Nothing useful to say in the TTC forum?

[Sambatiki]

Hi there,

I hope you guys don't mind me gatecrashing. But after reading your comments I can see why you don't post in the TTC section. I myself am on my first cycle of TTC after a MC in april. So I can sympathise with you on reading the announcements. Whilst Im genuinely happy for those that get their 's Im also very jealous.

I am one of the few that have decided to stay in the WTT (hoping that no-one gets offended). Ive found that whilst everyone in TTC is lovely its seems to be the same conversations over and over. Im sure that after being here for a long time I would also not have much to say.

Anyway just wanted to wish you all luck with your journey. You guys deserve it.

Love

Kerry

 

[Loula]

ooh I only just noticed this thread and I just went and made a cycle buddy group for the lost n lonely https://www.babyandbump.com/cycle-buddies/43549-lost-n-lonely.html

I'm right with you all - I find the enthusiasm great but a little wearing and I so don't wish to offend as I am sure I moaned too at the time - but I'm not preg after 5 mins whats wrong with me wahhhh!!!!???? - sorry but look around you there are people who have been trying for years and years!

and breathe!

I'm another unexplained and it's so nice to hear people who DO know their problem acknowledge that it is fkn hard to not know why, to not be able to poinpoint it, to not have anything we can take tabs for to try to overcome, so THANK YOU!

I think it would be great to get this board a lot more active, but then again remember girlies we have reams of knowledge we can pass on to those finding their way around TTC - and who knows one day they may be joining us here - so let's still take part where we can, as long as we feel comfortable

 

[CurlySue]

You are not the only one. Sometimes, I feel as though I am constantly being left behind. People seem to get pregnant after 2 or 3 months and here I am, having been off the pill for sodding ages and still not pregnant.

Cycle buddies are hard to come by when there is almost three weeks between your shortest and longest cycle and its difficult to relate to those that are stressing after three months, yes, you are right.

At the same time, its often hard over this side because for me, I am only just beginning my assisted conception phase. Am still preparing for the diagnostics, etc, and I kind of feel like one of those nursery school kids who haven't had any lessons yet trying to swim with the big fish.

Tis hard, tis hard.

 

[Mynxie]

Hi Ladies...

For some of you long term TTCers like me, I was wondering... Do you ever feel like you have nothing useful to say in the regular TTC forum? I really do sometimes and that is why I do not post as often as I would like to.

Because I have had to take progesterone to bring on my periods and then Clomid to hopefully bring on ovulation, my cycles are very long so it is hard to find a cycle buddy to obsess with. For me, I find it hard to relate TTC wise with girls who get very stressed over TTCing for like 3-6 months. Maybe I am just sounding spiteful but I promise that I am not feeling that way at all. It is just that sometimes it feels very excluding when your cycles are out of wack or you have been at it so long that you have to detach yourself emotionally from it most times to keep from obsessing.

Am I alone out there?

and to all!

definately not alone.

 

[genkigemini]

You are not the only one. Sometimes, I feel as though I am constantly being left behind. People seem to get pregnant after 2 or 3 months and here I am, having been off the pill for sodding ages and still not pregnant.

Cycle buddies are hard to come by when there is almost three weeks between your shortest and longest cycle and its difficult to relate to those that are stressing after three months, yes, you are right.

At the same time, its often hard over this side because for me, I am only just beginning my assisted conception phase. Am still preparing for the diagnostics, etc, and I kind of feel like one of those nursery school kids who haven't had any lessons yet trying to swim with the big fish.

Tis hard, tis hard.

OMG, Hon! Don't worry about trying to fit in with us at all! If you get your before you join us "long timer's" then we will be all the happier for you. But until that day, feel free to pull up a chair and get comfortable here all you'd like!

Wish you all the best in your testing.

Honestly, everyone is welcome here!

 

[CurlySue]

Thanks Genki.

The Gyno made a tentative diagnosis today. I have 'suspected endometriosis and a hormonal imbalance' which needs looking at further.

