OH won't break up with me!

[trinaestella]

Seriously, sick of how he treats me and I may aswell be a single parent, I know I can do better than him. I won't go in to detail of what he does, but just sick of the relationship and arguments everyday.
I break up with him, and he always comes back with an excuse of no where to stay and then I feel bad, what do I do? I need him gone for good he just wont leave me alone!!


He called me to do his washing, comes home and complains I washed the wrong clothes, do you really know how much I am sick of this??! I hate him so much I sometimes imagine myself poisoning his food, and before I get to that stage I need him gone.

 

[trinaestella]

He comes in and invites his friends, smokes in the house treats my home like shit! And not once did he flippin help me when i was heavily pregnant to get this house, then he's out all day and night doing things never wants to spend time with us. omg what do i do i want him gone i really dont know what to do my heart cant take this anymore, i have so much hate and a bit of love still, thats why its so hard

 

[moomin_troll]

Wow!
Well it really is as simple as if u want him gone dump him, don't let him back in the house and tell him no its over.

Stick to ur guns if u feel this strongly

 

[trinaestella]

Just so hard because i still have a bit of feelings for him, he wont take his clothes and always comes back saying he needs them and he's going to go, and if i dont let him in he rings my mum and all sorts making it out to be a big issue then i look like the bad one. im seriously so stressed out, im not even typing with proper grammar.. lol, i jst give up now to be honest, i feel im going to die of a heart attack thats how wound up he gets me he makes me feel unwell

 

[moomin_troll]

Pack his things up for him and put them outside. As for him callin ur mum, that's so childish. She should have ur back when he does this.

But then again so what if u look like"the bad guy"? Ur not happy with him, so there's no point and u can't have a child growing up in this environment.
If the feelings aren't enough to make u want to be with him then I say do what needs to be done and don't let him bk in

 

[creatingpeace]

Not to be harsh but if you really wanted him to be gone, he would be gone!

Likely you are stioll on the fence. Took me about a year of back and forth to make up my mind and leave for good.

Respect yourself and move forward with your life. Take your time think it through.

 

[fairydust87]

How about getting a restraining order?

 

[ravenmel]

My ex was like that. I'd break it off but he kept coming back, hence baby number 2 but my heart wasn't in it no more and when he said one day his off, I said BYE and happily closed the door behind him. I think he was shocked I imgaine that he thought he could leave do as he wants and come back as I was pregnant at the time, not this girl haha.

Don't end up like me with 2 kids for a waste of space. It's hard to walk away when you have kids together. Even when they've done some crazy things to you, but as you said you deserve better and so does your child. Dump him and don't fall for that 'I have no where to go stuff' , be harsh, once it's over his not your concern. Give him his clothes or put them in a bag outside and cut contact unless it's about baby, if he tries to argument or talk about something else hang up or walk away.

 

[Jennifurball]

Be strong and stay away, I kept letting ex back in my life more than I should have of letting him see our daughter, I was letting him get back in my head, making me think we could try again which would be ridiculous, we have already split twice, it is only now I feel strong enough to consider being with anyone else. It is hard but you get there and when you do, it feels like a weight has been lifted.

 

[CandyDay]

If you really truly do want him gone then he would be gone.
If you don't want him to have an excuse to come back then as a PP said pack up all his clothes one day when he is out. Put them at the front door for him with a note saying goodbye. And if you need to then change the locks as well.