Newly Single and feeling very alone

[bee1724]

been engaged for 2 to 3 years rollercoaster realtionship have a bbay together 6 months old but my fiance started putting his hands on me and i left him moved out and got a restraining me or baby havent seen him since its been 3 months and i feel soo alone im missing him very much and i feel like no one else guys have nothing in commin with like no one else like him i just dont know what to do i just want to find him cry and hold him tight but afraid to give him chance i gave him soo many chhances already to change he out his hands on me addicted to porn lied and never stopped any advice to make it seem easier its so hard being alone especially after 3 years of living with him

 

[Shezza84uk]

It is hard to be alone but a child being in an environment with domestic violence is not the greatest either you must put the safety of yourself and your child first. It is hard but in time you can meet someone new who will cherish you not leave scars and emotional pain behind.

 

[bee1724]

It is hard to be alone but a child being in an environment with domestic violence is not the greatest either you must put the safety of yourself and your child first. It is hard but in time you can meet someone new who will cherish you not leave scars and emotional pain behind.

thanks im just scared that one day my son will blame me for not having a relationship with his dad because i kickd him out of our lives and no contact due to my order of protection. I dont want him to hate me for me being the reason he isnt seeing his dad because i know his dad misses him i want to let him see the baby but hes always threatened that if i left him he woulld take my son our baby and run with him. but dont want my son to grow up hating me for this i just dont know how ill explain one day but i also dont want to tell him bad things about his father either

 

[bee1724]

It is hard to be alone but a child being in an environment with domestic violence is not the greatest either you must put the safety of yourself and your child first. It is hard but in time you can meet someone new who will cherish you not leave scars and emotional pain behind.

Its been so hard for me to deal with Im in love with his father i never been unfaithful towards him in anyway I had always out him first and being a coimmitted housewife for so long and now having no body not him around has been such a hard change to adjust to no one to talk to i dont have a big family and only like 3 real friends its hard i feel lonely no one to cook for to show real romance and passion for im soo alone (

 

[Dezireey]

Unfortunately a man that crosses that boundary of hitting a woman when he is angry finds it hard to go back to being less restrained. Thats why so many women leave abusive men, they give them many, many chances but they never change. If it were that easy or 'normal' for men to hit women, they would all be doing it but they don't because they don't cross that line and never will. Your ex is capable of hitting your child, do you really want your baby around someone like that? Who cannot restrain himself? Sorry to be blunt but what if you left your baby alone with him and he shook them? This happens. I know you miss him and want him but you now have to put your own emotional needs aside for the greater good of your baby. You have taken the first step and actually left him, so you are stronger than you think. But don't go down that slippery path other women do and keep forgiving and keep going back to an abusive man. Be super strong, put your feelings for him aside and think with your head now, not your heart. He is dangerous and should not be around you or a 6 month old. Let your child decide when they are strong and maybe an adult to have a relationship with their Dad. Staying with or going back to a physically abusive man just because you still love him is not a good reason, especially when you have a child.

Keep strong, you can do it. hugs xxx

 

[blamesydney]

If he his you, especially with a child around, don't ever go back, your child does not need that sort of influence in it's life.