So...I suppose I at least have a tentative label!

 

[pixielou]

Oh my gosh, I definately know what you mean! When I first started on this site I used to post on there but now feel that they don't seem to have any probs and fall quickly so yes don't really have a chance to get to know them as they come and go so quickly. I never even look on there much anymore!

 

[Sinead]

Hi

I think I'd like to join you guys in here, especially after reading and relating to this post

My posting in the ttc forum seems to vary from day-to-day, yet I have been too scared to come into here. It felt too scary to admit we might need some help. Anyway, we have taken the 1st steps after 18 mths and I have had my blood tests and swabs done for which I am due to get the results for on 4th August.

I am still nervous about what happens next and hope you can help
Thanks in advance

xx

 

[akcher]

My posting in the ttc forum seems to vary from day-to-day, yet I have been too scared to come into here.

I know how you felt. When I started posting here, I didn't want to believe that I have a problem. I mainly just cruised and read people's posts. This section has really gotten lively in the past year. Good luck on your appointment and keep us updated!

 

[FJL]

Hi

I think I'd like to join you guys in here, especially after reading and relating to this post

My posting in the ttc forum seems to vary from day-to-day, yet I have been too scared to come into here. It felt too scary to admit we might need some help. Anyway, we have taken the 1st steps after 18 mths and I have had my blood tests and swabs done for which I am due to get the results for on 4th August.

I am still nervous about what happens next and hope you can help
Thanks in advance

xx

I can totally relate hun. When we first found out about our probs I was so scared to come in here, it almost felt like coming in here was accepting and admitting defeat you know?

I am so glad I did though and i'm sure in time you will be too because you will find this group full of people who really do understand the pain, frustrating and sadness associated with infertility.

 

[pixielou]

Hi

I think I'd like to join you guys in here, especially after reading and relating to this post

My posting in the ttc forum seems to vary from day-to-day, yet I have been too scared to come into here. It felt too scary to admit we might need some help. Anyway, we have taken the 1st steps after 18 mths and I have had my blood tests and swabs done for which I am due to get the results for on 4th August.

I am still nervous about what happens next and hope you can help
Thanks in advance

xx

Hi Sinead, it's a brave thing to do and youv'e taken the fiest step which is the best thing to move forward. X

 

[CurlySue]

Re: accepting, admitting defeat as FJL said. My OH today accepted defeat, in some way. For the first time.

"It's taking too long," he said. "I thought it would be sorted by now and it's starting to worry me."

He says. Two days after I book him in for sperm analysis.

Finally, the hammer drops.

 

[genkigemini]

CurlySue - Good luck to your DH on his sperm analysis! I wish you all the best!

 

[a1lou2003]

I've been TTC for nearly 18 months now so can really feel everyones frustrations, i've put on a brave face for so long but finally snapped when someone said "just have fun trying and don't think about it so much" arrrrrh if only it was that easy, yes it is fun at the start now i'm becoming Monica from friends haha.

 

[Whitbit22]

I often wonder how some ladies can get SO upset for being unsuccessful after acouple of months.. Sometimes I feel like they are more distraught than even me! Or maybe drama queen? Even still maybe theres something wrong with ME! Maybe Im desensitized after all this time. Ewww

 

[urchin]

I don't go in TTC anymore either - I just can't cope with all the enthusiasm and optimism in there ...... I'm afraid mine has evaporated and I just think I would be a great big downer in there.

I go into hospital tomorrow to have a mahoosive fibroid removed - which would raise my spirits as theoretically my chances of conceiving should increase 70% once there is room for a wee emby to implant.....except my FSH and AMH results say there's no eggs left, so no point getting my hopes up is there?

 

[ilovecheese]

I feel exactly the same way. It's hard to sit and watch group after group of new TTC'ers show up and get pregnant within a few months and then more show up, get pregnant... I have really long cycles so I have trouble getting a cycle buddy too.

I agree that it's just hard to keep up optimism after almost a year and knowing that given DBF's SA, my long cycles, my chances are slim to none.