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[JessicaaJadex]

Hey, i thought i should probably introduce myself.

My names Jess, and i've recently found out i'm expecting. I'm 17, but will be 18 in less than a months time. This came as a shock to me, and i'm still not over the fact its really happening.

I am with the baby's father, but he is giving me mixed messages about how he feels. One minute he's telling me that we're not ready and to get an A, and the next minute he's telling me its my choice and that he will support me whatever happens. I don't know how to feel about it all. I'm so against A's, but i don't know how to tell everyone that i want to keep the baby.

I haven't yet told my parents, but plan on telling my mum tomorrow morning so she has some space to think things through. It isn't the best time to tell her this, as she has been through the horrible loss of her mum (my nan) recently, so i don't know if this will bring something positive to her life, or make things 100% worse!

I dont know if anyone else is going through a similar thing? I am only around 6 weeks, so very early on. But i haven't got any other girls to talk to, and my OH is no help to putting my mind at rest.

Sorry for the essay!
xxx

 

[ClairAye]

Hey there! :wave: Congratulations and welcome to BnB! My name is Clair, I'm 18 and my son Jason is 6 months old tomorrow

It's good your OH is saying that though! My OH said from the start to do what I want and he'll support me, I really hope he comes around! The same with your mum, even if not straight away she will eventually, it only took my mum around 4-5 weeks maybe but my dad didn't until I was 25-27 weeks :/

Good luck tomorrow! Feel free to message me if you need to talk

 

[bsd]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
My name is Brittany, I'm 20 and pregnant with my first. I thought I'd share my situation.. when my OH and I found out we were pregnant I was 19 and he was 18. We had JUST moved in with his grandparents two weeks before, he was actually living there for a while but my house was awful because my parents are awful and we asked his grandparents to take me in. A few weeks later we had suspicions of being pregnant, and one morning I tested at 3 am, and told my OH around 8am about the reslut!
We were scared to tell his family and especially his grandparents because we had a lot of respect for them and didn't want to disappoint anyone. Later that SAME day, around 3 or 4 pm we found out his grandmother had pancreatic cancer, and only had 6 months to live. We were devastated and it was so hard for us hearing such positive and negative news in the same day. We didn't want to tell them because they now had their own crap to deal with and we just felt awful! We ended up waiting a week and then sat them down to talk to them, and we were very lucky because they are very supportive people. They even helped us tell the rest of the family..
It was really hard dealing with death and life in such a short period of time, but I do believe everything happens for a reason, babies are such happy and positive things! So maybe your mom might think negatively and selfishly at first, but I bet she'll see it as a sign and take it for more of a happy thing!
As for the FAB, he's probably just in shock hun. Give him time to think about it, a lot of time. You are the one who makes the decision on what you want and he will come around eventually! Good luck with your pregnancy and let us know how telling your mom went!

 

[littlemommy]

Congrats I'm Desiree, I'm 19 and I have a 4month old babygirl named Aubrii!
I found out I was pregnant around 6weeks too and my mom was pretty easy going about it, but OHs family wasn't. His dad threatened to kick me out, since that's where we were living at the time. His mom was just disappointed. She came around once I started to get a bump, his dad took until I was 25weeks and showed him a scan of her sucking her thumb. My OH took about a week then was excited and supportive.
I'm here to talk if you need too good luck!

 

[haydenmummy]

Heyyaa
I'm Hillary 19 I have a 3 an half year old lil boy and a 4 day old little girl congrats on the baby!

When I told my OH I was pregnant with my son he was shocked and said it was up to me and he would surport me all the way I was very scared as I was only 15 and it was the start of my last yeaof school. I kept baby obv and it was the best decition I have ever made and the bedt thing iv done in my life. My OH was the one who told me I was pregnant with my second lol he just had a feeling I was and then we found out I was hehe.

