Not even a happy birthday !

[BECCAF92]

Hi there

Not really posted on here but feel I need somewhere to vent lol! Today is my daughters 1st birthday and her dad has not seen or wished her happy birthday!

Background is I kicked him out in February due to his moods he would take out on our daughter and he has saw her twice , once a week after we split overnight and 3 weeks ago for 2 hours, we did try agree another time but I have been threatened from his new partner so advised him I do not want her meeting my daughter until they have been serious for a why and he argued with me and didn't agree to seeing our daughter! I feel he hasn't saw his daughter enough to declare his girlfriend should meet her!

So on Saturday I received a letter from a lawyer stating he has not been seeing her and I have refused him access which I would never do ! But as was my daughters birthday I thought we should be civil so invited him and his family down yesterday but he never showed and ended in an arguement with his gran cause she states he's not being offered to see her, today I have found out the time he was meant to see her he was out with his friends instead , today we have heard nothing no happy birthdqay an no card , I feel it may only be her first birthday but its still important to me!

Also he goes out and says I'm a bad mum to all my friends and that I have wild parties around my daughter, also has been sending me vile emails slating me and my family and threatening with ss with no reason !

Sorry for long post just need to rant!

 

[Jade--x]

Keep every email and message he sends, and if he does get lawyers involved you have the proof you've done nothing wrong and he's in the wrong. He's sounds a complete and utter asshole. Hope you're ok x

 

[BECCAF92]

Thanks , I have kept them all! Honestly just shocked by his actions today , if I missed my daughters birthday and never even said happy birthday I'm be in tears and upset lol , even my next door neighbours who I don't know that well have her a card and said happy birthday but her dad can't be bothered, men just confuse me sometimes ha! Not wired the same way I don't think

 

[babycrazy1706]

 

[Dream.dream]

He basically just shot himself in the foot there he's claiming you deny him access but you invited him to her birthday party and he didn't show?

He will regret it some day because guess what you can't get those days back and he misse it .

Big hugs for you tho. Some dads are just jerks

 

[babycrazy1706]

Exactly. His loss! Xx

 

[daneuse27]

I'm so sorry your FOB missed your daughter's birthday What a thoughtless and insensitive thing to do. She definitely deserves better than that, and I hope he makes it up to her.

I think we need to be careful on this forum though about chalking up our FOB's bad behaviour to them being "men." They may be men, but that doesnt mean we shouldnt expect a lot more from them than stuff like this.

 

[babycrazy1706]

very true. some men are twats, others are fab. the fab ones are more rare than the twats though

 

[Dezireey]

I have a theory with men. If it says on the tin 'arrogant twat with a penchant for lying, emotionally abusive behaviour and a tendency to go off its sell by date when the word 'baby' is mentioned'.....then those are the contents inside the tin.

it's like....if you buy a can of baked beans hoping by some miracle you open it up and get Heinz mushroom soup, then you are deluding yourself. If it looks like a baked bean, it's a bloody baked bean!!

I'm getting all philosophical on myself now.....I'm also now hungry.........

 

[babycrazy1706]