thesockqueen
3rd Trimester
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Hey, newbie here and well this is my story. I'm 20 and 18 weeks pregnant. The father is 18 and a half (I know, stupid me). We embarked on something of a whirwind romance back in March, it only lasted a couple of months but it was really intense. Anyway he decided we should go 'on a break' after a stupid drunken row one night and in that time I discovered I was pregnant. All the relationship stuff got put on hold while we decided what to do about it. It was then that his true colours really showed through. He decided that he thought I should have an abortion after speaking to a couple of his friends, and then made false promises of us getting back together if I went through with the abortion. I had a lot of pressure from family and 'friends' to do it as well, everyone seemed to think it was in my best interests. It literally did get to the point where I was lying on the abortionists table about to go through with it when I jumped off, burst into tears and ran out of the clinic. I'm so glad I changed my mind, I know I would have regretted it for the rest of my life. It was only afterwards that the father decided to tell me about his new girlfriend. I was dumbstruck..how could anyone do anything so cruel? For the sake of our child we have decided to stay quite good friends and he will play an active part in his child's life.
I recently entered a rather ill thought out relationship with a guy who had just split up with his pregnant girlfriend. It was brief, which in hindsight was probably a good thing. It was just like history repeating itself. He promised me his heart and so much more, with no intention of following his promises through. This time I was wise to it though, and told him I did not want to rush things, and while I was upset when he went back to his ex as I suspected he would, I was more upset with myself for doing something so stupid. I guess I felt vulnerable and lonely and thought that the companionship with someone who kind of knows what I'm going through would help, but it only made things worse. I became his shoulder to cry on regarding his ex. He confided in me his fears of another man taking over his job as a father and his fears of how he was going to provide for his child. After a few weeks he became distant, but would lie and say he was fine (what my ex did before we broke up). The mother in question is something of a loose cannon. She used emotional blackmail and a suicide attempt to win him back. I guess the fact that it worked showed a defining weakness in his character, and looking back on the past few weeks I'm almost glad he went back to her, because their problems were just something I wanted nothing to do with.
I'm at a point now where I just wish I had someone to talk to. All of my friends seem to have kind of 'got over' all of this and aren't really interested anymore. Some of them even seem to be hiding (badly) the fact that they find it all boring/irritating/annoying etc. I know they all have their own lives to lead and while I'm not jealous of the fact that I can't live like a rockstar anymore, I feel a little betrayed in a way. I know all I need is courage to stand up and go it all alone, but it is a scary thought. Plus my self esteem has been shot to pieces by these guys, that I feel like all I am to men is a target for abuse. Not to mention all the normal fears of how I'll measure up as a mother. So yeah, just 15 minutes of someone's time would be really nice right now
. I'm rubbish at giving advice as I'm the worst role model for it, but I'll always listen. Thanks, Anna xxx
I recently entered a rather ill thought out relationship with a guy who had just split up with his pregnant girlfriend. It was brief, which in hindsight was probably a good thing. It was just like history repeating itself. He promised me his heart and so much more, with no intention of following his promises through. This time I was wise to it though, and told him I did not want to rush things, and while I was upset when he went back to his ex as I suspected he would, I was more upset with myself for doing something so stupid. I guess I felt vulnerable and lonely and thought that the companionship with someone who kind of knows what I'm going through would help, but it only made things worse. I became his shoulder to cry on regarding his ex. He confided in me his fears of another man taking over his job as a father and his fears of how he was going to provide for his child. After a few weeks he became distant, but would lie and say he was fine (what my ex did before we broke up). The mother in question is something of a loose cannon. She used emotional blackmail and a suicide attempt to win him back. I guess the fact that it worked showed a defining weakness in his character, and looking back on the past few weeks I'm almost glad he went back to her, because their problems were just something I wanted nothing to do with.
I'm at a point now where I just wish I had someone to talk to. All of my friends seem to have kind of 'got over' all of this and aren't really interested anymore. Some of them even seem to be hiding (badly) the fact that they find it all boring/irritating/annoying etc. I know they all have their own lives to lead and while I'm not jealous of the fact that I can't live like a rockstar anymore, I feel a little betrayed in a way. I know all I need is courage to stand up and go it all alone, but it is a scary thought. Plus my self esteem has been shot to pieces by these guys, that I feel like all I am to men is a target for abuse. Not to mention all the normal fears of how I'll measure up as a mother. So yeah, just 15 minutes of someone's time would be really nice right now
. I'm rubbish at giving advice as I'm the worst role model for it, but I'll always listen. Thanks, Anna xxx
