Not good News - Now time for a Rant

[emdeb]

Thanks im_mi. I'm only 6 weeks and it seemed that as soon as I told the lady that she lost all interest.

 

[im_mi]

grrr, medical staff can be so insensitive. *hugs*

 

[Bingo]

That is appauling. I can't believe the lack of care for women suffering a suspected miscarriage. I hope they treat with great care this afternoon. Wishing you all the best.

I really need to have a rant now.

Yesterday I was told that the fetal heart unit would phone me first thing to give me a time for my scan. Well by 10:30 I still hadn't heard anything so I rang them up. Gave the lady my name and she went away and got my details and she told me I was booked in to 9am tomorrow WTF!!!!!!! I explained to her that I had been to the our of hours doctor yesterday and that they informed me that I was going to be given a scan today. Her reply was that if they thought it that bad then they would have kept me in. This was the point where I started to get rather upset. I told her that they offered me a bed yesterday but it was on the maternity unit, but they understood why I might not want to stay in so they were happy for me to go home but to go straight to A&E if the pain got worse. I was nearly in tears at this point only to be told, 'we can squeese you in today but it means cutting someones appointment short and you don't want that, do you!!!'. I reluctantly accepted the 9am tomorrow and burst into tears when I was off the phone.

Phoned hubby who was furious and who turned up on the doorstep ten minutes later to give me a big hug.

He phoned the unit back and spoke to a very nice midwife who he explained the situation to and she explained that the reason I was given 9am tomorrow was so that I had a 'Full' appointment. She has booked me in for 2:30 today and they will fit me in, even if it is just for the scan. It turns out that the unit don't phone patients so there is a lack of communication there within the different areas.

I'm going to phone my doctors and get them to put a complaint in as I was not happy with the unit and how they were with me

Rant over now. Hopefully I will get some answers later.

 

[emdeb]

Hi All, back from fetal unit and it was as I suspected in that i've lost the baby. They did a scan, but I hadn't drank enough so they decided to do another pregnancy test before doing an internal scan. The test came back negative so they have put it down to an early miscarriage We're going to leave it until AF shows next month before trying again.

 

[whyme]

I am so sorry - I have been following this thread and though I don't know you, have been thinking of you - you must be devastated.
I just had MMC, found last Monday, it is pretty shit right now.
xxxxx

 

[im_mi]

oh im so sorry sweetie

 

[emdeb]

Thanks guys for all your kind words. We have found the past couple of days tough, but we are thinking on the positive side. We have had a laugh and said that we at least know that my bits work and DH equipment works and my SIL said that we must be very fertile so we are just trying to think positively about it. As hubby said in the car, hopefully it will be third time lucky and he's getting lots of exercise so he doesn't have to go to the gym. I'm now going to take the next month to look after myself and DH and chill and relax.

 

[cazza22]

So sorry hun my thoughts are with u n OH x x x x Lov Caz

 

[everthingX]

So sorry xx

 

[Carmello_01]

Oh hun, no words I can say will take away the pain. You have hope on your side and that is a huge part in this journey - I know that for sure