Omfg!!!! Im fuming!

[Ash_P]

My MIL is just off the foe to me. She told me shes been trying to build up the courage to tell me now for a week, and decided she needed to tell me as she didnt want me hearing from someone else, and then me know that she knew and never told me (if that all makes sense)
That arsehole that Im married to is going away to Gran Canaria for a week with his girl at the end of the month.
Knowing I wanted a 4d scan and told me he couldnt afford one. Knowing I need stuff for baby and I cant afford it on my own. And hes taking that tramp away for a week!!! ALL ON HIM!!!

My blood is boiling!!!!!!!!!

 

[purpledahlia]

oh. dear. What a complete arse! I would cut him off! What a cheeky git! Are you gonna say something to him?? he cant provide a LITTLE BIT for his child but he can go to gran canaria!? argh!! x

 

[Ash_P]

Im not saying anything to him as I dont want to speak to him. I havent spoke to him in nearly 3 weeks. I just want him to fall off the face of the earth and never reappear. I sit and pray for the day that he falls flat on his face, cause when he does, im gonna be standing there infront of him laughing!
Im so angry rite now I am sitting thinking of ways on how to make his life a misery. But i know thats lowering myself to his level. I just wish that he would suffer the way I have.
His is going bankrupt, losing his house, and it doesnt bother him, he just shrugs it off. So if something so major like that doesnt affect him how can anything else!

 

[KaeRit21]

oh. my. god. no wonder your raging. what a complte asshole!!!
what did his mum say, i seriously hope shes not defending his actions!!

im glad you've cut him out, i know its shite hows he acting and what hes done but you two ar better off without him and ul have nothing to thank him for!!

cant believe he wont provide ANYTHING for his child but hel bugger off to Gran Canaria???. i hope it rains and the wind howls for a week!!! the arse!!!

hugs for you hun

xxxx

 

[lou_w34]

I agree with kaerit21!!! I hope it rains all week! And to make it worse i hope all their luggage gets lost on the way there and they have to spend the week without any clothes! I also hope they loose their passports and get stranded over there! heehee

I cant believe it, there are no words to describe how selfish he is being!!
What has his mum said? I spose its hard for her as it is her son... but still!!!!

I hope your ok
Try not to let it get to you.... much easier said then done i know

 

[Ash_P]

his mum is disgusted with him, they have handed out thousands to try and keep him in the house for as long as possible before posession proceedings start, and he had the neck to ask her for his birthday and xmas money early so he can have spending money for the holiday. She didnt wanna tell me and upset or annoy me, but felt i should know as if i found out from someone else (which I would have) id of lost it with her for keeping it from me.
Shes ashamed to call him her son, she actualy used the term..... My son is a B*stard! And she isnt the type to swear.

I am just reaching the stage were i completely dispise him. I dont want him near my child when its born.
Il end up smacking him in the face with a sterilizer!

My mum always said something when we were younger and im only realising what it meant.
The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world! And boy is that sh*thead gonna see that soon enough.

 

[purpledahlia]

hes such a twat, im glad his mum is on 'your side' tho. She knows how it goes, she wants to see her grandchild! He doesnt deserve to even know his baby, id def just leave him to get on with it, totally shitty behaviour, but outwith your control. You'll be so proud doing / getting everything yourself, honestly, i just got told id get my £500 tomorrow grant and im so happy i dont need ANYTHING from FOB..he can shove it where the sun dont shine!

 

[Ash_P]

Im still waitin on my grants ffs! its taking ages and I seriously need money. Iv been buying things for baby each week a and when I have the money. Some of his family (on his dads side) said they were buying XY&Z but im not holding my breath. His mum has paid for the pram and his family (mums side) have all been wonderful and very supportive.
He is telling me that he wants to be involved in babies life etc, but hes got a funny way of showing it. Id really prefere that he would just be honest and tell me he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, rather than put on this show for people and try and make himself look like a good person. Cause he is failing miserably.

i f*cking hate men, i hope that bitch he is with, strips him bare of everything and leaves him standing with the clothes on his back and nothing else.

(I sound like a bitter cow!)

