Im 20 and Im currently pregnant. Recently I caught my ex boyfriend who is the father of the baby cheating on me with a girl he works with when I questioned him about the messages (which is how I found out he was cheating me) he yanked the phone out of my hand and gave me scratch on my hand and got into my face and pushed me and told me that I was kicked out. I never called the cops (stupid me) because he actually put his hands on me and I was so worried about the babys stuff because to me that was way more important. Now a week later I went to get my stuff because he messaged me about getting my stuff and said I needed to get my stuff out so I went with my sister and her friend I went to get it he pushed me yet again in front of them and he called the cops and he told them that I pushed him even though I didnt. No one was arrested they just sat there and watched me and everyone else get my stuff out of his place. HE SHOULD NOT BE INVOLVED IN THIS CHILDS LIFE HE TOUCHED ME AND I DO NOT TRUST HIM AROUND THIS CHILD WHEN IT IS BORN! I think he is trying to make me look like a bad person and cant take care of a child. Even though I was the one who bought everything for the child and he bought nothing. He also cant take care of himself. His place is always trashed and full garbage when Im not living with him. I do not work and Im a full time student and Im trying so hard to get a job but cant find anything. Im seeing a counselor and I know Im young so I know need to talk to someone about the situation that has happened. I really think he will try to get custody of the child when the baby is born and Im living with my parents. He is also going to stores and flaunting around with the girl too. Which breaks my heart so much. I have no idea how I'm going to get through this.
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Newly single mother and my story
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Laura2919
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I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. 
He doesn't sound like a nice person at all! Your child is better off without him if thats his behaviour!
There are lots of young ladies/men on here that can help you when your feeling all the feelings you do.
I'm 25 so I still class myself as young
He doesn't sound like a nice person at all! Your child is better off without him if thats his behaviour! There are lots of young ladies/men on here that can help you when your feeling all the feelings you do.
I'm 25 so I still class myself as young
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Yeah I'm 25 and class myself as young too! Hehe!!
Your story is very similar to a lot of ladies on here!
We're a good bunch and can really relate to how you're feeling.
Carrying on seeing your counsellor, that helps! Put all your focus on to your pregnancy. Make a scrap book, window shop, sort LOs nursery (this really helped me).
Either speak to friends about FOB though some people find not mentioning him easier. I liked to talk and hear people confirm what an idiot he is and get their opinion on things.
Prepare yourself and get yourself ready to be a mother!!!!
My doctor said this and it's so true - someone else is dependent on us now
People say it takes time - I hated this and thought it would never get better also people said that when LO is here i'd feel better.
This is true - for me anyway. I still feel down sometimes and I know I'll have some bad days but the rawness of everything has almost gone. I tried, he left and I now have gained acceptance which is the key to moving on.
Once you have acceptance of his actions and that you won't be the "family unit" you wanted then I promise it does get easier.
Does he want to be part of LOs life?
Chin up Hun - big hugs
Xxxxxx
Your story is very similar to a lot of ladies on here!
We're a good bunch and can really relate to how you're feeling.
Carrying on seeing your counsellor, that helps! Put all your focus on to your pregnancy. Make a scrap book, window shop, sort LOs nursery (this really helped me).
Either speak to friends about FOB though some people find not mentioning him easier. I liked to talk and hear people confirm what an idiot he is and get their opinion on things.
Prepare yourself and get yourself ready to be a mother!!!!
My doctor said this and it's so true - someone else is dependent on us now
People say it takes time - I hated this and thought it would never get better also people said that when LO is here i'd feel better.
This is true - for me anyway. I still feel down sometimes and I know I'll have some bad days but the rawness of everything has almost gone. I tried, he left and I now have gained acceptance which is the key to moving on.
Once you have acceptance of his actions and that you won't be the "family unit" you wanted then I promise it does get easier.
Does he want to be part of LOs life?
Chin up Hun - big hugs
Xxxxxx
Laura2919
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Yeah I'm 25 and class myself as young too! Hehe!!
Your story is very similar to a lot of ladies on here!
We're a good bunch and can really relate to how you're feeling.
Carrying on seeing your counsellor, that helps! Put all your focus on to your pregnancy. Make a scrap book, window shop, sort LOs nursery (this really helped me).
Either speak to friends about FOB though some people find not mentioning him easier. I liked to talk and hear people confirm what an idiot he is and get their opinion on things.
Prepare yourself and get yourself ready to be a mother!!!!
My doctor said this and it's so true - someone else is dependent on us now
People say it takes time - I hated this and thought it would never get better also people said that when LO is here i'd feel better.
This is true - for me anyway. I still feel down sometimes and I know I'll have some bad days but the rawness of everything has almost gone. I tried, he left and I now have gained acceptance which is the key to moving on.
Once you have acceptance of his actions and that you won't be the "family unit" you wanted then I promise it does get easier.
Does he want to be part of LOs life?
Chin up Hun - big hugs
Xxxxxx
I'd like to be 26 and stay 26 I think its a good age..
