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tinytoes
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do you all really like your doc?
I'm not sure how it works in your part of the world, but here in Switzerland I see my obst/gyno once a month for blood tests, urine tests, weight checks and blood pressure etc. He'll usually also just do a tiny scan just to see the baby is ok (heart beat). On the big scan days (so far 12 weeks and next at 20) I'm sent to anotehr doc who has a much more snazzy machine.
Anyway, today I saw my regular obst for the third time. The first time I met him I found him a little quiet but OK. I suspected he might be quiet as English isnt his first language.
Anyway, he seemed nice enough.
The second time was the same. He was quiet and seemed OK.
Anyway today I left his surgery feeling really depresed despite being given great news (baby has one in 8500 chance of Downs and my weight gain is just fine). I'd asked doc if we could discuss birth and he sort of laughed and said "there's plenty of time yet". The thing is I've got a chronic skin condition, so birth is a big deal (as it would be even if I didnt have my skin troubles!!) and I wanted to not necessarily discuss birth procedures but wanted to know his opinion on what would be best for a woman with my condition.
He should know about my condition - we've mentioned it before and it's written in my file. I should have said more but I felt so stupid i just went quiet. Perhaps he hadnt checked my file - i got teh impression he was late and in a hurry so had probably not read my notes and realized I was a "special case"...but still.....i shouldnt feel stupid should I??? I can get excited and keen??
SO after that I asked him about the lump in my groin which had actually gone down a bit and he was all "ahh I wouldnt worry, nothing at all to worry about it"..but ina way that made me feel I was making a big fuss about nothing. Even my DB added "well it's best to check these things" to back me up.
He scanned to check the heartbeat but it lasted literally 10 seconds.
I asked for a letter to give my HR people at work with my due date and between me asking and him ushering me out the door two seconds later he'd forgotten and I had to remind him.
Anyway, I'm not sure if it's my hormones, but I'm not happy....I'm tempted to swap docs.
He's never given me much advice about what to eat, what to expect. It's all filling in forms and a brief "how are you feeling?". As I feel fine he says very little else.
I feel I'm missing out - that I want a doc who is genuinely excited about babies and pregnancy. I feel my doc might just be in it for the money.....
So, I've said he's got one strike and if he's as shite next time then thats two strikes and he's out...
Really, this is the most amazing experience of my life and I'm just not happy that I came out of the surgey feeling so low....
and after writing all this I'm now more tempted to change docs than ever!!
but apart from not offering advice that easily, he might know his stuff...am i making a big fuss over nothing? I just want this to be as great s it should be...and it should be shouldnt it??
Grrrrr........advice appreciated...
I'm not sure how it works in your part of the world, but here in Switzerland I see my obst/gyno once a month for blood tests, urine tests, weight checks and blood pressure etc. He'll usually also just do a tiny scan just to see the baby is ok (heart beat). On the big scan days (so far 12 weeks and next at 20) I'm sent to anotehr doc who has a much more snazzy machine.
Anyway, today I saw my regular obst for the third time. The first time I met him I found him a little quiet but OK. I suspected he might be quiet as English isnt his first language.
Anyway, he seemed nice enough.
The second time was the same. He was quiet and seemed OK.
Anyway today I left his surgery feeling really depresed despite being given great news (baby has one in 8500 chance of Downs and my weight gain is just fine). I'd asked doc if we could discuss birth and he sort of laughed and said "there's plenty of time yet". The thing is I've got a chronic skin condition, so birth is a big deal (as it would be even if I didnt have my skin troubles!!) and I wanted to not necessarily discuss birth procedures but wanted to know his opinion on what would be best for a woman with my condition.
He should know about my condition - we've mentioned it before and it's written in my file. I should have said more but I felt so stupid i just went quiet. Perhaps he hadnt checked my file - i got teh impression he was late and in a hurry so had probably not read my notes and realized I was a "special case"...but still.....i shouldnt feel stupid should I??? I can get excited and keen??
SO after that I asked him about the lump in my groin which had actually gone down a bit and he was all "ahh I wouldnt worry, nothing at all to worry about it"..but ina way that made me feel I was making a big fuss about nothing. Even my DB added "well it's best to check these things" to back me up.
He scanned to check the heartbeat but it lasted literally 10 seconds.
I asked for a letter to give my HR people at work with my due date and between me asking and him ushering me out the door two seconds later he'd forgotten and I had to remind him.
Anyway, I'm not sure if it's my hormones, but I'm not happy....I'm tempted to swap docs.
He's never given me much advice about what to eat, what to expect. It's all filling in forms and a brief "how are you feeling?". As I feel fine he says very little else.
I feel I'm missing out - that I want a doc who is genuinely excited about babies and pregnancy. I feel my doc might just be in it for the money.....
So, I've said he's got one strike and if he's as shite next time then thats two strikes and he's out...
Really, this is the most amazing experience of my life and I'm just not happy that I came out of the surgey feeling so low....
and after writing all this I'm now more tempted to change docs than ever!!
but apart from not offering advice that easily, he might know his stuff...am i making a big fuss over nothing? I just want this to be as great s it should be...and it should be shouldnt it??
Grrrrr........advice appreciated...
