Oh Laska, I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I just had my second miscarriage a couple months ago, it's devastating.
I was nearly 10 weeks pregnant when I went for a ultrasound and baby measured a week behind and no heart beat. Same as the first time --> I had no bleeding, no signs of miscarriage but the baby had died inside.
The first time I waited for 3 weeks after the ultrasound (and total of 5 weeks after baby had died) and I started bleeding on my own and miscarried naturally. After the miscarriage my hcg was so high they thought I had a twin stuck in the tube so I had to take the miscarriage meds also.
Second time I waited for 4 weeks to miscarry naturally--> I also applied hot water bottle, hot showers and belly massage to help it out but nothing happened and so 4 weeks after the ultrasound and 5 weeks after baby had stopped developing I took the miscarriage meds. And they didn't work! At least not straight away. But I patiently waited and a week after I took the meds I started bleeding and passed the sack.
Hope it helps.
I decided to let it go as close to naturally as possible and waited for so many weeks cause I believe the body doesn't like/need the stress of being pregnant one moment and being D&C'ed the next.
But other ppl feel more stressed about having to live with the dead baby inside them for so long and seek closure and choose D&C. So that's ok too.
What I found out on the net while waiting to miscarry naturally and what the doctor didn't tell me but agreed to when I asked was:
The body will eventually miscarry. Sometimes it takes 1 week sometimes it takes 15 weeks. Miscarriage happens when the hormons normalise. And also hormons normalise when the sack is out (that's how D&C works).
If you decide to wait it out just be aware that emergency situation is any fever, chills, foul smell and other signs of infection.
I hope we soon become mamas to healthy sweet and fluffy babies.
