omg. could my ex cause any more problems for our son?!

[MummyMummy]

my lawd girlies. i am NOT impressed.

when ex went to his solicitor around 9months or so ago, it was agreed that my son would have nothing to do with his parents (several reasons - ranging from them threatening to slap me, to 'knocking' out ex, threatening to take us to court for grandparents rights, ignoring me and ex when we didn't have baby with us, waking baby up when he was asleep, not wanting to see baby unless it was at their house on their terms... reguardless. i don't want my son around people like that tbh.) well a week or so ago baby said to us 'i been here with my other nanny' - the place we was was opposite where she works butNOBODY hadever taken baby to that place. then few days ago we were driving past a famous *Slaps bum* super market when baby said 'my other nanny lives there. with a green dress' surprise surprise that asda is where she works and green are asdas colours!! when we got home i got an old photo album out and said 'who's that with that little baby?' baby was him btw and he said 'my other nanny mummy' !! WTF?! i am really surprised andhurt.. although mr.man and my grandad said well we aren't surprised, we expected it. i never thought he would be that low to go behind my back. saying that though, no matter how many times i said i don't want his gf around baby till they'd actually been together a while he still did (same as him wanting every other gf he's had in the past around the baby even if they were nothing serious gf's!!!!) - although after her slaging me off and the sly/snide comments she's made about me and then baby coming back announcing the word 'snogging' (at 3!!!!) and that 'daddy and sarah always kiss infront of me' i don't want her around my child fullstop now. dear god... look after your child on your own. spend some quality time with HiM ffs!

i posted about baby having to be assessed by a healthy visitor due to him having 'anxiety issues' (her words) due to his dads actions and talking/debating to himeself about loving/seeing his daddy... so now not only has his daddy buggered off, but he now thinks (at 3 and never knowing any different!) that there is another person in his life who is 'my other nanny' that has suddenly dissapeared too!

ffs seriously. what the hell is my ex trying to do to my son?! he hasn't seen baby for like a month now, no calls, no maintenance, no school fees, no nothing so i am just waiting till he goes to solicitors again about how my son will 'bennefit greatly' from a relationship with him! always good to know that he can mess up/introduce whoever to my son walk away then come back and start the process all over again! i am so stressing out over all this and at nearly 36weeks preg it isn't the best way to be

xXx

 

[xJG30]

Awww, so sorry you're going through this, sounds like your ex is abit of a twat.

Hope you can sort things out with baby

 

[DizzyMoo]

I wear a huge " been there done that " tshirt for this , I've been through this too hun. My son is now 3 & half & for the last 3 yrs 3mth his "sperm donor" has done nothing but mess with his head. I always said the same unless the gf is serious then i don't want him to be introduced time & time again, Which caused a fuss. Then i stopped "sperm donor" taking son to "sperm donors" parents as his mum chain smoked around him, Quite obviously & clearly chose her grand-daughter over my son. She never asked to see him not once, One day his "spermdonor" asked to take son with him,his daughter & his mum in to town, But he never showed for him leaving my son crying once again (lost count how many times i've seen tears) So upon phoning him i get his mother saying SHE did not want my son to go with her as she wanted quality time with her gd, baring in mind her gd visits 2-3 times a week !! My son she prob sees every few mth passing in the street, Anyway i went nuts basically saying how dare she choose grandkids over eachother, I seriously fell out with her & said ok my son no longer goes at all fullstop zippo. His "spermdonor" left it 3 mth before gettin in touch with yet another gf, failed to show for him. Then arranges several more times to see him, 2 of these times he took him to the pub for the whole day & got drunk filling him up on quavers & coke!
I put stipulations on him having him, no gfs, no going to his mums, no pubs etc.
He did everyone of them behind my back.
It came time to get my son out of nappies at bedtime (he was dry during day) i wasnt pushing it no rush i thought, at his own time no fuss. Etc worked fine at home but as soon as he went to stop at his "sperm donors" he put him straight back in a nappy. filled him up on takeaway foods , choc, crisps & all the magnums he could eat! HELLO he'd just gone 3 ! The table really turned when my son (in feb) came home twice saying "look at my big balls mummy" , and then the " you've got big boooooobies mummy " , Asking who said these ..." daddy " was the reply. From that moment on i've never let him go since, His " sperm donor" asked the 1st wk for him then once the other week & thats it nothing, Now ok i told him to leave us alone & never contact us again ...but if that was me who wasnt allowed to see my child i'd of been banging the solicitors door down wouldnt you?

Theres other stuff happened inbetween to warrant me saying sod off for good, I found it very hard at 1st to say no as i believe my son should have a daddy in his life & i know what its like growing up with a deadbeat dad so that wasnt what i wanted. I met my boyf who took my son on as his own & turned him round so much it made me love him more, I even agreed to have his baby even though i swore id never do it again on my own, but silly me eh . Im preg again now & my boyf is nowhere to be seen & i feel totally to blame for letting my guard down, Now im going to be a single mum again & tbh its thrown me right back into the gutter (sobs) But i do know where you are coming from. xx

 

[Shireena__x]

oh my gosh hugs hun, nd hugs for dizzy moo also xxxxx