*** NOVEMBER 2011 BABIES ! *** Chrysanthe-Mums - 39 babies here already!!!

[qwk]

thanks for the update Dr. G FX for pip!

i think they should start showing the end of pregnancy as it REALLY is in movies - movies seem to be all unexpected, massive water breaks and etc - no hanging out counting contractions and waiting!!

 

[wtt :)]

Thanks for the update on pip! Wishing her all the best
Lol qwk, i totally agree!!

 

[MyTurnYet]

I third that, qwk!

 

[fides]

Fides, I agree with the others, love it!

So I've started to get the annoying questions. I work from home and 3 different coworkers sent me an instant message to ask if I had the baby, yet. Um yeah, that's why you see me online and I'm working right now.

Really hope it's not like this every day this week and worse, next week after my due date! (Must write my own note to baby.)

honestly, i don't think i'd mind going post-date as much if it weren't for the pestering. it just kills me that they ask you to call them back to "let them know how you are doing," and when you do call, they're like, oh, i thought you were calling with better news. um, you didn't say, only call back if you've had the baby!! then, i feel like i have to defend the fact that i'm still pregnant, and remind them that term is actually 37-42 weeks and that 1st babies are often late, which is usually followed by, oh, but so-and-so had their 1st at 38/39 weeks. um, i'm really glad that worked out for so-and-so, but i'm not her.

anyway, hope the pestering doesn't get too bad for you!

At least I'm not the only one. It's just so strange for people to ask about the state of your cervix. Pregnancy makes people feel comfortable doing/saying anything, I guess. I wish I had some witty comment, like "and how is your cervix doing today?" I dunno.

i know - it's also apparently okay to tell a post-date woman to "try having sex to get that baby out!" um, what?! that's really not your business, okay? thank you kindly for your concern, though!


DrG, thanks for posting the update about pip - i do hope things go well with the induction for her, and i can't wait to hear how things went with nyn!

still no word from mummy, though?

 

[bbygurl719]

i forgot who it was that said the liked Aaryella's name but thank you.. and hopefully its not that she needs more time hopefully she is just being stubborn like her siblings are lol. we DTD tonight so hopefully that did something. ive been feeling alot more pressure in my female area and it hurts when she moves around!!

 

[alybel]

Just thought I would share a picture of Veronica taken on the weekend (5 days old). I had her weighed today and she has started to gain weight after the initial loss in hospital while waiting for milk to come in. We are getting some newborn photos tomorrow, really looking forward to seeing them!

I hope that anyone who is waiting for birth of baby is not getting too impatient. As much as I love having her here now, I miss my big belly a little too. Although I am feeling pretty good now after my c-section, only hurts a little when I twist or roll over in bed. My headache has gone now after the blood patch procedure too... Just wish my floppy belly would start shrinking quicker

https://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y189/alybel/v.jpg

 

[fides]

awww! what a cute baby!!

 

[k8y]

Veronica is so sweet ! Lover her seat too. Excellent news that she is gaining weight.
xx Congrats again. xx

 

[DrGomps]

Fides, how frustrating!! I know what you mean though…I didn't go over my due date and I still had all these people asking me…and I felt like I was disappointing them. Your baby is engaged though, which is awesome. Mine wasn't until labor…which is also why I needed the amnio infusion because the contractions were pushing her on the cord.

Alybel, she is precious. I hope you share the newborn photos with us. Glad you are feeling better. I definitely don't miss my belly, but I don't like this floppy one. THough I am so busy with my lo that i hardly notice TBH.

Oh and Mummycat is being induced Wednesday.

 

[sherylb]

Oh and Mummycat is being induced Wednesday.

I was wondering if she was getting to that point. I am up again in the middle of the night frustrated after another day of contractions and no baby. I have a doctor appointment at 9:40 and am hoping I have made some progress or I think I just might break down in his office. I printed the part of my sonogram DVD that has Kristin's calculated due date and am hoping that it's enough for him to offer to induce me and comply with hospital policy if she's not here by my due date since he usually induces at 39 weeks.

 

[Sun_Flower]

Loving the picture of Veronica, she's so gorgeous I've been crampy for three days now but nothing has come from it. Thought I might be leaking waters but I think it's just increased discharge. Never mind. She'll come when she's ready. Tempted to DTD, but I was SO uncomfortable the last time I did it, I don't think I'll be able to convince OH, lol.

 

[sherylb]

It didn't do anything to help me this weekend so if it is uncomfortable I think I would skip it.

 

[babyhopes2010]

DTD didnt help me either

 

[sherylb]

Darn stubborn babies! LOL.

 

[DrGomps]

I DTD a lot with DH the final weeks…it didn't start labor…but I am convinced it helped me efface/dilate…without that I wouldn't have been favorable for my induction. But it was awkward at times…but tis the last my DH gets for awhile…my poor lady parts hurt! I can't imagine ever doing it again…but I am sure that will change!!

 

[qwk]

She's super sweet alybel!

Good luck with the appointment Sheryl

Did I miss it, or have we had any updates from pip or nyn?

 

[qwk]

Also thought I'd share my new stressor - my mil just suddenly tried to invite herself to stay at our house starting tomorrow, I guess until baby is born, be in the delivery room, the whole shebang. She lives several states away so it'd be full on house guest. Now, keep in mind this is way, waaaaay out of left field! She has never even mentioned wanting to be there, and up until last night hadn't even committed to come visit baby until after thanksgiving! So she put DH in a very tight spot, but he held his ground even though she brought on the tears and started proclaiming she was "unwelcome" and all this.

