Not learning my from my mistakes. Single again.

[Lilyjaden]

I've posted previously on here and since then things got better for a while then worse. The father of my child contacts me again after he left and tries to tell me that I cannot work out after I have the baby. You break up with me, don't contact me for a week then say that? I kind of just got the feeling he just wanted to talk. Then he texts me 3 more times claiming we don't work out because of me because I'm immature. I did not respond for obvious reasons. Last time I saw this boy he physically pushed me out of his car ! Meanwhile I'm 6 months pregnant. We talked for a couple hours because I was infuriated but his last text. Then he even threatened court ! He comes by after work and I suggest we work on being friends and he says he doesn't want that he wanted more. Of course things go fine for a couple weeks again. I decided to try this new thing in doing what he asks and not complaining to see if I was the problem. He would come home from school/work and I would have food ready for him. We would be intimate even if I didn't feel up to it much. Throughout these weeks of us being fine, he was acting shady. Constantly on his phone. When I text him he doesn't reply right away or replies back with simple answers but in front of me he texts people like crazy. 2 days ago I text him (he hadn't text me all day) to ask if he's coming to my house after work he says no that he's going to his friends house. I said okay and to have a goodnight. He replies with one word so I decided to confront him. I asked what was the matter with him and he says nothing, as usual. Next day, I call him around 11 and ask him to come when he done doing what he's doing because I wanted to talk. He right away brushes me off the phone and hang up. I wait 4 hours, then I see he's in instagram liking photos. I call, he ignores, I call again he picks up with an attitude. I ask him to come so we can talk and he says no that he is tired. Hangs up on me and turns off his phone.*
Now you can imagine my frustration. I asked you to be friends. I was okay with that. I was over the whole situation. The emotion and physical abuse I've endured just took its tole. I call 10 minutes later and kept calling cause he kept sending it straight to voicemail. He finally picks up and says he doesn't wanna be my friend, or be with me because I'm annoying. And says he's only with me because I'm pregnant. I was fine without him until he contacts me. It's like he tries to suck me in. And the does this. I've spoken to my mother about it and she says he will keep doing it because I allow it.*
I just want opinions..*
Is this me ? Is me calling him so many times when he ignores me a good excuse to leave when I've been nothing but nice to him even after what he's done ? I'm just so numb. Ik in a week or do I'll be fine. I fell out of love with him a long time ago. I just hope he really leaves me alone this time. Ik it's going to be hell when my daughters born because court will happen. Just please someone answer on what I should do or how I should handle this. It makes me so sick that any dream I had at a family with one man is crushed.*

 

[Jem_x3]

I think perhaps he just wanted some space. I know it hurts but calling him constantly like that has probably really annoyed him. He may not have got his head round being a father yet.

You say you've fallen out of love with him but I don't think you have. I know it's easier to tell yourself that when you've been hurt but I think some time apart is a good idea. Let him get his head around having this baby and give both of you time to think about what you really want. You should be focusing on you and the baby, not causing more stress by trying too hard when bringing a new life into the world is hard by itself. I feel for you I've been in the same situation. It just drove my OH away. Time apart was really great for us and now 2 years on we're going strong

 

[Lilyjaden]

I think perhaps he just wanted some space. I know it hurts but calling him constantly like that has probably really annoyed him. He may not have got his head round being a father yet.

You say you've fallen out of love with him but I don't think you have. I know it's easier to tell yourself that when you've been hurt but I think some time apart is a good idea. Let him get his head around having this baby and give both of you time to think about what you really want. You should be focusing on you and the baby, not causing more stress by trying too hard when bringing a new life into the world is hard by itself. I feel for you I've been in the same situation. It just drove my OH away. Time apart was really great for us and now 2 years on we're going strong

The thing is he's done this 3 times before. It upsets me so much that can walk away from me and her like nothing. Then he had the nerve to say what am I doing for the baby when I already started preparing and he hasn't even offered to pay for anything yet.
I appreciate you answering tho ik space is always good but I'm not a dog something you can come back and play with cause you're not annoyed anymore. I let it go all three times for my daughter and worked on it. It sucks 😞

 

[Jem_x3]

I think perhaps he just wanted some space. I know it hurts but calling him constantly like that has probably really annoyed him. He may not have got his head round being a father yet.

You say you've fallen out of love with him but I don't think you have. I know it's easier to tell yourself that when you've been hurt but I think some time apart is a good idea. Let him get his head around having this baby and give both of you time to think about what you really want. You should be focusing on you and the baby, not causing more stress by trying too hard when bringing a new life into the world is hard by itself. I feel for you I've been in the same situation. It just drove my OH away. Time apart was really great for us and now 2 years on we're going strong

The thing is he's done this 3 times before. It upsets me so much that can walk away from me and her like nothing. Then he had the nerve to say what am I doing for the baby when I already started preparing and he hasn't even offered to pay for anything yet.
I appreciate you answering tho ik space is always good but I'm not a dog something you can come back and play with cause you're not annoyed anymore. I let it go all three times for my daughter and worked on it. It sucks ��

If that's the case hun what I would do if I were you is to just focus on you and baby. Leave him to stew and be annoyed. Don't answer his texts and calls you don't need the stress and hurt. He'll soon come running back but you need to be strong for the both of you and tell him exactly what you've told me - you're not a door mat! Some men are just rubbish at commitment and handling huge change. He's just running scared but coming back just as you're starting to be okay because he obviously doesn't know what he wants. If to move on is what you want, don't let him come back. Let him know about baby but wait til he contacts you but keep it just about that xx