Nothing useful to say in the TTC forum?

[genkigemini]

Hi Ladies...

For some of you long term TTCers like me, I was wondering... Do you ever feel like you have nothing useful to say in the regular TTC forum? I really do sometimes and that is why I do not post as often as I would like to.

Because I have had to take progesterone to bring on my periods and then Clomid to hopefully bring on ovulation, my cycles are very long so it is hard to find a cycle buddy to obsess with. For me, I find it hard to relate TTC wise with girls who get very stressed over TTCing for like 3-6 months. Maybe I am just sounding spiteful but I promise that I am not feeling that way at all. It is just that sometimes it feels very excluding when your cycles are out of wack or you have been at it so long that you have to detach yourself emotionally from it most times to keep from obsessing.

Am I alone out there?

and to all!

 

[maz]

No no no hun. You are definitely not alone.

I know what you're saying. I've not been a member here that long, but already I'm seeing trends of newbies getting pregnant within a few months and being replaced by others who get pregnant within a few months. And always the same questions and threads to read. I'm not contributing as much as I'd like to but feel like you, that I'm just repeating the same things.

I'm not in the same situation as you hun. I have very regular cycles - 27 days - I ovulate every month - DH's swimmers are swimming in the right direction - but still nothing is happening. It's very frustrating and I do feel jealous everytime someone posts a but I'm like you and don't begrudge them - I just wish it were me.

My cycle may not be as long as yours but you can winge at me if you need to - allowing for time difference of course!!

Good luck that your medications work for you hun

x

 

[Helen_26]

Yeah I'm with you both on this one. I always read the ttc section, but I don't think I've got anything valid to contribute.
I'm finally having regular cycles since starting on Metformin 4 months ago and I'm slowly learning to read my body and it's signs, which I'm findig really difficult.
So in short hun - You're not alone

 

[chefamy1122]

You are definitely not alone... that is usually why I hide out in the long termers forum...

 

[Suz]

You are not alone there at all! I dont post alot in the TTC either.... Thats what this forum is for...Kinda more comfortable if you know what I mean

 

[FJL]

I 100% agree with you girls.

I feel that the start of TTC is so exciting and is such an adrenalin pumping time, so for 1, those girls don't need me to bring them down!!!

Like the OP I also feel upset when people complain about not being pregnant after only a few months of trying, I feel like saying 'how would you like it to be a few years and still nothing?'.

And all the BFP's...while my head is happy for these women who get instant BFP's (thinking logically about how they want a baby, will be good parents etc) my heart just aches and I feel like the only BFP I ever want to see/hear about again is my own. Besides you girls in here of course

Don't get me wrong, TTC used to help me out a lot when I first joined, but now its just not for me. Here is where I belong!!!

 

[akcher]

It's definately hard to read the TTC. When I first joined BnB, I was browsing in there. Then as the months go by, as the people who announced their BFP giving birth, I do get a little sadden that it isn't me. I'm glad we have this section

 

[loopylew]

i think we all feel like this really, i totally agree with FJL, sums up how i feel really. On another cycle now with not even a high on my cbfm and its cd18, its either gonna be a long cycle again or short luteal phase as normal, thought Agnus castus might have helped but don't think it really has. I do still input into the ttc section but not as much as i did, i don't obsess over testing anymore etc, in fact i don't even buy tests unless i have a fertility appt or im late for AF, not knowing when its due however means i don't test at all as ive usually started spotting by 5dpo.

 

[genkigemini]

Thanks ladies.

I am so glad to know that I am not the only one. I mean, I read and I start to post but then I feel I have to put a disclaimer on all my emotions because I think your outlook is much different when you have been TTC for so long.

Honestly, sometimes people say really hurtful things too. This was the most hurtful thing ever said to me on the boards. (It is in my journal so I easily found the link. It still bugs me, even now.)

You'll get there and the sad thing is you won't even be able to get drunk of happiness!

Just because I don't obsess ever month doesn't mean my will be any less thrilling! Geez...

Anyway... glad to know I am not alone. That being said. We need to get this section more active for those of us uncomfortable in the main TTC section. to all!

 

[maz]

Good idea genki

I sometimes think we need something a little more lighthearted just to stop us from thinking about ttc for a few minutes.

Any suggestions?

 

[jacky24]

Awww hun, why didn't you tell me you are feeling like this

I know what you mean, and o.k im only on cycle 12 this month, but i have passed the 1year mark now and i hate it. OH has even called me a drug addict from drinking, 2tabs of Clomid, 1Folic acid, 2tabs progesterone, 2 vitamin C's, 3 tabs EPO. O.k it is alot but

Ye TTC section drives me nuts too, i can't comment on OPK's and CM, and boy don't we all know about a 3month cycle with 70cycle days in it, and i have figured that the longer we TTC we don't want to POAS as we are so just to scared to become exited. as we know what it feels like to have our bubble burst

O.k i will make a vow, i will only POAS when i get to CD123 and i have become abnormally round around my middle area.

The one thing that always makes me feel beter is knowing that you my friend SARAH are always here for me as i am always here for you

Even thou we won't be able to get when we get our i think we will be what now

 

[Arcanegirl]

I feel just the same aswell, I used to post loads in there but now i feel i fit in better here and am more comfortable in here.

 

[jacky24]

I feel just the same aswell, I used to post loads in there but now i feel i fit in better here and am more comfortable in here.

I agree i also feel comfortable in here.

 

[genkigemini]

Awwwww... Jacky!!! Love ya, Honey!! ^_^

 

[JASMAK]

Yes, I agree, altho I still post once in awhile, and respond too. But, yeah, I also feel the pain of hearing BFP's. I am happy for them, but that doesn't make it less painful for me. This is one of my due-date months...I should have had a baby this month...it makes everything that much harder.

 

[Beckic]

I have been using BnB for a while now - but I kinda feel like I dont belong anywhere.

I have been trying for over two years now with no a hint of a BFP - so I do find it hard in the TTC section - as it seems that everyone who posted there when I first joined has all moved on.

BUT - I am really fortunate in that I have regular cycles and all fertility tests so far have come back OK.
So I feel awkward posting on here - because I know so many of you would kill to have positive OPK's etc..

So really - until the doctors finally work out why the hell I cant get pregnant when there doesnt seem to be anything wrong with me - I dont belong anywhere.

Is it just me

Bx x

 

[Helen_26]

Beckic please don't think you don't belong anywhere. You are more than welcome here and I'm sure there are others with the same worries as you. Everyone's concerns and worries are important and if we can help in anyway then we will.

 

[akcher]

Unexplained infertility is hard to cope since they don't know what to treat. I hope you find support here with us long timers. We're here for you

 

[FJL]

Awwww Beckic of course you belong here!!!

Long term is really defined by not getting pregnant or able to hold a pregnancy within 12 months.

Has your DH been thoroughly tested?

I would imagine that unexplained infertility would be very hard to cope with as you have no answers.

I can kind of see where you're coming from in that theoretically, I should be extremelly fertile as all my tests have come back perfect, but we're dealing with severe male factor, so we have a reason at least why we can't get pregnant.

I agree though, I think we should really get this section going and support each other as much as we can

 

[Arcanegirl]

Beckic youll fit in perfectly with us
Im also diagnosed as unexplained and have been ttc for 2 years and 10 months.

I can understand it is hard not knowing whats wrong, its especiallt hard trying to explain to others.