Not so sure about SOs choice

[ScarletWillow]

SO only likes one name: Emily Lyn. He says that I can call her Emma, which is cute, but he insists her first name has to be spelled EMILY and doesn't like anything else. I've gotten him to go for Emily Roselyn..Emily Rose is what my (adopted) parents were going to rename me when I was 2 but didn't change my name after all. Lyn is part of my name and SO's mother has it in hers as well. I'm sure I can give in for that name but I'm not sure if I can see myself with a daughter whose name is so "normal" as Emily (with that spelling) and I grew up with 2 Emily's in my class.
I tried suggesting Emma Leigh (various forms of it) but he thinks it's too long and too hard for her to learn how to spell. That seems like a stupid excuse to me, to be honest, since I learned how to spell "Marsha Lyn" without a problem. A name is a name.
I've suggested we try looking for other names but he insists that is the only name he likes and he won't like other names. It's just really frustrating and I know we're early enough that it's not like we have 2 weeks to figure out names but I want to find his/her name as soon as we can and I just wish he'd be open to discussing other names. How can I get him to be willing to consider other names?

 

[MUMOF5]

Well TBH I think its pretty selfish of him to insist on a name without discussing both of your choices as a couple , especially seeing as you are not sold on the name, after all you did conceive as a couple, and you will be the one doing all the hard work for the next 7.5 months . xx

 

[Sam9kids]

I agree, thats pretty selfish!

 

[ScarletWillow]

That's how I feel too because I would never insist on a name that I knew he wasn't 100% in love with..think that's part of why I can't understand why he would do it. I made it perfectly clear that I couldn't see myself with a girl named Emily (with that spelling) but he insists that he can see me with one. Well thanks but that doesn't make it any better in my mind, you know? I don't know how to remind him that he's not the only parent involved here, we need to pick the name together and he needs to be open to possible names. I suggested a few but I really don't think he even heard them before he shot them down. Frustrating!

 

[E&L's mummy]

what about Emillie or Emilie? im biased as my eldest is Emily after my great grandmother. good luck hun xxx

 

[jenapril2008]

I wish I had an answer for you but instead I'll offer my sympathy / empathy: my husband is the same way. He has come up with a name for our son now that we've learned he'll be a boy, and he insists no other name or derivation of it is acceptable. He says he hates every other name in the world, which I know to be an exaggeration.
Hang in there - like you said, you still have time, and he'll come around in time. At least, that's what I keep telling myself.
FWIW, I love Emily AND Emma. Roselyn is sweet.

 

[ScarletWillow]

I showed him different spellings and he wasn't into them because he hated the spelling..SO & I both have unique names so I want our kid to have a unique name as well. We've got a lot of time, I'm just worried he won't give in on the spelling of the name or consider other names.
Thanks you guys, I think I just have to keep reminding myself that hopefully he'll come around.

 

[staycutee]

Say no! God its your baby too why should he just get his own way?? Sounsd really selfish. You should say "No I've decided she will be called Lucy" (or any random name) and see how HE likes being forced into it

 

[Seity]

I love the name Emily, spelled just like that.

 

[fantastica]

Does sound a bit selfish, you really need to have a proper chat with him!! Agreed with missmurder...just flip it

My OH always wanted a son called James, he didn't want to budge on it...but suddenly one day he just wasn't bothered anymore..so we put it in the middle. Maybe the same will happen?

What does SO stand for???

 

[AFC84]

I think Emilie is pretty...I think Emma Leigh is nice but only if you're ok with the fact that people are going to pronounce it differently IYSWIM.

But yeah, you definitely shouldn't be pushed into anything you don't like, I agree with Miss Murder!

Fantastica, SO = Significant Other

 

[NickyT75]

when I was pregnant last time DH wanted to call the baby Kian if it was a boy & he was quite insistent about it even tho I wasnt keen...

we had a girl and called her Sophie so when I got pregnant this time I assumed he'd still want Kian and the name had grown on me by now so I was happy to let him have his way BUT he decided he doesnt like the name Kian any more!! bloody men hey?

you need to choose a name that you are BOTH happy with but TBH im inclined to think the mum should have the final say as its her that does the hard part!! xx

 

[RubyRainbows]

I've always thought moms should have more say and daddy's should have "veto" power! I've been naming my baby dolls since i was 3 years old... and guys (for the most part) just randomly say "hey i like the name....". I think Emily is a pretty name. I know a girl who named her baby Emily and they call her Emma. So if you like that - go for it! I also like Emma Leigh... it's only fair that you at least have some say in the spelling/variation of the name! Naming your baby is a huge deal and you should both be happy with the chosen name! Personally, i think it's worth fighting for and would stand my ground! Good luck!

 

[sleepinbeauty]

I told my Oh that when the time comes, he can help with a name but since I'm the one carrying/feeding/etc, I get the final "ok"

We already have our names and I LOVE them!

 

[ScarletWillow]

I love the name Emma Leigh and I wanted to have it spell like that, I was definately ready to use that spelling but he thinks it's too love/complicated. Kind of strange though seeing we both have unique names/spellings (Beaux & Marsha Lyn). Part of the thing that is so frustrating for me is that he has taken the power out of my hands and like my opinion doesn't matter! I would never force a name down his throat but he's doing that to me and I'm the one doing all of the work for the next 9 months. GRR!! I've dreamed, since I was little, of names that I would name my future children. I don't think it's souly up to me to name the baby but at the same time, I don't think SO should be able to do it on his own just because he refuses to budge. I tried telling him we could use his name that he chose so long as I could make the spelling for Emily how I wanted it. He agreed but then later he refused everything I suggested and said it has to be spelled Emily. I feel bad for not wanting to use Emily when that's all he likes, I feel like I have to keep giving in to him..not like his opinion is more important than mine but he's been amazing putting up with my hormones that it doesn't seem fair at the same time. Am I neurotic or what?!

 

[Szaffi]

OH was very set on Stella for a long time, which I was reluctant on as it's a major beer brand in Belgium. I let the subject go for a while (about 4 wks or so). Once we were talking baby names with my friends and they all kept coming with suggestions, and he finally decided that he liked Bianca, which was one of my faves. (and told me that I never even mentioned it to him before, though I'm sure I have - well, whatever).

So we decided not to make a final decision until bubz is actually born, but we seem to be both happy with this name. So my suggestion would be to let the subject rest for a while with him...