Newly single mummy of soon-to-be 2 under 1!

[belle254]

Hi there
Never been on this part of the forum before so thought id introduce myself and hopefully meet some nice new people to talk to!
My names Annie, I'm 22 and have a gorgeous daughter called Evelyn who's 8 1/2 months. Shes not crawling yet but is very vocal, sleeps well and is eating practically what the rest of the family are eating. Her brother is due in July, just before her first birthday (Evie was planned but no2 was ntnp). I have been with their dad 7 years, since we were both very young, and last week decided I'd had enough and asked him to leave. He's since moved out to his mums and were struggling though the early stages of sorting out belongings, post, and most important, contact with Evie. It's not nice

I'm bored so just some history :
I am currently a stay at home mum and decided not to go back to work as a nursery nurse as there was no point, and I can't afford to put two children in nursery even if I wanted to! Currently live with my mum, who's lovely, but hopefully moving in the next few months once a suitable, local place comes up. Evie was born at home (5.5 hour labour!) and delivered by my mum, who's a midwife. Aiming for the same this time too. In regards to my oh, I do still love him, but we have spent the last year struggling over money (he refused to work more than 19 hours a week at his current job and I never saw any of it, neither did Evie), didn't help round the house and was generally unco-operative and lazy. This pregnancy took the biscuit, as i struggled with morning sickness this time, night feeds, and not really wanting anyone near me physiclly (in that way!) which he just didnt understand, or didnt want to. My family were getting sick of it and so was I, so finally, I took the plunge and told him if he wouldn't change and grow up, he was out. So he left. He is still currently sulking, but im hoping things will be amicable in the future.

I am looking forward to the next few months with Evie and then with her and her brother, I know it will be hard but trying to keep a positive head on things I.e. spending all my doing things out and about with Evie and researching double prams...
Anyone else a single young mum to one or more children?
Sorry for the essay! xxxx

 

[Shezza84uk]

Hi Annie, sorry you had to join us here but thankfully you have a great support system. It would appear you OH is simply immature I hope he will realise he is losing his family and get his act together sometimes they just need a little push. Fingers crossed it all works out well XX

 

[belle254]

Thank you Shezza! That's what everyone keeps saying and I hope you're right. Part of me still loves him but I'm not prepared to act like a single mum when in fact I'm supposed to have a partner. He's going to have to grow up a lot if he wants to live with us again.
Luckily I have our beautiful daughter to keep my mind off things! xx

 

[daneuse27]

Yay another cloth diapering single mummy! youre doing great Im single as well, and my daughter is 7 months old. Congrats on your little boy xx

 

[belle254]

Thank you cloth nappies have got slightly difficult do to the fact that after I've changed her bum she cries when I leave the room to put these dirty ones in the bucket... But hey ho it's much cheaper eh! xx

 

[daneuse27]

For me the biggest issue is her rolling. As soon as I take the poopy diaper off, she wants to roll onto her tummy and crawl away which would make a huge mess. :/
Do you use a change table with the strap so she can be held there? I usually put the dirty diaper aside while I clean her up and then put it into the wash after..