Obsessed Due to Last Loss

[sallykate888]

Hi Ladies...

Looking for a bit of support if possible... I had a miscarraige back in July at just under 8 weeks. I am typically neurotic and as worrier, and had bad feelings about the pregnancy from the word go. It was my first pregnancy and I was obsessed with miscarrying. As it happens I lost all symtoms at 6.5 weeks, and by 7 weeks, was spotting, then bleeding, then lost the little one by just under 8. I am pleased to say I am pregnant again - currently just over 7 weeks, but finding the whole experience very difficult to deal with. I've generally felt more positive, but my symptoms (the few I have) seem to come and go.

I had my HCG tested a over Xmas (as I got so upset by loss of sypmtoms) and over a 72 hour period, they went from 8500 - 20,000 which my doctor was pleased with. This put my mind at rest for a week or so.

I was chatting with my Mum the other day aboout my minimal symptoms - I have had tender boobs, tiredness, cramping, and frequent urination. No morning sickness at all.

All of which have dissapeared in the last two days. I have actually only slept 9 hours in the last 48 because I'm constantly worrying.

No spotting or bleeding to speak of yet.

Can anyone draw from their experience and advise on how I can deal with this better?

I have a private scan booked for this Saturday.

Thanks in advance...

Sal.

 

[Hannah11]

I have not got any real advice but didn't want to read and run. I am 11 weeks pregnant after a mmc in June. Last time ( which was my first experience if pregnancy) all of my symptoms and i mean everything I could of run a marathon if felt that good went at about 7 weeks and did not return!!! At the time everyone told me I was being silly and that all would be fine! I know somwthing was wrong!!!!We discovered at my 12 week scan that our baby had died at 6 ish weeks even tho we had had a scan around the same time and we had see a hb. So I had a d&c which took me about 6 weeks to stop bleeding from and then we started to try again! I got my BFP in November.

Since then I have had a mixture of emotions but on the hole have managed to keep myself calm. I did have melt down at 6 weeks as all of my symptoms dissapeared again and my doctor sent me for a scan and all was well on the scan and my symptoms returned. symptoms have been feeling but not being sick, very tired and i little bit of tenderness in boobs. i am now 10 days off my 12 weeks scan and starting to get nervous as hell. I still have mild symptoms although they arw coming and going more now! I'm not sure how next week will pan out and the thought of walking i to that scan room and seeing nothing again fills me with dred!!! My only advice is that worrying will not change the out come apart from making u and the baby more stressed! My other thought and bear with me on this as I'm not sure I believe it myself is that I have been through it once and IF it happens again I will cope somehow and move on again!

Good luck and wishing u a happy and healthy 9 months x

 

[amjon]

I've been worried. I've had losses from chemical to 27 weeks, so I'll be nervous until they are out and healthy. I'm being watched by a high risk doctor and seen OFTEN (my boss actually starting complaining about how much I've been out). Symptoms do come and go in any pregnancy and I've never had much MS (even with my daughter who made it to 27 weeks and the twins I'm now 14 weeks with). I am terrified before each scan, but at every one everything looks good for both babies. I think the MFM thought I would lose one of the twins early on, but now is much more optimistic.