Not sure wat 2 do for the best?

[Lara+sam+bump]

I am 24 weeks pregnant and havent been with my OH very long. I got pregnant 1 month after meeting him, well the thing is he didt want the baby from the start he was very honest about his feelings and told me he wanted me to have an abortion. But I decided I couldnt have one and that if he didnt wanna stick around then that was up to him, he did stick around. But I recently found out that the only reason he stayed was because he thought id change my mind and "cum to my senses" as he put it. Then by the time i was 15 weeks there abouts and he realised I wasnt going to abort, he felt to strongly for me to leave. Which is good on him ad everything, but im finding it so hard that he clearly wishes I wasnt pregnant and that I wasnt going to have his baby. He refuses to actually chose things for the baby, he'll give me money to buy stuff, but when I ask his opinion on things he acts as if it has othing to do with him. I hate going into baby shops with him cos he'll just pretty much sulk the entire time. He has told me he wishes to this day that I had, had an abortion. Ok here it gets cofused lol, so I had a conversation wid an ex of mine and OH is very upset about it and now is questioning whether he shud be wid me, but now im wondering whether to fight for the relationship or shud I walk away, he doest love our baby, he has said he doesnt know if he eva will and even if he does he wod neva have wanted him. Also I know I want more children in the future and he says he really doesnt, he talks about being sterilised and everything. I mean I love the guy very much, we live 250 miles apart and will do for the next 18 months and its really hard work, but we have managed it so far. Just dont know whether I should just walk away now or work at it and possibly have to in 6 months time when he cant be a proper father. soz essay xxxx

 

[xarlenex]

What was so bad about the conversation with your ex that he disliked so much?

Only you know the answer to your question. Do you love him enough to work at it? Maybe when you have the child, and he see's his son then he'll feel for him. I read before its hard for some fathers to feel emotionally attached until the child is born. Are you willing to hang around to see if this happens?

 

[Char&Bump-x]

I'd leave. But thats just my opinion.
Only you know what you want in your heart

x

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I would leave too hun. I don't think I (personally) could stay with somebody who wanted (my) baby aborted. But it's only my opinion.

It's upto you hun. Do what "You" think's best for you and your baby.

Good luck with what you decide. x

 

[xJG30]

I'd also leave personally..

 

[princessttc]

Id leave, id feel like i wasnt even allowed to be happy that im having a baby... like i should regret my decision or something.... its a hard one

 

[leeanne]

Men can be unattached to the baby during pregnancy and then have the bond when the baby is born.

However, in your situation, I honestly don't think it will happen. He wanted you to abort and I think that's something that he will always think, always remind you of, and I think once the baby is born he will not change and I think your relationship will get worse. I also don't think he will be a proper father.

Personally, as hard as it may be, I would leave.

 

[captain-ally]

If he's still sulking about it, leave now. It's about time he's gotten over it. Not to say he should be jumping for joy - we're all terrified in our own right, but he shouldn't be using the "A" word anymore, or even implying it to you.