oh goodness what am i getting my self in for

[pink_phoenix]

wow defo had one of those days tday, scared my self some thing rotten
my emotions have been all over the place the last few days but they have been the worst ive ever know 2day

was out shopping with my best girlfriend and we wer in primart looking at shoes and all of a sudden all u heard was screaming and everyone spun on their heels, turned round just in time to see some horrible little child run down the shop and rip clothes off the rails throwing them around then threw her self on the floor kicking and screaming like some one was trying to kill her! she was closley follwed by a very tired and tested lookin woman with push chair and her shopping in toe and no matter how she tried this horrible little brat just wouldnt stop screaming and her OH just stood there watching with out batting an eye lid!! i think the whole shop felt sorry for the poor woman all that with obviously no help at all! i walked out of the shop and burst into tears................. what if that was to be me!!! what would i do, how would i cope and suddenly i just felt really lost and alone!!!
even tho me and the other half arnt really trying for a baby were arnt being careful either and im testing the end of next week to see if i could of concieved this cycle! its the first time its actualy dawned on me what i could be doing and kind of really scared me!!! has anyone else ever been shocked and scared by a simalar event? is it just me thats total freaked out? or is it more common than we think?

any opinions or advice would me very much appreciated x x x x
love pink

 

[Housewife83]

I think we all feel worried about our parenting skills. It is such a big unknown we can't possibly know what sort of parents we will be.

When you do have children there are bound to be times when they will test your patience - but there will be some many more wonderful moments.

Be gentle with yourself.

 

[pink_phoenix]

Thanks hun x x x

Think I was just feeling super emotional yesterday, don't feel to bad today x x x x

 

[Macwooly]

for you Pink Phoenix.

I agree with Housewife and think we all feel like that as it is the great unknown.

The other day I couldn't get one of my dogs to behave and burst into tears. Once I got home I said to DH if I can't get the dogs to behave how will I cope with a child.

You have a desire to be a great mum and worrying about things like this and wanting to prevent your child making a scene like that implies to me that you will make a great mum

 

[pink_phoenix]

for you Pink Phoenix.

I agree with Housewife and think we all feel like that as it is the great unknown.

The other day I couldn't get one of my dogs to behave and burst into tears. Once I got home I said to DH if I can't get the dogs to behave how will I cope with a child.

You have a desire to be a great mum and worrying about things like this and wanting to prevent your child making a scene like that implies to me that you will make a great mum

aww honey thanks thats such a nice thing to say, made me cry!! had a very trying day today and u have really made my day!

i can never control my dog but shes so spoilt and so cute she gets away with it haha

you sound to have a good head on ur shoulders tho and im sure and baba would be lucky to have u as mama x x x x

 

[Macwooly]

aww honey thanks thats such a nice thing to say, made me cry!! had a very trying day today and u have really made my day!

i can never control my dog but shes so spoilt and so cute she gets away with it haha

you sound to have a good head on ur shoulders tho and im sure and baba would be lucky to have u as mama x x x x

Thank you for your comment too x

I want to ask questions about your dog now but that is so OT

 

[pink_phoenix]

haha go for it, would be a change to talkin about dpo, bfp withces and everythin else haha x x

 

[Macwooly]

Nooooooooooo I'm one of those who could bore for Britain when I get started on dogs and cats

 

[pink_phoenix]

haha me too, ive got the dog and a cat i rescued about 6months ago!! i love them to bits, they been my babies up to now hehe just hoping for the extra addition x x x x

 

[Macwooly]

Goodness I remember the days I had one cat & one dog Now got 4 dogs (lightest is 25kg) and 3 cats and all 7 are from rescue

Is your dog used to babies & children? One of my dogs runs in fear from children and no one will let me have their kids around her because of her breed (Rottweiler) even though she is a big softy

So we've got a tape with noises, we have baby products (talc, shampoo, etc) which we use & put on blankets to go on all the dogs' beds to they get used to the smell and we've got a pushchair/pram so get the dogs used to it. Just trying to do all we can think of to get the dogs used to baby stuff in case we get lucky with a BFP

We think we'll buy a baby doll with realistic noises if we can find one to help them get used to a more realistic scenario with a crying baby. Also will get them used to not being able to bother me when I have baby in my arms.

