Flick
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I went to the doctor today and he said he couldn't see why he should refer me for an 8 week scan if I'd had no cramps or bleeding... * Which makes sense, apart from when I miscarried last year a nurse had told me to ask for one, since studies had shown it reduced the chance of miscarriage for the mother to see the heartbeat.
I really don't want to waste NHS resources, so I'm happy to wait til 12 weeks... I think... or is that me caving in too easily?
*edit: I did have 2 days of slight brown discharge last week, but it's stopped and no cramping.
[the rest of this post is more to get stuff off my chest than anything, so feel free to skip it
]
The (much) longer story to the appointment is, that I live equidistant from two hospitals. Last year I was assigned to one for my midwifery, but I went to the other when I miscarried in September 09 (it's a larger hospital).
I phoned the original midwifery yesterday, and was told that I could only get an early scan there if I was refered by my doctor.
So I went to the doctor today, and initially he said that he was happy to refer me. He started filling out forms. He asked me when my last period was. I said August 6th. He looked at me weirdly, and asked when I miscarried. I said last September. He asked me again when my last period was... well it took about 5 minutes for him to realise I did not miscarry this month but last year. (!) So that was weird.
Anyway, then he said he had an info pack for me. I said, oh that's new I didn't get one last year.
Which is where it started going weird, because he asked which midwife I'd gone to last year. I told him, and said that I'd already phoned them yesterday, and he said 'oh that's not the one I've done the forms for. I don't need to do any forms for them, you just phone them up'.
I said, well they told me that you have to do a referal. And he said; well I don't have any forms for them.
I insisted they'd said I needed a referal for an 8week scan
At which point, he phoned them up to confirm, and while he was on the phone to them, said "Actually I don't know why she would need a scan if she's had no cramps or bleeding". and the nurse on the other end said "Oh well it's just for reassurance really"
At which point, he said well if there's no cramps or bleeding then he wouldn't make a referal.
I said, well I had no cramps or bleeding with the last miscarriage, until 2 days before it happened.
And he just shrugged at me and said well every pregnancy is different.
Which is sort of fair enough, but I just feel a bit anxious that perhaps I should have been a bit firmer or something? Or should I just stop worrying? I mean, i know no one can predict the future and stuff; and honestly I also know that if something is going to go wrong it will and scans aren't going to change anything - quite probably... or..?
*sigh* well anyway I think I just needed to outpour a little - thanks for reading to the end if you got this far! xxx
I really don't want to waste NHS resources, so I'm happy to wait til 12 weeks... I think... or is that me caving in too easily?
*edit: I did have 2 days of slight brown discharge last week, but it's stopped and no cramping.
[the rest of this post is more to get stuff off my chest than anything, so feel free to skip it

The (much) longer story to the appointment is, that I live equidistant from two hospitals. Last year I was assigned to one for my midwifery, but I went to the other when I miscarried in September 09 (it's a larger hospital).
I phoned the original midwifery yesterday, and was told that I could only get an early scan there if I was refered by my doctor.
So I went to the doctor today, and initially he said that he was happy to refer me. He started filling out forms. He asked me when my last period was. I said August 6th. He looked at me weirdly, and asked when I miscarried. I said last September. He asked me again when my last period was... well it took about 5 minutes for him to realise I did not miscarry this month but last year. (!) So that was weird.
Anyway, then he said he had an info pack for me. I said, oh that's new I didn't get one last year.
Which is where it started going weird, because he asked which midwife I'd gone to last year. I told him, and said that I'd already phoned them yesterday, and he said 'oh that's not the one I've done the forms for. I don't need to do any forms for them, you just phone them up'.
I said, well they told me that you have to do a referal. And he said; well I don't have any forms for them.
I insisted they'd said I needed a referal for an 8week scan
At which point, he phoned them up to confirm, and while he was on the phone to them, said "Actually I don't know why she would need a scan if she's had no cramps or bleeding". and the nurse on the other end said "Oh well it's just for reassurance really"
At which point, he said well if there's no cramps or bleeding then he wouldn't make a referal.
I said, well I had no cramps or bleeding with the last miscarriage, until 2 days before it happened.
And he just shrugged at me and said well every pregnancy is different.
Which is sort of fair enough, but I just feel a bit anxious that perhaps I should have been a bit firmer or something? Or should I just stop worrying? I mean, i know no one can predict the future and stuff; and honestly I also know that if something is going to go wrong it will and scans aren't going to change anything - quite probably... or..?
*sigh* well anyway I think I just needed to outpour a little - thanks for reading to the end if you got this far! xxx