It really hurts my feelings. We have (and by we, I mean "I") have always been sooooo inclusive of her; I invited her to our 20 week ultrasound, wedding dress shopping for our wedding - you name it! She usually doesn't even want to go or be a part of things. We have given everyone carte Blanche to come see the baby immediately after birth, to stay in our home. But now we are suddenly unwelcoming? Ugh. The real issue is, i think, that my mother is here. But that has always, ALWAYS been our plan, and my mom has been extremely involved in my whole pregnancy - not just the "fun" parts.

DH tried to tell her that we have a whole birth plan in place that is based on calm and relaxation - hypnobirthing; that we aren't sitting around partying with my mom - yesterday DH and I worked on our computers from home all day yesterday while my mom Read and knitted, and that it's just not going to work to shift the dynamic at this point . And MIL would NEVER be able to blend into this sort of situation. She has to constantly have tv on, is on her cell basically 24 hours a day, and demands DH's (and everyone else's) attention. I am quite sure I would be told and retold every horrific detail she could embellish up about her pregnancies 50 times if she was here (which huh, no, not what I'm looking for, but which has been the topic of conversation every time we have seen her since I've been pregnant). I can imagine being in active natural labor and her hounding me about how I should just get the epidural etc, as she already has. My mom on the other hand is super low key like DH and I, and had two wonderful natural births. THAT is what I need to hear about right now, not the tale of how you had 300 stitches after delivering 2.2 lb DH (also not even sure that is possible)...

All this said I totally love my MIL and get along with her! But this is just not appropriate. And it is just sad because despite how inclusive we have always been, I know this will just become a story she tells her friends about how she was dying to be at our birth and to "help out" and we wouldn't "let her"

 

[DrGomps]

Update from Pip

Nothing much to update here. Obs before bed, at 2.00 am and 6.00 am all fine. Not a lot of sleep due to superheated hospital! Just having breakfast then after a shower I'll be going back on the monitor for half an hour. Think I'm going to die of terminal boredom!!

another update...Pip: Just come off the monitor. HB fine. Lots more contractions than yesterday but not as intense. Can feel some nipping around cervix. Midwife thinks I'll need a second pessary but we'll know more this afternoon. Currently sat in conservatory where it is lovely and cool.

 

[DrGomps]

Also thought I'd share my new stressor - my mil just suddenly tried to invite herself to stay at our house starting tomorrow, I guess until baby is born, be in the delivery room, the whole shebang. She lives several states away so it'd be full on house guest. Now, keep in mind this is way, waaaaay out of left field! She has never even mentioned wanting to be there, and up until last night hadn't even committed to come visit baby until after thanksgiving! So she put DH in a very tight spot, but he held his ground even though she brought on the tears and started proclaiming she was "unwelcome" and all this.

It really hurts my feelings. We have (and by we, I mean "I") have always been sooooo inclusive of her; I invited her to our 20 week ultrasound, wedding dress shopping for our wedding - you name it! She usually doesn't even want to go or be a part of things. We have given everyone carte Blanche to come see the baby immediately after birth, to stay in our home. But now we are suddenly unwelcoming? Ugh. The real issue is, i think, that my mother is here. But that has always, ALWAYS been our plan, and my mom has been extremely involved in my whole pregnancy - not just the "fun" parts.

DH tried to tell her that we have a whole birth plan in place that is based on calm and relaxation - hypnobirthing; that we aren't sitting around partying with my mom - yesterday DH and I worked on our computers from home all day yesterday while my mom Read and knitted, and that it's just not going to work to shift the dynamic at this point . And MIL would NEVER be able to blend into this sort of situation. She has to constantly have tv on, is on her cell basically 24 hours a day, and demands DH's (and everyone else's) attention. I am quite sure I would be told and retold every horrific detail she could embellish up about her pregnancies 50 times if she was here (which huh, no, not what I'm looking for, but which has been the topic of conversation every time we have seen her since I've been pregnant). I can imagine being in active natural labor and her hounding me about how I should just get the epidural etc, as she already has. My mom on the other hand is super low key like DH and I, and had two wonderful natural births. THAT is what I need to hear about right now, not the tale of how you had 300 stitches after delivering 2.2 lb DH (also not even sure that is possible)...

All this said I totally love my MIL and get along with her! But this is just not appropriate. And it is just sad because despite how inclusive we have always been, I know this will just become a story she tells her friends about how she was dying to be at our birth and to "help out" and we wouldn't "let her"

Qwk, do you think she is jealous that your mom is there?? Definitely Stand your ground…you know whats best for you and you have your birth planned out you don't need the stress of her being there. Its a stressful enough process!! the nerve of her!! can you politely tell her she is welcome after the birth but that you can only handle one guest at a time. I think in this situation EVERYONE needs to be accommodating to you and your needs. YOu shouldn't have to worry about making everyone happy. Sounds like you are already doing all you can to accommodate her. Can DH talk to her?? Sorry you have to go through this right now…especially with D day so close…tomorrow!! EEKS!!

 

[qwk]

Thanks dr g - and fortunately DH handled the situation very nicely but firmly, so she won't be coming before. But as we always planned, she is welcome the second baby is born!

I guess I'm just so disappointed at the manufactured drama, you know? The total ridiculousness of her expecting to be accommodated in this situation - I can't even imagine anyone agreeing to this, now, day before due date!? Please! I told DH to have her poll her friends and see how many daughters-in-law were like sure, come get a front row ticket to my labor and delivery and oh, give me as little notice as possible!

And yeah, I think it's a jealousy thing about my overall relationship with my mom. She's made comments to DH that my mom and I are like, somehow weirdly close or something (for example that it was just bizarre that my mom gave me a foot rub when I was 28 weeks pregnant.... Um, ok, I didn't really think that was odd...) My mom and I ARE very close, but not in some weird co-dependent way or something. MIL has all sons though and I think she just doesn't understand.