I'm sure it will be ok if a baby joins the family but I do worry about the adjustment the furbabies will have to make. I just worry too much I think although DH said last night if I had nothing to worry about I'd worry about the fact I have nothing to worry about

 

[OmiOmen]

It is natural to worry and shows that you care but there is no way to tell exactly what your child will be like. Also some (clearly not all) of the time children bad behaviour comes from parents allowing their kids to get away with anything. So many times recently I have seen children act out because they were just trying to nicely talk to their parents but were getting ignored.

Also, I would not worry about your parenting style yet because you do not know what it is yet. I do not mean this in a negative way but I know my ideas about parenting are nothing like how they are now I have a son. I can not even begin to list the things I staid I would/would not do and have changed my mind on.

On the pet point, I have 2 dogs and a cat and we never got them ready for my son coming home (although we were confident) and they all get along great. My old, diabetic golden Labrador mostly stays out of DS's way, my younger black Lab LOVES him and they are pretty much inseparable and my cat likes an odd snuggle and tickle from him. So if your lucky having pet's and a baby cen be really easy. As you can see Jet loved him right away and my cat loves to be near him when he has fallen asleep on my and the last one was taken yesterday.
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[pink_phoenix]

macwooly; the dog is amazing with the kids, my sister has 5 kids from 12 yrs down to 6months so shes pretty much been brought up around them! id trust her 100% with any child shes so well natured, she also sits guard of my sister when ever shes been pregnant she such a beautiful soul we love her to bits
the cat we have only had for 6 months and altho hes not a fan of the adults he always appears when he hears the kids voices n just plonks him self in the middle of them haha

omiomen; your pictures are beautiful, we have a few funy ones of my eldest nephew and our dog as they have always been best of friends wil have to see if i can dig any out x x x x x x

 

[OmiOmen]

I love to see baby/toddler and pet photos.

 

[Macwooly]

Thank you both for telling me about your dogs and how they are with children and babies. I suppose I over worry as I don't know many people with children so struggle to socialise the dogs near children.

All my dogs have lovely natures and adore people. I know my 3 boys will fine as they lived with children either in their previous homes or in their foster homers before we got them. My bitch was born in rescue and met loads of children then but hasn't met any since living with us but she is so maternal when younger animals come into the home.

Photos of my dogs can be seen on this thread: https://www.babyandbump.com/not-trying-not-preventing/569896-anyone-want-buddy-40-year-ntnp.html

 

[pink_phoenix]

my dog was only a few weeks old when she first met our 1st niece and she just threw her self on the floor at her feet looked like she was playing dead haha! kids have pulled ears tails nipples eye lashes fallen on her used hers as a seat smacked her with stuff stollen her food and all sorts and she just gives them the sad eyes hahahaha x x x x

 

[Macwooly]

Do I guess Staffordshire Bull Terrier or staffie mix?

 

[pink_phoenix]

yea shes a staffie cross boxer shes so beautiful hehe
shes defo more like a staffie tho x x x x x x x

 

[Macwooly]

Such good breeds around children I love both but they are both too energetic for me and DH

 

[Camlet]

I understand that your worryed & I'm afraid all children have there tantrums no matter how much other parents pretend there kids are little angels that do nothing wrong but I just wanted to say to everybody please think before you judge you don't know the full story my son has what we call 'meltdowns' because he does completly lose control & we get judged for it but if you knew the full story you would know he's not a 'little brat' he is actualy autistic & also has slight brain damage from having meningitis & something has either happened or changed from his routine or from what he feels comfortable with & he simply just can't cope with it & completly loses control& I'm afraid the only way to stop him is to just ignore him so he can eventualy calm himself down. I'm not trying to argue or get sympathy I'm just trying to make others aware that you don't always know the full story so please don't judge!! my son is normaly a very quite polite little boy but simply can't cope with change & yes I may look exausted but having a disabled child is exausting & stressful enough without people staring & pointing at him & judging my parenting skills as I said I'm not trying to argue I'm just letting you know not every child you see playing up is not a brat xx

 

[Camlet]

Haha just looked at that sorry there is a few errors there was trying to write fast & it obviosly didn't work stupid iPhone lol xx