On the road again graduates

[Topanga053]

Topanga and Left and Starry, after reading all your no sleep stories, it sounds like the old myth of pregnant women sleeping all the time is a fluke! especially when you hear people say stuff like: "oh get all the sleep you can now, because later when they're born you won't be sleeping any"... as if getting some sleep while pregnant is a piece of cake!

Ha! Yeah, at least for me that has NOT been the case! It's varied throughout the pregnancy, but for the last month or so, sleep has not been easy. For me, it's not even that I can't get comfortable (I just sometimes lose my breath if I turn around too quickly in bed... I think she squishes my lungs or something if I'm not careful lol), it's usually just that I have to pee 085408954 times a night. And of course sometimes (like last night) I can't go back to sleep afterwards, so then I'm up for most of the night. I suppose it's good practice for when she's born, but I'm not a fan. I require a lot of sleep and it's been really difficult to work some days.

 

[Starry Night]

Pregnancy insomnia strikes again! I've been up for nearly 2 hours now just tossing and turning. At this point there is no fighting it anymore.


The in-laws are here. Got two more full days with them.

 

[Starry Night]

Maybe I'm not being entirely fair, but I am so darn hormonal and my FiL is such a control freak and DS ran out of diapers (how did that happen???) and all the stores were closed and I just felt so closed in by loud, loud, loud that I am kind of losing it. Doesn't help that DH is kind of proud of me when I stand up to his parents or flip out on them. I think marrying me was his passive aggressive way of asserting his independence from them. They like to tell him what to wear so I'm guessing they had opinions on who he should marry, or at least, the type of girl he should marry and I'm guessing I wasn't it. Though they do like me. I just don't 'tow the line' (what DH says he likes about me but causes stress for me).

On a happier note: we found out that dh's cousins in the city are expecting again and are due about 1 1/2 months behind us. I have to admit that I'm a little annoyed they didn't tell anyone until the traditional 12 weeks because I feel like it just adds to the m/c stigma -- that it is somethign that is supposed to be secret. We are very, very open with our losses (in a non bitter way...it just is what it is) so it sort of feels like they think we should shut up. But that's my hormones talking. They've been nothing but kind and praying for us. And I'm thrilled to be having a baby with her. I hate being the only pregnant lady. Too much attention. I also have two friends at church pregnant with me so that also splits the attention. One friend was pregnant with me last time and our kids are best friends so I'm happy to be pregnant with her again.

 

[Topanga053]

Starry, so sorry to hear about the in-laws driving you crazy. In-law drama can be so difficult to weather. It sounds like all-in-all you're doing a really good job of it!

I barely slept last night (about 3.5 hours), but was looking forward to a good afternoon. I have another doctor's appointment this afternoon, which is normally boring now but DH is coming with me this time and we were going to do maternity pictures, have dinner, and then tour the hospital birthing center afterwards. I found a great deal for the maternity pictures and I checked the website yesterday, which seemed to say there was a lot of availability this afternoon. But when I called to book the appointment, they said they were completely booked today. So I scheduled the shoot for Wednesday, but DH is annoyed because 1) he doesn't like having his picture taken anyway so he wasn't a big fan of this in the first place, and 2) we have to make a special trip to the studio, which is about 45 minutes from our house, but only about 10 minutes from my doctor's office. DH hates traveling to the city, so I was really hoping to squeeze everything we needed to do there into one day! It's not a huge deal because we don't have plans on Wednesday (other than a football game DH wants to watch), but I know that the second trip is going to make him grumpy, so I'm not looking forward to that.

 

[Starry Night]

Had another bad night's sleep. My stomach feels a little off and DS is sick again. He threw up after lunch and dinner the other day and yesterday he wouldn't really eat anything. He even was refusing drinks so I had to syringe them in. He was already getting some dry diapers. Yet he is still busy and laughing and playing with his cousins so I have had to argue with my MiL non-stop about her constantly shoving food and treats into his face. She keeps insisting he has to eat and that it's bad he's not eating. I'm more concerned about his not drinking! You can go several days with minimal food. He's fine on that front. And eating just aggravates a sore tummy. Especially when it's treats! He even had a fever again yesterday. We really need to air our house out and get rid of this bug that just will not go away but all our windows are frozen shut. (It's minus 50 with the wind chill today).

I'm just so sick of having to argue about all of my parenting decisions. I'm winning those arguments and dh is backing me up but I'm not a confrontational person so having to argue EVERYTHING and essentially being ignored (I might as well be talking to myself) is so draining. And FiL feels it is his duty to be a teacher to ds and make him learn to talk and say his numbers. He'll grab his face and make him stare at things or take his arm and pull him to something. I think he's way too rough but he won't listen to me. I am so stressed!!!!!!!!!!!! To be fair, my dad is a bit of a control freak too, but our whole family talks back and lets him know when he's getting that way...including my mom and he eventually backs down. Here, people just give in after awhile.

 

[Carybear]

red... congrats on V-day!

 

[Starry Night]

Oooh, today is V-day? Congrats!!!!

 

[Topanga053]

Red- yay for V-day!!! You must be feeling so awesome!

Starry- so sorry to hear that you're not sleeping well AND that both you and DS are feeling sick. Hopefully things turn around soon! And that's really frustrating about your in-laws. How much longer do you have with them again???