 

[lauramarie]

oh hun i know exactly how you feel, my ex booked a holiday for him and his tramp the week before my LO was due, he never bought anything for my son and still hasn't. anyway last i heard about it he was accusing me of stealing his passport wtf!! have no idea whether he actually went on holiday, but don't think he did ha ha!! so hopefully karma will kick in and your ex won't get to go!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

You dont sound like a bitter cow. Just someone thats going through a rough time at the minute with money worries and a FOB that says he cant afford to pay for such and such etc and yet can pay to go to Gran Canaria for a week!!! I would be absolutely fuming...he should get his priorities right. Im glad though that your MIL is being pretty supportive and sounds embarrassed over her sons actions!

Sending lots of rainy/stormy/lost luggage/lost passports/stolen wallet vibes towards gran canaria!

i hope you get your grant soon! I dont qualify til babys born coz i dont get income support or jobseekers allowance coz i work 12hours a week and even then ...might not qualify Hoping I do ...im not completely broke but without my familys support and help...i could never manage!

 

[tinkabells]

What a w*nkstain!!!
Least his mum has told you, but lets hope this other bird des what he has done to you, it will come back to him!!! xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

Dont worry about money i was wxactly the same, no job, barely any money etc and i was panicking but looking at things now i actually dont think i NEED a huge amount more, Bedding really and blankets. But just buy one thing a week and anything extra when you can, remember you will get lots of gifts. Im not getting a bouncer or swing or anything but family all wanna help so they can contribute to them afterwards, You still have quite a while yet so dont stress.

 

[Ash_P]

Thanks girls. I know in the long run il be ok financally i just crack up that he is such an arse.
I get so annoyed at times cause theres so many nice girls on here, and I look at the sh*t we have all been thru and I wonder what we have all done to deserve being punished with such w*nkers of men. Only good thing is we are make sure our kids dont turn out the same.

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah, i will tell hollie about her dad, i wouldnt bad mouth him infront of her, i prefer to pratice my voodoo in private haha
but yeah just buy things bits at a time, i got most my stuff from matalan as tey had deals on there bedding and blankets, got quite a few bits off here from other mums and primark is godsend!!! xxx

 

[KaeRit21]

dont worry hun, the saying that "a baby brings its own" is very true and i honestly thought when my mum said that she was talking mince.

you and baby wil be fine and you'l be so proud of yourself because you'll have done it on your own and will have nothing to thank him for. its his loss, and its HIM thats going to need to explain himself when bubs is old enough to ask him where he was when he should have been there for you and him/her.

easier said than done but try not to stress, uv still got time and a little goes a long way.

you dont sound bitter at all. rage away. hes an ass and the tramp hes with will do to him what hes done to you and you'l be able to stand back and laugh at him whilst holding your baby in your arms aand your head up high. way high

xxxxx

 

[Novbaby08]

I hope he catches something from her.

BTW you don't have to let him see your baby at all. Its really up to you.
I don't let my "sperm donor" see our daughter but I take her up to see his grandparents several times a month

 

[Ash_P]

I woke up this morning still angry. I cant believe him, (he doesnt know that I know he is going away) and the w*nker had the neck to text me and ask me could be borrow a suitcase - FOR A WORK TRIP!! What a load of sh*te. I deleted the message - I am NOT replying. When I text him about the baby or the pregnancy he cant be bothered to reply, or it takes him a week to answer me. So i think I mite just "forget" to reply just like he does.
God he is such a loser!!

WHY IS KARMA SOOOO SLOW

 

[lou_w34]

I would! Just dont bother to reply... or take as long as he does to reply. Then if he gets shitty about it, say your just doing what he does to you, so basically he can go and jog on.

Im so glad his mum is being so supportive towards you.

Trust me, when you have brought all the things you need you will feel so proud of yourself, you still have time, and try not to stress about it, soooo much easier said than done.

I cant believe he had the nerve to ask you for a suitcase... He is such a tosser!!

Dont worry, he'll soon get whats comming to him

 

[Novbaby08]

I wouldn't even tell him about how the baby or pregnancy are going