Next time you rant...

[broody_mama]

Just had one of my mates ranting at me about how hard she finds it looking after her lil girl (1 year old) and how tired she is all the time, how she feels like she has no social life, etc etc.

I wanted to grab her by the shoulders and shake her! Fancied telling her, next time she is getting breakfast in bed, an evening in the bath with bubbles and a nice cuppa, going shopping on her own, spending 5 mins without a child attatched to her hip because her bloke has their daughter...relish it.

Then while you moan about how tired you are, you stink of baby sick, you have bags under your eyes after one night of not sleeping, your clothes haven't been ironed in a week, your hair is greasy, you have no time to do your make up...THINK OF US FECKERS WHO DO IT DAY IN DAY OUT WITH NO BLOODY HELP!!!

Sorry if it seems harsh but some people who has partners who help them with ONE child, sitting there moaning to me, when they know I'm exhausted while sat here looking after TWO ON MY OWN.

Sorry for ranting. Just feel so drained

 

[gemabee]

i understand why ur drained nd rantin hun...
so big hugs for that hun.
but... each situation is relative... it will be hard for ur friend... she will be tired... she will have no social life!
its probably harder for u... but that doesn't mean its not hard for her.
if she wants to rant to u... fine... then next time u feel the need to rant... rant at her... thats what friends are for
x

 

[expecting09]

I feel like this ALL the time. My friend told me the other day she felt asthough she was a single mum because her OH worked full-time?!?! Does my head in too

 

[teal]

I can appreciate how you feel too. My sister was complaining about her inlaws fussing too much over her son and said to me I should be grateful I don't have to deal with any. Spent a good twenty minutes crying about it when she left! xx

 

[broody_mama]

"but... each situation is relative... it will be hard for ur friend... she will be tired... she will have no social life!"

That's the thing...it wouldn't bother me so much, but she goes out every other weekend on the piss and then tells me alllll about it! I've tried talking to her about it and she says "Oooh sorry, forgot!" and I generally have to shut my gob about it. She "forgets" every other week!

Plus I FINALLY came on today, after about 3 weeks waiting for it and it's sooooo painful my back hurts, my stomach is cramping beyond belief and I just want to go curl up and sleep till it's gone

 

[embo216]

I know exactly what you mean!!!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I only have 1 but I do find myself wanting to shake people who go on about how hard it is looking after a baby when they have a partner who can help out, cook dinner, bath them while you tidy up etc. I know everyone is entitled to moan because looking after a baby is hard for everyone. But spare a thought for the single mummies that don't have a helping hand!

 

[FBbaby]

I know what you mean to, I have a colleague who left me in state of shock at her moaning. She worked three days a week when I worked 5, she had a lovely partner working from home so was very much there to help, I had an ex who put me through hel and never did anything to help with the kids but having them a few hours on Saturday. She had one little girl, I had a young girl and baby boy. She had her mother to look after her little girl anytime she needed help, day or evenings, as well as her mother in law, I had no family locally, she lived in a beautiful huge house, I battled like mad to save my three bedroom semi, she had a cleaner and gardener, I spent my saturdays on my own doing it all, I could go on....yet, she spent all her time moaning how stress she was because of work (caused by her desperation to kiss ass), and how pressured she was at home to make everything perfect, and if you can believe it, she went off for depression for 6 months fully paid, and expected me to understand how hard it was for her, when I didn't miss even one day after my separation when I had the bailliffs at the door because of my ex's debts and desperately fighting to keep the house, in addition to the stress of potentially being made redundant...

Some people are just way to consume by their misery to take a look at themselves for one second and realise how fortunate they are. What kept me from telling what i really thought was that I knew deep inside, I always remained happier than her, and in the end, that's all that mattered.

 

[alexisandmias]

I totally feel you! I hate it the most when FOB tells me how tired his is and needs to drop the oldest off early. Seriously? ARe you up pumping at 2 am, nursing a 2 month old at 4 am, and then having a 6 year old come in your bed at 5 am? No? Oh that is right you are out drinking all night.

 

[lal]

I totally feel you! I hate it the most when FOB tells me how tired his is and needs to drop the oldest off early. Seriously? ARe you up pumping at 2 am, nursing a 2 month old at 4 am, and then having a 6 year old come in your bed at 5 am? No? Oh that is right you are out drinking all night.

hahaha, agreed! Drinking and partying (and flirting with young girls for my FOB) all of the time must be exhausting...what worthless lives they lead.

 

[broody_mama]

I totally feel you! I hate it the most when FOB tells me how tired his is and needs to drop the oldest off early. Seriously? ARe you up pumping at 2 am, nursing a 2 month old at 4 am, and then having a 6 year old come in your bed at 5 am? No? Oh that is right you are out drinking all night.

hahaha, agreed! Drinking and partying (and flirting with young girls for my FOB) all of the time must be exhausting...what worthless lives they lead.

Haha the best one is, the FOB in my case (same guy both kids...) he moans he is tired and the bird he got knocked up (while I was preg with his daughter!!!) is doing his head in, and he can't have his kids the next couple of months cos she is gona be due and they will be tired.

Big frigging whoop!!! I was looking after OUR son, while preganant, moved twice, had OUR daughter and still looked after OUR son...ON MY OWN!!!

RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

And that stupid girl moans about how she is going to be tired all the time, how hard it's gona be. Well maybe you should have thought of that before opening your legs and sleeping with someone who was so drunk he doesn't even recall the couple of weeks!!!

Sorry if that offends anyone, it isn't meant to. Obviously it takes two to tango but she knew the deal when she jumped in and she ruined any chance of a reconciliation. RAAAR.