NHS - slow progress or what?!

[kylie30]

Hey there just had to vent, we have been ttc for almost 2 years now. In Oct 2010 I spoke to my GP and we got SA and blood tests done for referral to fertility clinic. First appointment with fertility clinic was mid May 2011, husband had second SA a week later (all ok) and since then we have heard nothing! Rang today and was told we could have an appointment in Sept, although I don't think I would have got an appointment that soon or at all if I hadn't rung up! Very strange, has anyone else had experience of this?

What prompted me to ring was that I've had a really tough month this month, the whole thing has just really been getting to me and I can't get it out of my head. I actually feel properly depressed, like I just can't shake it off this time. So I rang a fertility counselling service to see if I could set something up and on the phone they were asking what treatment we were getting and I was like 'nothing' and they seemed a bit suprised that I didn't know what was going on. Surely more should be happening by now? At this rate I'll be ancient by the time someone figures out whats wrong with me!!

 

[mg80]

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[mg80]

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[kylie30]

Hey MrsG, thanks for your post. I had recently looked into a private appointment but it was 400 quid so I thought I would pester the NHS a bit more before I went down that road! I think I will see what they tell me at the next appointment in September, its probably my own fault for not being more proactive, but that stems from me trying not to be too obsessed with the whole thing (and assuming that they would contact me!).

I think the pill has a lot to answer for, I'm sorry I didn't stop taking it sooner. Initally when I first started seeking help re: ttc my periods were all over the place, recently they have been like clock work every 28 days so I am hoping that maybe I am finally getting back to normal although still no success!

My first fs appt was a disaster, first day of my period, awful day at work (v stressful job) so I was all over the place and didn't ask any of the questions I meant to ie. how long is the waiting list, what is the next step etc! So next time I am going to write it down before I go so I don't get side tracked!

Am waiting for an appointment with the counselling service so until then this forum will have to do (it has been great so far to be fair!). I just feel like I am starting not to cope very well, and while I'm normally a strong/upbeat sort of person I just don't feel like myself anymore. I am hoping that talking about it to someone who understands this sort of thing might get me back on an even keel again. OH is understanding but there is a limit to how much he wants to talk about it, also it is all very disappointing for him too so I feel I have to be strong for both of us.

Sorry you've been having a bad month, I think it is hard to get that balance every month of relaxing enough and trying to be hopeful vs not getting your hopes up too much. It is just an emotional rollercoaster.

 

[cooch]

This is how me and hubby feel. Totally betrayed by NHS. The amount of tax we pay between us and when we finally need help with something we have to wait a ridiculous amount of time. Its disgusting.

 

[SmileyKez]

Sounds like you have had a pretty crap time with the nhs, my experience couldnt be more different, I went to my gp in June last year, had 2 day 21 tests and when they showed i hadnt ov I was referred to a fs, got and appt there within about 6/8 weeks, was put straight on clomid and after 6 months when that didn't work I got a letter for my Hsg within about 2 weeks!
Whilst we are very lucky to have the nhs, I do think it's a shame that it's such a postcode lottery, where you live and who your pct is shouldnt matter and everyone should get the same treatment and have the same waiting times!

 

[mg80]

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