My mum was shocked but she said its my life and if I'm old enough to have sex I'm old enough to deal with the out come it took he couple days but was very surportive and was there for his birth as well. My dad was fine and never offy with me or anything sadly my mum passed away last year so obv she never got to meet my daughter but I know she is with us all the way xx

 

[YoungMummy112]

Hello, congratulations! My names Jodie I'm 16 and have a 10 month old little boy.
When my OH first found out he said he'll stick by me no matter what and it's my choice but when we argued he changed his mind on that.. However now my LO here he's really good with him and stuck by me! My mum was a little dissaoponted but she came round; I think it was seeing him that made her come round, my dad was very disappointed in me and didn't speak to me for about two month but when he did finally meet my LO he fell
In love with him and he's been extremely supportive ever since! I hope everything goes okay for you and I hope your mum takes the news well! I'm sure she will, she might need time to come round though; good luck!! xx

 

[divershona]

Hi! :wave:

firstly congratulations!

I'm Shona, 21, and i have a 2 year old little girl and i'm about 7 weeks pregnant with my 2nd

When i first told my parents that i was pregnant with my daughter my dad was great and really supportive and my mum well lets just say she wasn't happy and didn't talk to me for about 3 months !!!!! but they were both there for me in the end and I wouldn't change a thing now. FOB wasn't supportive at all in the beginning, he told me to get an A but after a few weeks he did come around and said he'd be there for me and the baby, but it didn't work out between us in the end. He is now an active part in my daughter's life too and says he's so glad that i didn't do what he said!

My OH now is really supportive of this pregnancy and couldn't be happier we haven't told our families yet as we are waiting until after the first scan so that we know that everything is ok as i had a miscarriage last year. they will probably be shocked and a bit disappointed but hey its our lives and i'm confident that they will come around to the idea

 

[JessicaaJadex]

Thank you so much, means everything to me to know people are actually understanding of the whole situation without pre-judging.

So I told my mum this morning, and obviously she was shocked at first, but she was so supportive that I actually cried in my lecture! She said that she will be there for me, asked me what I wanted to do and told me that we will have a discussion later on this evening about what's going to happen. She was pregnant at 19, but later lost the baby, so she knows what I'm going through.

My OH hasn't said any more about this whole thing, and I don't think he realises this is serious. I daren't tell my dad, he's so strict on me and wants me to be successful at college. I think I'll let my mum deal with him. He doesn't live with us, and I only see him once every few weeks so hopefully that will give him enough time to think it through.

I'm in my last year at college, and being pregnant is taking its toll on me already, with all the nausea and being exhausted all the time, so I don't know how I'm going to cope. Does any one else struggle to focus at school?

Ps. I hope everyone has a happy and healthy 9 months too! xxxx

 

[bsd]

I'm glad she was so supportive!! That's really awesome and it'll help A LOT! as for your dad, try not to listen to the negativity. You can still go to school with a baby so tell him you're college plans aren't over! I'm not going to lie though school will be a lot tougher.. the baby will be constantly on your mind (at least mine was the first month or two of pregnancy) and you will be tired/losing focus/ and maybe even sick. But you can do it! Just keep looking forward to the end result, which would be graduating and getting a good education for your LO!
As for your OH, give him time. He'll come around eventually, he's probably in a lot of shock right now! Once he realizes this is happening no matter what, he might come around completely! Guys are weird when it comes to bonding with the baby, some bond right away like woman do, and others have to literally SEE it to really believe it I guess! For example when you get your first ultrasound or when you start showing... I hope he comes around for you!

 

[YoungMummy112]

I'm currently attending my final year in high school with my baby! It's very tough and tiring espcecially when you've been up all night and in school at 9 but it's managable and it's do-able!! You'll be okay whatever you do; now even more so since you have your mum there, as for your dad? My dad was the same, but since he finally came around I see him every week! xxx

 

[JessicaaJadex]

I'm so glad I have my mum there to support me, I don't know what I would do without her.

Well I have a meeting with my college tutor this afternoon, I guess that would be a good time to tell them why I've missed so much college recently. It's so hard to keep up with the work, especially with the loss of my nan a few months ago which has put me behind big time already. Hopefully they'll give me some sort of guidance to what options I have.

I think it's amazing that you are both able to carry on with school, especially with a LO already. I don't want to drop out, and I WILL keep going no matter what. Thank you so much for your replies, it feels great to talk to girls in the same situation

Xxx