No suprise...

[Jaydasmama]

I am a mother of 2. my daughter is 2 1/2 my son is 6 days old..... they both have the same father..... he left the first time and I found out a month later that I was expecting our daughter. FOB was never around even when I had her. 6 months later I let him back in our lives. We lived an hour away from eachother by the time my daughter was 2 we relocated and moved in with him.... it was a risky move but I followed my heart. It was a bumpy road things wernt going all that great, verbal and physical abuse came about, I found out I was PG with my 2nd child... while at work one day I started to bleed and had him come get me and take me to the ER. we were dismissed and with test done everything seemed to be okay but i was told to take it easy no lifting and to get all the rest I could. with FOB being so Co-dependent i couldnt take it anymore, I needed more help and support. My daughter and I moved in with some friends, things were easier for me, a lot less stress! at 17 weeks my water broke and I was put on bed rest. with me not being able to work we relocated once again and moved in with my mother. I went 10 weeks with hardly any amniotic fluid at all and was told my 2 differnt specialist he wouldnt make it. FOB was calling every day saying he wanted to change, begging for us to come back and he would do everything needed to care and provide for us. I didnt give in. At 27 weeks I went into labor, had an emergency c section. baby came out and they were able to recesitate. my son is in NICU and I am staying by his side. my daughter is with my mother. this is the hardest thing i have ever had to go thru I wish I could have both of my babies FOB went to visit his sister this last weekend which is only 40 miles from where we are and never came to see his son... he called and told me he was going to but never showed. I got a calll today from a friend and he has been telling mutal friends that he came and saw the baby... SMH who does that!?!?!

 

[mum2b2012]

i dont really know what to say, this sounds awful. i really hope your little baby will be ok, sending all my love.
altho quite a bit different, im going thru a situation with my baby's dad, he cheated on me but weve managed to sort things out and i think we are getting back together but taking things slow (despite having a baby together!). he started telling people that i made him do things or would make it hard for him to see the baby, he did this to get out of the responsibility of making hard decisions. maybe your babys dad is doing the same thing by lying.

i dont feel like ive been much help but im here if you want to talk and i really hope everything works out for you xx

 

[jaytee146]

+ i'm going to keep you and your lo's in my thoughts and prayers! sorry this is so difficult for you

 

[jaytee146]

+ i'm going to keep you and your lo's in my thoughts and prayers! sorry this is so difficult for you

 

[Laura2919]

I am going to be keeping you in my thoughts too. I am a mother on NNU babies and it was hard enough for me and I didnt have any other children. I know you want to stay by your sons side but you need to see your daughter. Is there anyway your mum could bring her to the hospital (not sure what its like in USA, over here we are only allowed siblings in and no other young children)