Newly Single Mum- To -Be, need support

[ND91]

Hi I'm due to have a baby boy 16/07/2014.

Problems started to arise a week ago when he decided to tell me he wasn't ready to move in together. After an initial panic, I said fine, we'll continue to get to know each other, go on date nights etc.

Now after a lovely week, he then tells me he needs some time by himself as he thinks it's all moved too quickly, he doesn't get to be on his own anymore as we see each other every night and feels like he hardly sees his friends anymore (even though he's out every weekend spending money on drinking -instead of baby things like me)

It got me really down (I have suffered from anxiety and depression in the past) and thought really bad things, felt distressed and like I couldn't cope (without him, not being a single mother). I can't carry on feeling like this so just need to keep my head held high & build up my own support network as he's clearly unreliable.

I just don't like feeling so hopeless and vulnerable.

Anyone there for support I would appreciate it a lot.

 

[stephanie1990]

Im here for you hun

im newly single. Probably about 3-4 weeks now. The difference with me is that me and ex was together for 4 years and have a 20 month old and a 5 month old. My ex just couldn't do anything for me. He quit his job. Never looked for another one. Would never gi out the house apart from signing on. He never felt like my partner. I craved the attention from him.

The main thing is to get a good support network.
I dont have many friends. I have one good friend but I do have a great family
you have to think of your baby and what is best. It will be hard with a new baby trust me just remember your support network. When things are tough ask for help and dont be ashamed of that.

Im sorry I cant be that much help. Im still new to this. Xxx

 

[chelsnap]

I'm sorry you're going through this but I do know exactly how you feel. My ex and I broke up when I was 32 weeks pregnant (it was an unexpected pregnancy)... my daughter is now 5 months old. I was so terrified knowing that I was going to be a single mother and like stephanie1990 said, a good support network is the most important thing! Being a parent is hard work but trust me when I tell you, it's the most rewarding thing you will ever do!