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[Sweetpea04]

Hi, I'm new to the board. My name is Anastasia and I am currently 9 weeks pregnant

 

[DazedConfused]

HI and welcome!

Congrats on your pregnancy

 

[x__amour]

Hi Anastasia! :wave:
Welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy!
I'm Shannon, 18, and 35+1 with a little girl due on November 14th!
I really think you'll like it here, everyone is super nice and helpful!
I'm always up for a chat or if you ever need advice, feel free to PM me!
I hope you have the healthy and happiest 9 months!!!

 

[holly2234]

Hey im Holly. Im 17 and 20+4 with my first. Congrats!

 

[Sweetpea04]

im just curious...how did you guys tell your parents because right now thats what is worrying me the most

 

[Burchy314]

Hey Anastasia (BTW I love that name, it was one of my choices for a girls name) Congrats on your pregnancy, I wish you the happiest and healthy 9 months. My name is Tina and I am 17 and 30+4 weeks pregnant with my first. A little girl named Jayden Elizabeth. I am always up for talking, feel free to contact me anytime.

I told my parents with my youth pastor and his wife because I was to scared to do it alone. They took it very well, but didn't like the fact that I couldn't tell them on my own. Another good way to tell your parents is to write them a letter explaining everything if you aren't ok with confronting them.

 

[x__amour]

im just curious...how did you guys tell your parents because right now thats what is worrying me the most

Oooh, it really depends on your relationship with your parents but I promise you, the sooner you tell them the better.

For me, I went to Planned Parenthood and they confirmed my pregnancy and I came home and asked my Mom to sit down and I straight up told her, "Mom. I'm pregnant." And she goes, "Really?" and hugged me and told me everything would be okay. She was really understanding because she had her first child at 15. She's been great through the entire thing, maybe a little too excited, lol.

My Dad was difficult. I didn't know how to tell him. In the end my Mom just kind of told him for me. She was like, "Patrick, you're going to be a Grandfather." He thought it was a joke at first and then he got really mad. He was like, "Well, I'm glad you guys found adoptive parents because there's no way in hell you are keeping it!" I was really upset and ran upstairs crying but he came up later and said, "Shannon, I'm sorry. I over-reacted. It just took me by surprise. I just wanted to let you know that I support you and whatever decision you make and I'll always be there for you." He was still pretty distant about it afterward but now he calls himself Grandpa and has gone out and gotten baby stuff for me.

So if you have a good relationship just be really open about it.
If not, maybe write a note explaining. Your parents love you though and will be there for you no matter what!

 

[Sweetpea04]

i mean my mom has always said she would support me if it ever happened but i just feel like she said that without expecting for it to actually happen. the FOB's parents had his sister at 16 so i know we will have an easier time with them. i just keep thinking that ive let my parents down in some way. did anyone else have that feeling?

 

[amygwen]

Hi! Welcome to bnb & congrats on your pregnancy!

Yes hun it's completely normal. My family always told me they would always support me no matter what and even though they said that, I still felt like I really disappointed them, which I did at first, but they got over it. They were happy with how mature I handled being pregnant and now they absolutely love Kenny! They can't imagine life without him. But like x_amour said, the sooner you tell them the better, it'll be easier on you and easier on them! Good luck!

 

[DazedConfused]

Yep, my dad cried when mum told him apparently.
I had completely ruined his life and vision for me, even now I still feel that disappointment, but to be fair I've felt like I've disappointed him for years.

My mother reacted by screaming about abortion and how I would live in a slum for a while. That was pleasant.

She's a complete bitch - to be fair.

I hope everything goes okay for you darling My parents and I are okay now, but the failure feeling lingers.

 

[x__amour]

i mean my mom has always said she would support me if it ever happened but i just feel like she said that without expecting for it to actually happen. the FOB's parents had his sister at 16 so i know we will have an easier time with them. i just keep thinking that ive let my parents down in some way. did anyone else have that feeling?

How old are you?
I felt more like I had let myself down than my parents, but yes. I had that feeling to.

 

[Burchy314]

I felt like that at the begining. My parents are very christian and don't approve of sex before marriage so I thought they would react bad and be disapointed in me, but they were very excepting. Yes they were upset that I am so young and not married, but they have done nothing but support me and now they are extremly glad to be grandparents.

 

[Sweetpea04]

i mean my mom has always said she would support me if it ever happened but i just feel like she said that without expecting for it to actually happen. the FOB's parents had his sister at 16 so i know we will have an easier time with them. i just keep thinking that ive let my parents down in some way. did anyone else have that feeling?

How old are you?
I felt more like I had let myself down than my parents, but yes. I had that feeling to.

I am 17 right now

 

[x__amour]

i mean my mom has always said she would support me if it ever happened but i just feel like she said that without expecting for it to actually happen. the FOB's parents had his sister at 16 so i know we will have an easier time with them. i just keep thinking that ive let my parents down in some way. did anyone else have that feeling?

How old are you?
I felt more like I had let myself down than my parents, but yes. I had that feeling to.

I am 17 right now

Well, you're almost an adult!
Talking to people about how you feel definitely helps. Maybe talk to a pastor or a counselor. And of course everyone here at BnB are always here!

 

[Sweetpea04]

talking to everyone here really does help. I will deff. be telling my parents by the end of the month. my brother already knows cause i broke down and told him and hes kinda excited for me and hes agreed to be the godfather

 

[aafscsweetie]

Hey, congrats on your pregnancy!! I'm 19 and 30 weeks with my first Honestly, I was scared shitless to tell my parents even though my OH (who is 24) and I are totally stable and independent from them- we have our own apartment and jobs and function as adults. But I was still really scared. I knew there would be a lot of yelling if I told them in person, so I chose to email them and asked them to call me when they cooled down a little bit. (I live about 2 hours from them) In the end it was the best way I could have told them, as they were pretty mad and irrational at first, but once they got around to talking to me they were really supportive and encouraging... TOTALLY the opposite reaction I expected from them. I thought they would never speak to me again to be honest. So just calm down a bit. If you have a decent relationship with your parents and they are somewhat rational people then i'm sure they'll come to terms with it, even they ARE mad at first. but really you should tell them as soon as possible.

 

[Sweetpea04]

Hey, congrats on your pregnancy!! I'm 19 and 30 weeks with my first Honestly, I was scared shitless to tell my parents even though my OH (who is 24) and I are totally stable and independent from them- we have our own apartment and jobs and function as adults. But I was still really scared. I knew there would be a lot of yelling if I told them in person, so I chose to email them and asked them to call me when they cooled down a little bit. (I live about 2 hours from them) In the end it was the best way I could have told them, as they were pretty mad and irrational at first, but once they got around to talking to me they were really supportive and encouraging... TOTALLY the opposite reaction I expected from them. I thought they would never speak to me again to be honest. So just calm down a bit. If you have a decent relationship with your parents and they are somewhat rational people then i'm sure they'll come to terms with it, even they ARE mad at first. but really you should tell them as soon as possible.

The email idea isnt such a bad one actually...thank you for the idea and good luck with your pregnancy

 

[Leah_xx]

Hi Hun. Welcome and Congrats!
Im Leah. Im 17
I have a week old baby girl named Gracelynn Elizabeth.
You just have to be straight forward with your parents. I waited and told my parents 2 days after I found out cause I had Prom the day after I found out and I wanted to take another 2 test to make sure I wasn't just imagining things.
Hope everything goes well.
Feel free to PM if want to talk