Afm, I had a doctor's appointment yesterday. Little bit of protein in my urine, but no other signs of pre-eclampsia, so they're not worried. What I'm more concerned about is that I gained TEN POUNDS since my appointment TWO WEEKS AGO! Yikes! I didn't even know it was possible to gain ten pounds in two weeks!! The doctor didn't say anything about it (thank goodness!), but I just can't believe it. I have not been eating more than normal, unless I'm hungry (i.e. I eat a meal, give myself plenty of time to digest, and then only eat again if I'm still actually hungry). I haven't been eating as healthy as I could be, but I've definitely been working in fruits, veggies, juice, lean meats, etc. And I'm still waking up starving in the middle of the night sometimes! I'm getting a little worried about the weight gain, but I don't know what to do about it because I know I'm not overeating and sometimes I am still really hungry. (Like the other night, we had an early dinner of potroast and veggies around 5pm, then I had a plate of nachos at 9pm because I was starving, then I woke up at 2am starving again!)

I'm also taking comfort in the fact that it doesn't look like I'm gaining that much weight. DH was shocked when he heard how much I'd gained. He said he didn't think it looked like I'd gained anything recently, let alone 10 pounds The only place it's showing at all is my belly and that's measuring just fine for where I am. I don't care at all about the number on the scale... I just want to make sure that I'm healthy and not putting myself or baby at risk!

 

[RedWylder]

Thank you for remembering Cary!!!! And thanks for the well wishes from everyone else. I can't think of a better gift for the new year than knowing that my little girl has a high chance of surviving outside the womb now. For all women with previous miscarriages, this is one huge milestone!

I hear you guys on the sleep issue. I'm starting to have restless nights where I'm absolutely pooped but can't fall asleep.

Topanga- 10 lbs? sheesh! I wonder where it's going? Maybe baby had a growth spurt. I have my next m/w appointment this Thursday and I think I'm finally going to see some weight gain but with all this holiday eating, I'm afraid to know just how much I've gained.

 

[Left wonderin]

Red yahoooooooooo on V day it is such a milestone to reach you can banish the mc word from your worries for the remainder of the journey ))) every day and week from now brings ya closer to your rainbow xxxxxxx happy new year

 

[Starry Night]

Topanga - sometimes I think we just gain weight. It could even be water weight. If it is, whatever is from water retention should go away once the baby is born. And it's been the holidays so I think the doctors will understand. Everyone gains extra weight over the holidays.

I'm glad the doctors aren't worried about pre-eclampsia. I haven't started the screening yet and I'm wondering when it will. With my OB in my old province we had to give a urine sample every week starting at 10 weeks.

afm - everyone leaves tomorrow morning. Trying to hold on. The lack of sleep and DS being sick is really not helping matters. At least I can play the "pregnant card" and hide out in my room when I'm feeling especially grouchy and unfair. (I try to be fair to people and in my head I know they aren't bad people...just annoying...but my hormones are turning me into a pyscho and much less forgiving)

 

[RedWylder]

You can make it Starry! Hang in there.

Here are a few V-day bump photos.

https://i466.photobucket.com/albums/rr25/lbkaiser/24weeks2_zps67d1dbc8.jpg

https://i466.photobucket.com/albums/rr25/lbkaiser/5to24_zps413935f4.jpg

 

[Left wonderin]

Awh what a cute bump xx

 

[rayraykay]

such a cute bump!

 

[Starry Night]

Lovely bump! It's the perfect shape.

 

[Left wonderin]

such a cute bump!

Look at all Slones hair and the fact its blonde !!! Don't think I've ever seen a baby with such thick blonde hair before xxxx

 

[RedWylder]

Me either! She's so precious.

 

[Starry Night]

I agree. My son was born with blond hair but not nearly that much.

 

[Left wonderin]

Starry think your scan is today ?? Well best of luck with it I'm off back to work today . Only 11 working days till I'm done can't quite believe it !!!! Sooooo much to do . Have to get organised both to finish up and for the new arrival . Just a pity I can't muster up the energy and this big bump keeps getting in the way !!! You only realise how much you need to bend a carry things when ya can't do it any more !!!

 

[skyesmom]

Happy New Year ladies!!!! may the 2014 welcome all the growing rainbows in the easiest, healthiest possible way, and may it bring a rainbow to Cary and me too )))

Topanga: so glad DH could assist the appointment and that despite some protein in the urine (which can be normal as your body is really doing a hard job now!!), there is no reason to worry for pre-eclampsia! phewwww!!!

Red: happy V-day!!! what a perfect bump you have!!! it is just amazing!!! it reminded me of the bloat bump i had when i was 5 weeks along with my angel.. i would wake up in the morning and be like your 5 weeks picture and end up being like the second one in the evening! but you could tell it was pure bloat and it didn't look anyhow cute like yours!!!!

Starry: good luck with your appointment and hang in there with the in-laws!!!

Left: wow, only 11 days of work? girl you're almost there, it's unbelievable how fast it went!!

Rayray: i have to second all the girls!!! I've never seen a baby with so much thick blonde hair!!!!! and she's quite dark-skinned too! she's just so so precious!!!

as for me: i've spent the most amazing days with my OH, we really spoiled each other... we've hardly left the bed or seen any other people or even logged online! we just snuggled together and left the world outside the door... and then had a wonderful new year's eve with family and friends!!

massive to all of you!