I am 37 (almost 38!!) and have an almost seventeen yo DD and a 10 y.o. DS. Both of them were unplanned ( I wouldn't change a thing) from a previous relationship. I just got married August 1st to my current DH and had a MC August 25 of this year. My DH is the love of my life and I haven't been this happy in a relationship in my life.
The only thing now is that we have been TTC after the MC and nothing is happening. I know I should be just grateful that I at least have two children but I would really love to have a child with my husband.
My 2nd round of Clomid resulted in 4 follicles. I almost felt sure that this would be the month. My day 21 progesterone was 167! I knew for sure that at least one of them would result in a BFP. But nothing, AF started yesterday.
I told my Gyno last month that if nothing happened this month that I wanted a referral to an RE so that I can have a complete battery of tests to see why nothing is happening but in the back of my mind I was still hoping I wouldn't have to.
I was lucky enough to get an appointment and see the RE today and had a sonogram and BW done. I have to go back next Monday for cultures and next Friday for an HSG. I am very sure that I probably have blocked tubes. What else can it be? (I had FSH and it was completely normal).
This is what I have been struggling with all day... I have children and my husband has children from a previous relationship that ended almost as badly as mine. We truly love each other and enjoy spending time with each other. What if we just stopped TTC and just enjoyed the rest of our lives together traveling, etc???
The only thing that is stopping me from accepting that reality are the nagging thoughts that I just WANT to have a child with my husband... I feel like a failure... I feel like maybe I have been too lucky just to find a great life partner and I shouldn't ask for any more than this...I feel broken...I want to have a baby with my husband...What if doesn't want to be married anymore because I can't give him a child ( he says it's not true, but...)... Why could I get pregnant when I really didn't want to and now that I do .... NOTHING!!!
I can't stand the whole TTC process. I don't know if I can keep doing this. I don't know if I can keep being reminded of my failure EVERY month.
I'm sorry for being so negative.
How do people keep TTC for as long as I've seen some people do? I hope that I feel differently tomorrow, next week or next month sometime but right now I don't think I will.
How do you guys keep going month after month????
The only thing now is that we have been TTC after the MC and nothing is happening. I know I should be just grateful that I at least have two children but I would really love to have a child with my husband.
My 2nd round of Clomid resulted in 4 follicles. I almost felt sure that this would be the month. My day 21 progesterone was 167! I knew for sure that at least one of them would result in a BFP. But nothing, AF started yesterday.
I told my Gyno last month that if nothing happened this month that I wanted a referral to an RE so that I can have a complete battery of tests to see why nothing is happening but in the back of my mind I was still hoping I wouldn't have to.
I was lucky enough to get an appointment and see the RE today and had a sonogram and BW done. I have to go back next Monday for cultures and next Friday for an HSG. I am very sure that I probably have blocked tubes. What else can it be? (I had FSH and it was completely normal).
This is what I have been struggling with all day... I have children and my husband has children from a previous relationship that ended almost as badly as mine. We truly love each other and enjoy spending time with each other. What if we just stopped TTC and just enjoyed the rest of our lives together traveling, etc???
The only thing that is stopping me from accepting that reality are the nagging thoughts that I just WANT to have a child with my husband... I feel like a failure... I feel like maybe I have been too lucky just to find a great life partner and I shouldn't ask for any more than this...I feel broken...I want to have a baby with my husband...What if doesn't want to be married anymore because I can't give him a child ( he says it's not true, but...)... Why could I get pregnant when I really didn't want to and now that I do .... NOTHING!!!
I can't stand the whole TTC process. I don't know if I can keep doing this. I don't know if I can keep being reminded of my failure EVERY month.
I'm sorry for being so negative.
How do people keep TTC for as long as I've seen some people do? I hope that I feel differently tomorrow, next week or next month sometime but right now I don't think I will.
How do you guys keep going month after month????