I remember being 21 and thinking I was a grown up.. Blimey if I could see me now back then.. I'd have laughed myself into a coma
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can you just not put him on the birth certificate?....in UK if your do that he wouldnt have a leg to stand on if he tried to take baby off you but dont know if is same where you live
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Hey, mine was a planned pregnancy, and then he accused me of cheating and kicked me out. Although it's a different situation, I'm having the same fears right now, with him coming in and just taking LO from me. Unfortunately custody can't be sorted until LO is born, until then it takes some time to sort out your anger over the break up. It just seems so unfair, like, you did nothing wrong and are getting all the blame. It's infuriating. I felt insane not working/having a place so I moved, got a job ASAP, enrolled in school and set up all my finances for the next two years lol. I've kept busy, but my friend came over, (we're friends with benefits, and by benefits I mean we cuddle then never tell anyone we need a cuddle occasionally to feel better HAHA) I was just so annoyed, because he gave me a back rub, and it just felt unfair to him. Sperm donour should be the one dealing with my back ache, and listening to me whine, but instead he's whining to everyone about how terrible I am. It's been 11 weeks since he left, and I'm getting used to it. Keep busy, be productive, and focus on when your appointments are. 
Hey, mine was a planned pregnancy, and then he accused me of cheating and kicked me out. Although it's a different situation, I'm having the same fears right now, with him coming in and just taking LO from me. Unfortunately custody can't be sorted until LO is born, until then it takes some time to sort out your anger over the break up. It just seems so unfair, like, you did nothing wrong and are getting all the blame. It's infuriating. I felt insane not working/having a place so I moved, got a job ASAP, enrolled in school and set up all my finances for the next two years lol. I've kept busy, but my friend came over, (we're friends with benefits, and by benefits I mean we cuddle then never tell anyone we need a cuddle occasionally to feel better HAHA) I was just so annoyed, because he gave me a back rub, and it just felt unfair to him. Sperm donour should be the one dealing with my back ache, and listening to me whine, but instead he's whining to everyone about how terrible I am. It's been 11 weeks since he left, and I'm getting used to it. Keep busy, be productive, and focus on when your appointments are.
My boyfriend try to accuse me of cheating and then I found out he was cheating on me. So I think it just shows how paranoid he was and I'm glad I found out sooner its a wake up call for me to do what I need to do. I'm trying to get a job even before this whole situation but now it makes me want get one even more. I know one day he will try to come crawling back and I will get the total pleasure of telling him off. I'm that yours was a planned pregnancy because it makes it harder to move one. I've been trying to keep busy myself.
Even if you don't put the father on the birth certificate he can still fight for custody. Which is total crap in my opinion because he doesn't stick through the pregnancy why should he get to part of the baby's life.
Yeah I'm 25 and class myself as young too! Hehe!!
Your story is very similar to a lot of ladies on here!
We're a good bunch and can really relate to how you're feeling.
Carrying on seeing your counsellor, that helps! Put all your focus on to your pregnancy. Make a scrap book, window shop, sort LOs nursery (this really helped me).
Either speak to friends about FOB though some people find not mentioning him easier. I liked to talk and hear people confirm what an idiot he is and get their opinion on things.
Prepare yourself and get yourself ready to be a mother!!!!
My doctor said this and it's so true - someone else is dependent on us now
People say it takes time - I hated this and thought it would never get better also people said that when LO is here i'd feel better.
This is true - for me anyway. I still feel down sometimes and I know I'll have some bad days but the rawness of everything has almost gone. I tried, he left and I now have gained acceptance which is the key to moving on.
Once you have acceptance of his actions and that you won't be the "family unit" you wanted then I promise it does get easier.
Does he want to be part of LOs life?
Chin up Hun - big hugs
Xxxxxx
He claimed to me that he did but he has yet to even show it. At first I was willing let him be part of it's life but then he has not even asked me about getting anything or giving me money
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Most of us on here are single mums, but there's a few single guys that'll pop their head in occasionally, maybe put it in the title looking for a dad's reply? In canada even if they're not on the BC they can still fight for custody.
Which is total crap why should they be part of their child's life when they are not willing to be part of the pregnancy which is just as important as what happens after the birth.
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hang in there and dont stress it bad for baby. it is bull i completly agree but i also understand why they do it. some dads the baby isnt real until its actually here. For right now thou look into getting a will into place, and start doing research on what the court process is like where you are.
mommaalexis is right though even with out there name on the birth ceritifcate they can get rights, but i suggest if you plan on pursuing child support that you do put his name on because it actually makes that part easier and then hell have to pay for the paternity test should he say the childs not his and not you.
mommaalexis is right though even with out there name on the birth ceritifcate they can get rights, but i suggest if you plan on pursuing child support that you do put his name on because it actually makes that part easier and then hell have to pay for the paternity test should he say the childs not his and not you.
You deserve so much better
About the birth certificate, I know it changes on where you are. Where I am, if you're not married, the father has to be present when registering the birth tp be on the birth certificate.
My ex is not on the birth certificate and I do not claim maintenance xx
About the birth certificate, I know it changes on where you are. Where I am, if you're not married, the father has to be present when registering the birth tp be on the birth certificate.
My ex is not on the birth certificate and I do not claim maintenance xx
You deserve so much better
About the birth certificate, I know it changes on where you are. Where I am, if you're not married, the father has to be present when registering the birth tp be on the birth certificate.
My ex is not on the birth certificate and I do not claim maintenance xx
I was thinking about doing the same thing. I don't want any child support from him. He might actually think he is helping when he is not at all. I just want to move on and try to make my life better.
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