on her due date....

[LoolaBear]

on Sonnie's due date i am going to set her free. (06/03/2011 goingby scan but she had stunted growth so actually it could have been sooner due to her meassuring differently at the scan)
as she was so tiny i couldnt get any ashes from her cremation so what i am going to do is take the little hat my mum knitted for her, her photo, her hand and foot prints and burn them and set the ashes free. im going to keep some of the ashes and seal them in a locket but this will be my way of spreading her 'ashes' and setting her free to fly.
what do you guys think? ive been thinking so much about it and i think even though ive learnt to cope with her falling into forever sleep and that ive managed to come to terms on the fact that she wouldve jsut been too poorly for earth and her growing wings when she did stopped her from suffering i still feel like i need to let go and i think, no i know, setting her free like this will give me closure.
no need to reply if you dont know what to say i just thought maybe if i gave my idea it might help others come to terms with their losses and help give them closure on what has happened. xx

 

[babesx3]

Thats a lovely idea
floaty for your angel
and for u XXX

 

[iloveblue]

My due date is 2 days later than yours LoolaBear - not looking forward to it. I think we are going to plant a tree.
Would you not want to keep hand/foot prints as a lasting memento? - don't think I could part with mine. Or you could photocopy them - so you will always have a copy.
xxx

 

[LoolaBear]

My due date is 2 days later than yours LoolaBear - not looking forward to it. I think we are going to plant a tree.
Would you not want to keep hand/foot prints as a lasting memento? - don't think I could part with mine. Or you could photocopy them - so you will always have a copy.
xxx

ive got her hands and foot prints imprinted in my memory. and a necklace around my neck that tells me shes always with me. memories mean more to me though.
i need to do it to let her go, im one of these people that if i hold onto things i will always think about the what ifs and stay in the past mulling it over no matter how much i try to move on, so if i set her free i will always have my treasured memories i have of holding her and holding her tiny little hand and seeing her precious little fingers and toes, to me these mean more. and as i get older and become more forgetful i have it all written down in my diary just to jog my memory again so i will never forget her.
and she was the splitting image of her big sister when she was born so i know everytime i look at her big sister im also looking at her which makes me smile. xxx

 

[purpleposting]

My due date is 2 days later than yours LoolaBear - not looking forward to it. I think we are going to plant a tree.
Would you not want to keep hand/foot prints as a lasting memento? - don't think I could part with mine. Or you could photocopy them - so you will always have a copy.
xxx

I agree, I know it is your decision ultimately, but I would want to keep something, or how about you take a photo of the things and prints before you make them your ashes? Then you can put the photo in your memory book for you to look back on when you're older and you'll always have a permanent memory and you'll be able to show others (if u want to) the items in the photo and what is therefore in your locket too.

 

[medicmama]

What a beautiful way to memorialize your angel. So sorry for your loss

 

[MaevesMummy]

Beautiful loolabear. It sounds perfect.
xxxxx

 

[Peril]

It sounds like a really lovely idea Loola. I am pleased to see that you are being so strong and looking to move forward. I remember this happening, and how much of a shock it was. Big hugs and much best wishes xxx

 

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