NEWBIE !! Male Needing Help!

[DaBestDadEver]

Ok im 21 and my OH is 19 we only been talking for almost a year..but i do sure love her! She is 11 weeks pregnant now and is doing the absolute most. She tell me stuff like i stink and be mean alot.. Everybody that know me always say one thing about me..You smell so good! so im guessing its her hormones..she just broke up with me after a small argument, and of course both us said stuff we didnt mean. I really want to be there for her and my child and eventually i want a family..im a college student so im def tryin all i can to be successful for US! we didnt talk any today, but i text her later today telling her im sorry, i love her and im going to be here for her through it all and ask her how she feeling..hours later she finally text me saying.. I love you! I dont need anything from you. I got this... im prayin its just her hormones talkin cuz i know for a fact..i am a great man and was raised up right. Even on her bday 2 days ago..i took her so many gifts she told me go home..and sometimes she talk like she dont even care..im so confused..im tired of being mistreated but at same time im tryin my best to be Understanding...what should i do?

 

[lunar]

First off, congrats on your baby! I'm sorry you're in a bad situation, I really don't know too much of what to tell you. I'm really happy to hear that you really want to be apart of the baby's life, though, that's really great to hear. I hope she puts you on the birth certificate, that would certainly make seeing baby a lot easier.

Sadly, for the moment, you can really only go by her rules since she's carrying the baby.. I think it's admirable you want to be there for baby as much as possible. I can only say try to work with her as much as possible. If she said she loves you, then I hope that means there's a chance you guys can work something out. I hope she comes around, but if she doesn't, there's nothing you can really do other than try to be in the life of the baby as best you can.

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Congrats

And I would try and have a heart to heart with her where she can just open up about how she is feeling. It sounds like she may be having a bit of a tough time dealing with the pregnancy, and it definately sounds like hormones mean she is being short with you. As long as you are there for her, which it sounds like you're trying to be, and you're patient with her, then there isnt much more you can do hang in there.

 

[lil lovey]

:wave: welcome and congrads. The world needs more guys like you

 

[jozylynn896]

Aw this makes me realize how mean I am to. My boyfriend lol. He can hug me the wrong way and I scream and cry. Then I tell him to leave me alone and get outta my house and I cry until he leaves. Then when he leaves he's always just waiting outside cause he knows ill be out shortly crying for him not to leave.
Congratulations on your baby!
I'm sure its just the hormones!

 

[lizmageeful]

It really sounds like its just hormones. I always feel terrible because my hormones were making me go insane first trimester, to the point my FOB was calling me Hulk Smash on really bad days. It should mellow out a little bit further on in the pregnancy, but I'm sure it will work out.

 

[ClairAye]

Sounds like hormones!
I used to be so nasty to my OH and argue over every little thing, he would get mad at me and that made it worse because I couldn't help it!

I agree with a PP that it is pretty much by her rules (within reason!) as she is carrying your baby which is a physically and mentally exhausting thing to do! I'm sure she doesn't mean it