give support has been great in the healing process. Please accept that it is normal to feel so hurt and helpless and angry etc etc. Don't let him spoil your pregnancy now hunny and enjoy the birth and then having your beautiful baby. You will eventually get stronger, happier and adjust to your new life.

We all make decisions in life that are huge, sometimes good, sometimes bad. Keeping and loving a baby is a great decision for any mum and baby will be lucky to have you. Men that take the cowardly and easy option of leaving a woman in such a vulnerable state are worthy of no-one. You have had a lucky escape and better that he is gone now than going when e.g your little one is older and causing pain to you both with his cheating ways. He will inevitably cheat on his other women and cause pain to others. Just feel sorry for him and them whilst you and LO have a great life together and maybe, when you are ready, you will meet a great guy that will love and stay with you both.

Big hugs for you xx

 

[Mc12eb]

I'm sorry you're going through this too. Good for you for leaving though, the father of my daughter cheated so much but I always gave him another chance because of my pregnancy. Well now our daughter is born and I've basically given up and let him do whatever even though he swears he isn't cheating it doesn't matter to me at all anymore and I'm just waiting I guess. It would have been easier leaving in the beginning.

 

[whatwillbe]

My ex fob did exactly the same thing to me hun, kept saying how he wanted me to have his baby, then when i got pregnant he left me at 5 weeks, i then found out hed gone back to his ex. I know how you feel, its one of the loneliest times being pregnant and alone especially when the father wanted this baby to be made, i felt everything your feeling now, hurt, angry, betrayed and like i somehow deserved this, the hormones didnt help ! But let me tell you, once your beautifull baby is here, you wont have time to feel all these feelings, all you'll care about is looking after baby ! After i had my little girl, the first 2 weeks i never had a moment to think. Another good thing about being a single parent is you get baby all to yourself with no one telling you how you shoukd be doing things, i went through hell during my pregnancy but i'd go through it all again because my babys worth it and youlk feel the same once your baby's snuggled in your arms. Try not to think of him if you can and dont think its because of you, theres nothing wrong with you, its him, hes not mature enough and too selfish to think of anyone but himself, keep strong and just think of you and baby x

 

[daneuse27]

I'm so sorry to hear what a horrible person your ex is. He doesn't deserve you, or your beautiful baby. You're going to be a great mom, without him. I'm glad that your coworkers and family are supportive. I hope that you're ok, and feeling well. Let us know how you're doing!