Ok I know i'm early but - how did you choose your birthing partner?

[scared1]

Hey

well i've started telling my close friends about the situation (earlier thread) and they have been appalled by the Cowards actions. they have all been really supportive which is lovely but so far 2 have volunteered to be at the birth and i think a third is about to! i've blagged it so far that i don't know 100% what i'm doing or what the process is but what a tuffy! I've got my best mate since i was 3 and whithout a doubt will be godparent, another mate who has just qualified as a nurse (maybe handy to have around?) and one that if he offers i will just die! we have known each other for 10 years but i'm not sure we want to know that much detail about each other *LOL*

How did you all choose and did you have to let anyone down gently?

 

[xJG30]

I chose my parents, my dad chickened out but they were the only ones i wanted there

 

[Younglutonmum]

I didn't even need to think about it. I chose my mum. Friends offered but weren't offended when turned down. A good friend will understand it's a very private moment

 

[brownhairedmom]

You need someone you don't mind seeing you at your worst. You could be crying, screaming, cursing, pooping...all while pushing a baby out. You need someone who you don't care if you crap yourself in front of them!!

In my case, its going to be a doctor and whoever he only ABSOLUTELY needs in that room that is essential to delivery. I don't want anyone with me, I'd rather do it by myself. If I could born her myself without any help I would. I don't want anyone around me.

 

[kiwimama]

As Rae said - you need to choose the person who you don't mind loosing all your dignity in front of - you will be screaming, swearing, pooping, bleeding etc in front of the person you choose. Mum's seem to be a common trend. Good luck!

 

[fairywings]

You need someone you don't mind seeing you at your worst. You could be crying, screaming, cursing, pooping...all while pushing a baby out. You need someone who you don't care if you crap yourself in front of them!!

In my case, its going to be a doctor and whoever he only ABSOLUTELY needs in that room that is essential to delivery. I don't want anyone with me, I'd rather do it by myself. If I could born her myself without any help I would. I don't want anyone around me.

Sorry, I just found that comment really sad. I know it is ur choice and u probably have your reasons, but it is still sad. I really needed my mum there even though my OH was there . . .

 

[smashlea]

i'm going to have my mum there, she's been through it herself, n shes a really calm person so she was my natural choice.

 

[brownhairedmom]

You need someone you don't mind seeing you at your worst. You could be crying, screaming, cursing, pooping...all while pushing a baby out. You need someone who you don't care if you crap yourself in front of them!!

In my case, its going to be a doctor and whoever he only ABSOLUTELY needs in that room that is essential to delivery. I don't want anyone with me, I'd rather do it by myself. If I could born her myself without any help I would. I don't want anyone around me.

Sorry, I just found that comment really sad. I know it is ur choice and u probably have your reasons, but it is still sad. I really needed my mum there even though my OH was there . . .

How is it sad? I just don't want anyone there. I don't have an OH, my mother is hysterical and I wouldn't want her there, and I just don't want anyone to see me like that. Its bad enough having the doctors in there, I just can't stand the thought of anyone being in the room with me when I'm pushing. I'll have my mother there while I'm in labour of course, but when it comes time to push, she's out.

 

[Faerie]

Although technically not a single parent, hope you don't mind me crashing. My DH works away for 6 days out of 11, and he's a pilot so it's kind of hard to plan around. I really don't know who I will have as my birthing partner. I have my mum, and 2 sisters in this country. I can all see them taking offence if not chosen! I would choose one of my sister above the others but don't know how to break it to them.

 

[Serene123]

You need someone you don't mind seeing you at your worst. You could be crying, screaming, cursing, pooping...all while pushing a baby out. You need someone who you don't care if you crap yourself in front of them!!

In my case, its going to be a doctor and whoever he only ABSOLUTELY needs in that room that is essential to delivery. I don't want anyone with me, I'd rather do it by myself. If I could born her myself without any help I would. I don't want anyone around me.

Sorry, I just found that comment really sad. I know it is ur choice and u probably have your reasons, but it is still sad. I really needed my mum there even though my OH was there . . .

How is it sad? I just don't want anyone there. I don't have an OH, my mother is hysterical and I wouldn't want her there, and I just don't want anyone to see me like that. Its bad enough having the doctors in there, I just can't stand the thought of anyone being in the room with me when I'm pushing. I'll have my mother there while I'm in labour of course, but when it comes time to push, she's out.

You're going to be in labour not at a beauty parade. They're not going to expect you to look your best! I was worried too, but when it came time, I had all sorts of people popping in and out (sister, friends, OH, mum).

 

[fairywings]

You need someone you don't mind seeing you at your worst. You could be crying, screaming, cursing, pooping...all while pushing a baby out. You need someone who you don't care if you crap yourself in front of them!!

In my case, its going to be a doctor and whoever he only ABSOLUTELY needs in that room that is essential to delivery. I don't want anyone with me, I'd rather do it by myself. If I could born her myself without any help I would. I don't want anyone around me.

Sorry, I just found that comment really sad. I know it is ur choice and u probably have your reasons, but it is still sad. I really needed my mum there even though my OH was there . . .

How is it sad? I just don't want anyone there. I don't have an OH, my mother is hysterical and I wouldn't want her there, and I just don't want anyone to see me like that. Its bad enough having the doctors in there, I just can't stand the thought of anyone being in the room with me when I'm pushing. I'll have my mother there while I'm in labour of course, but when it comes time to push, she's out.

OK, OK, calm down, I did not mean it a dirogative way, I meant in a way. I just know I would not like to go through it all alone, I was not having a go. Just saying. Good for u if u want to do it alone but I couldn't that is all.

So sorry I riled u!

 

[brownhairedmom]

I'm not freaking out, I was just explaining why I want it that way.

 

[fairywings]

ok, fair enough.

Wish I had never made my comment now, I never meant anything by it . . .

 

[scared1]

my mate said (shes been through it) she wouldn't have anyone there that hadn't had a baby themselves, she said it can be traumatic, she was partner to her sister-in law shortly after having her own son and there was problems and she said had she have witnessed it all before having her baby she wouldn't have gone through it, she thinks it would have scared her