Not sure what to do

[Blue_star]

Hi ladies this is a little bit of a rant for me.. My FOB or OH i'm not sure where we stand everything was going great we have a two month old but live separately he lives down the street. He works full time and overtime I am VERY frusterated as he hasn't paid me a dime in child support. Since everything was going well and his family is very much involved in the babies life they take her once a week I went easy on him and only requested he give me $ 100 a month!


I thought that was beyond reasonable as he has a car loads of money in the bank and works constantly and lives at his parents rent free.... He hasn't given me a single thing for the baby or bought a thing. I'm struggling this month to even buy her forumla as I had some very high unexpected bills to pay off this month.... I'v been asking him to meet up so he can help out and give me the hundred dollars for our daughter which I'd asked him to give me on the first and he didn't.. He ignores my messages which i'm getting tired of..

Does anyone know anything about child support in Canada? I haven't taken him to court but I may have to if he won't even spare 100 dollars a month to help me buy things for his child. Technically with his job he should be paying 800 a month so I was doing him a favor. It's hard because his family has been so good to me and just loves the baby I don't want to ruin the relationship I have with them for the babies sake.

 

[Dezireey]

I don't think you should worry about upsetting the rest of the family. Seeing as he lives at home they have an idea on his spending/ lifestyle etc. I really think you need to have a heart to heart ( nice conversation and being polite etc) with maybe his mum or dad about lack of funds. If they love your baby I can't see how they would not at least have words with their son? After all it's not like this is for yourself, tell them you are struggling to buy formula etc and you have asked him but he hasn't got back to you yet ( just choose your words wisely instead of accusing their son of ignoring you just say he hasn't got back to you at all and it's urgent you receive funds from him.

That's what I would do. I can't see how discussing this with his family will rock the boat. He is in the wrong, he needs to step up and help out. If they promise to talk to him and he still doesn't pay up and respond, I would just take him to court.

To be honest sweetie, if your child should be having £800 off their dad to be looked after, then that is what they should get. Maybe also say to him he has one last chance to give you £100 a month or you take it to court and he'll end up paying way more?

Don't be afraid to get what you want for your baby. I struggled for ages with my FOB because he had a low paid job and hadn't paid a penny. One day I had enough and told him 'either you help out in some small way e.g help with nappies and formula etc or I get some money off you. My baby is more important than upsetting him, upsetting others and or doing things I don't like doing. It has to be done to provide for LO.

 

[fairydust87]

Im not too sure about CS in Canada but I would certsinly look into it if I were you and if hes making a lot of money you would probably get more than $100 a month x

 

[Dream.dream]

What province are you in. I have personal experience in child support in Canada and also I'm studying to be a paralegal .

Most of the time you go to the court house , and go to the court of queens bench or provincial court desk and talk to a Clerc, they can give you papers to file and serve him.

The child support is a sliding scale that goes off income so of you go to court you'll probably get more money you can also get help form him for thing like daycare, prescriptions , school fees on the future . My sons sperm donor makes 36,000 a year and I get 293 plus half or day car e which is another 400

 

[Blue_star]

What province are you in. I have personal experience in child support in Canada and also I'm studying to be a paralegal .

Most of the time you go to the court house , and go to the court of queens bench or provincial court desk and talk to a Clerc, they can give you papers to file and serve him.

The child support is a sliding scale that goes off income so of you go to court you'll probably get more money you can also get help form him for thing like daycare, prescriptions , school fees on the future . My sons sperm donor makes 36,000 a year and I get 293 plus half or day car e which is another 400

Hi thanks for the advice and I am in Ontario

 

[Ceejay123]

I hope it gets sorted out for you darling x