not too good at being apart from baby

[tinytoes]

the title says it all really. i hate being away from him for even short times. like right now he's outside with his granny (OHs mum) while i'm expressing milk and i hate it. i feel like i dont want anyone except me or his dad to look after him.i'm a bit better with my own mum actually.. but i feel so mean - i have to really force myself to hand him over to give others time to bond. i worry he'll need me, or that others wont do things just as i / baby likes them or whatever. i also kind of get jealous. maybe i worry baby wont prefer me!?i dunno.
we were in the supermarket yesterday and ted started crying. his granny rushed to talk to him while i was packing shopping and i hated it - i ewanted to throw down the shopping and shout "hey, thats my job, step back!!". am i becoming a monster? i was really wound up by it. and she^s a very nice lady...

we've had visitors staying a lot since we got out of hospital...my parents for 3 days which was fine, then OHs now for a week..think i just need some family times maybe?! OR i am becoming a monster

 

[carries]

I dont think you are being a monster at all. I was talking to my mum about this and she sid when I was born some family member wanted to hold me and my mum flat out refused! She said she couldnt stand being apart from me at all. She also said that this does ease off with time.

I think Ill be the same to be honest and it doesnt sound as if you have had any time just you, baby and daddy at all!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I cried for 20 minutes yesterday because I was leaving her overnight with someone else for the first time and was so excited when she came back today. I think it's normal for women to hate being apart from their children. People are always taking over holding and feeding her and stuff which is a nice break for me but I miss doing it all for her. When we're at my OH's mums I might as well not be there cause I don't see Grace for dust! You aren't a monster hun, just a mother

 

[Margerle]

I'm way worse.

I'll actually get baby back from the person making me feel like a pissed off Mama Bear.

My DD#1 called me Mama Bear until she was in about 2nd grade.

 

[sam's mum]

I was exactly the same!! Not with people holding Sam while I was there (as he was asleep most of the time anyway), but anyone else doing anything for him (apart from OH) and I used to get really jealous - if he cried, I didn't want other people rushing over to help when I should be the one looking after him. I'm much better now though - maybe because he knows who I am now and when he's sitting with someone else he'll usually look over and smile at me lots x

 

[Samantha675]

Nope, I think that is totally normal. I felt the same way in the first few weeks. When my MIL was here, it killed me to hand Bren over to her, but since she had traveled from London, I knew it would be unfair not to. I cried the first time I went out without him, and I was only gone about 15 minutes.

 

[ayshahudson]

I'm same!! I even get a wee bit jealous when my OH holds Joseph & makes him giggle.
He went for his jabs yesterday & i was nearly in tears myself, i felt like punching the nurses for making him cry

 

[oOKayOo]

I was like this with my first , didnt let anyone look after her until she was 6 months i think it gets easier with the second child as i am planning to give Ella to my mum for the day while taking arly out for her birthday and i sont feel worried at all !

 

[ryder]

It is normal... and also very hard... however in the long run, socializing your baby from the start (in moderation of course, bonding is most important for mom and dad) will help your child with socializing skills later, especially when it comes time for them to go to the babysitter, or their first year of school etc.

Encouraging them to be happy with other people is definately hard, no doubt about it.