Not a parent yet...

[mmmadill]

Well as the title says Im not exactly a parent yet. I am 25, 10 weeks pregnant and currently single and terrified. The guy I was with cheated on me and left me after I told him I was pregnant. I considered abortion but to be honest that isnt the right option for me. I just graduated from school 2 weeks ago and now Im starting to freak out a little. Im currently living in a 2 bdrm duplex with my roomate/bestfriend and am looking for a new place that is bigger, she is totally okay with living with a baby. Im working at a club temporarily until I am noticably pregnant, my employer doesnt know as of yet.
Im just at a loss for words, I dont know exactly where to go or what to do or even really where to ask for help so Im asking here. What do I do? What kind of things should I be looking into? How do I prepare myself for this?

xox

 

[resursval]

Well as the title says Im not exactly a parent yet. I am 25, 10 weeks pregnant and currently single and terrified. The guy I was with cheated on me and left me after I told him I was pregnant. I considered abortion but to be honest that isnt the right option for me. I just graduated from school 2 weeks ago and now Im starting to freak out a little. Im currently living in a 2 bdrm duplex with my roomate/bestfriend and am looking for a new place that is bigger, she is totally okay with living with a baby. Im working at a club temporarily until I am noticably pregnant, my employer doesnt know as of yet.
Im just at a loss for words, I dont know exactly where to go or what to do or even really where to ask for help so Im asking here. What do I do? What kind of things should I be looking into? How do I prepare myself for this?

xox

I was in the same situation like you but was pregnant in Sweden so sorry I cannot help you with the practical bit.
But just wanted to say that you are not alone to have gone through this and you are stronger than you think, much stronger.
Hopefully someone in UK will answer and help you with the practical bit x

 

[mmmadill]

Im actually in canada... Thought this was a canadian board but oh well.

Not really an ideal situation but this is happening for a reason and Im happy to be expecting, just a little terrified as well.

 

[resursval]

Oh I think there's mostly people from UK, US and Canada actually, don't know why I assumed you were in UK. Sorry about that.
To be honest I think every expecting mother is terrified to some extent.
I think the most important thing for you is to find out the practical bit, how maternal leave etc and such work in Canada.
Being alone has its positive sides but also its negative sides like any other part in life really.
Congratulations on being expecting!

 

[Dezireey]

Best get yourself sorted with a midwife or health officer first as they are a good source of support and advice. Couple of things i did in the beginning-

- downloaded some apps on all stages of pregnancy on my ipod and rented some baby book from library
- told my mum ( or someone you trust) about the fact i was pregnant and FOB left me, other people just knew I was pregnant but not alone
- work - plan when you will be leaving, be realistic and get a calendar to start planning things - it goes by quickly till the very end, trust me.

I think, from my own experience, one of the best things I did when i got pregnant was get super organised and changed my life from the start. I completely re organised my room, bought little things every pay day. It helped me adjust, kept me busy and made me focus on dealing with the pregnancy effectively.

Hope that helps xx

 

[dustbunny]

As Dezireey has said, submerge yourself in everything baby related. Get yourself a health professional and someone you can talk to about everything and just get super excited that you are going to be a mummy!!! It doesn't matter if you're single, all a baby needs is someone to love and from love everything else will sort itself out and the fact you are trying to sort everything out now shows you will be a wonderful mummy.
Keep strong, a lot of men are super idiots. Honestly the worst mistake I made was constantly trying to include FOB to get nothing back but blame and lies. It made everything a lot harder for me and now LO is 2 months old and he hasn't seen her and just blamed me. So... my point being... if contacting FOB is too difficult then don't bother.
I also got pregnant straight after graduating Uni and now I have 3 jobs and am starting my own business as well as written a novel... anything is possible if you put your mind to it. x

 

[mmmadill]

Thanks for all the advice.. I actually feel less stressed