On Pelvic Rest *sigh*

[Ninagrrl]

So a week ago I was put on pelvic rest due to spotting. At the time I was just told no penetration but with all these hormones running rampant inside of me I have been having some pretty strong sex dreams. I put it off for days to the point of getting turned on while watching my Sims make out on their bed!!! I had to do something so I took care of it... so to speak. Just after I went to the bathroom and already I had spotting. It was pinkish, not bright red like it has been at times but it scared me. So I have been doing a lot of research and now I know that I shouldn't be lifting my son... who is 3 and a half but he has hypotonia and just started walking a year ago and still falls a lot and doesn't climb into the car and sometimes has trouble getting up in a chair to eat.

Then on the other side is those darn hormones again. This is going to be a long pregnancy if I stay on pelvic rest past the first trimester. Has anyone else been in a similar situation before and how long did you have to wait before you could be intimate again? Does it get worse then this or kind of plateau?

 

[TicToc]

My doc put me on pelvic rest for a few days just till I saw him for an early scan because I have a history of early mc... it was a very long three days. And then when he said we could again, we were both so nervous. And I was afraid to climax even if there was no penetration just in case it was harmful somehow. Well, I did and everything seemed ok but we are still nervous. I have been very ill for the last several days and I feel so bad for DH because he is doing so much for me right now and I know he is pent up. So we have a deal he can wake me up in the middle of the night because that seems to be the only time I am not choking back vomit. Unless I get a drink of water...then I will be sick even then.

Sorry no advice really, just wanted you to know you are not suffering alone!

 

[Perplexed]

I had to go on pelvic rest for 10 days to 2 weeks then able to slowly be intimate again. And I bled twice and they were maybe three weeks apart so it felt like a long time for my hubby but I personally was suffering too much with constant MS to really even want to be intimate so I didn't feel like I was missing out on too much LOL but when we were able to be intimate again it was great, so not like I completely didn't want to. Now when I am not constantly sick I feel I would be really frustrated if I were placed on pelvic rest again. Still mostly supposed to be resting but okay'ed for dtd by my doc.

 

[jammers77]

I've had a few of those dreams myself, with climax. Wakes me up, it's so strong. Freaks me out because I feel the contracting of the uterus. There has been no intimacy for me since baby making days. lol Hubby and I were just talking about it this morning, and he said, "When that womb is full, it's a no go for me." LOL For some reason, he's protective of the baby and doesn't want sex. And to be honest, I don't either. I've always had a diminished sex drive during pregnancy.

 

[Ninagrrl]

Well, I'm diabetic, most likely have PCOS. My sex drive is usually so low that my SO is lucky if I'm interested more then once a week to every other week. Sometimes I just take care of him so that he doesn't go crazy... He is usually so great about it, though, knowing it's low for medical reasons and not about him. I have MS off and on and when it's on, I pretty much just sleep. But when it's off, it seems that all I can think about is sex.

This baby is more important then the desire to have sex so it's not like I can't abstain... it's just really annoying when that's nearly all you can think about and even the slightest mention of something remotely intimate causes my abdomen to tighten in a physical interest. This has been going on a couple times a day for me for a week now. It's so annoying and frustrating.

 

[penguin1]

I've been on rest for over 2 wks now. Couldn't hold off so we were cautiously intimate Thurs night. I had red bleeding Fri morning and luckily already had an appt and an u/s that put my mind at rest to see the hb 105 and strong. I ratted myself out and he told me that was fairly normal but ABSOLUTELY no "hanky panky" lol. Ugg my poor dh and I myself had those very real dreams. I'm glad I'm not the only one! My dh said,"Ok if it's for the kids sake." I am guessing I will be in rest myself until my brownish spotting stops. This is getting rediculous though

 

[penguin1]

sorry, haven't quite figured out how to get my ticker on my posts. he he

 

[inperfected]

Let me put it this way. Just don't.

The pelvic rest is for a reason. Massive bleed here at 14 weeks (and 8, 10, 11.5, 12, 13 and 14). The 14 week one was because I thought I'd "be ok", but a night of contractios after it told me otherwise. The next "I thought it'd be ok" (note, the bleed hadn't stopped even then) was at 27.5 weeks. That one had my son born 1.5 weeks later at 29 weeks. If you are having a bleed, please please, do the pelvic rest, even though it's hard. 2 months in hospital with a premmie is not worth it. Theres some lifting you can't avoid (I have a 23 month old who's started walking a few days ago, the ex prem, so I get what you mean), but do your best. it's not easy

 

[Ninagrrl]

Well, truth be told, my bleeding has been ebbing off. I think some of it might be related to the fact that my ginger tea had licorice root which isn't approved during pregnancy and my Acai Berry tea has habiscus in it which can promote bleeding. I've stopped drinking the tea and so two days after no spotting I decided to try and see if I was okay to O and it started the spotting again for a few hours. I'm 2 days out from that event and don't dare try until maybe my second trimester as long as everything goes okay and I don't have any more bleeding.

I know I have a luteal phase defect with a 6 - 10 day luteal phase making it slim to impossible for me to get pregnant to begin with. I've charted and at the end of my luteal phase and beginning of my estrous cycle. It jumps up and down like a zig zag across the chart, temp going up and down as much as a degree for 3 to 4 days each end of the cycle. It's like my body has a hard time switching from the end of my cycle back to the beginning but doesn't do this mid cycle where I can tell ovulation and when my luteal phase starts. Because of this, I question my progesterone production and am aware that a low progesterone production can cause bleeding and miscarriage even if the baby is healthy and strong otherwise. Knowing that is very scary! Not 100% sure but I think that progesterone is one of the hormones responsible for keeping your cervix closed? Or am I wrong on that one?