Hi
I am sorry I haven't replied sooner and filled you all in, but with the stress and everything of not knowing what was happening my now ex OH just snapped and went crazy, he decided he couldn't cope with the stress and pressure of the pregnancy, so do you know what he has gone and done?
Decided his head is a mess and has needed to go away, a week after we split up he left to go backpacking in Oz!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't even begin to describe what I think of him, it would turn the air blue and offend those of a delicate nature.
Now he has given up his job and raided his savings to go abroad, he has told me he can't afford to help buy things for the baby and he isn't even sure if he will return before the baby is born
But to give you an update, they wouldn't see me any sooner than 10 days after the bleed and the scan when they found my cervix was opening. In that time I had another, smaller, bleed.
When they rescanned me they said my cervix was still open but not as much, the clot was still there but was smaller than before, which explained the second bleed.They said it wasn't a scenario for a cervical stitch, but they gave me 400mg progesterone to take very day till I am 24 weeks. They gave me suppositories instead of pessaries to avoid the risk of infection
I had a scan the following week and my cervix is now long and closed and my cervix is starting to move out the way. The gyne who did that scan said she was very happy for me to continue with normal antenatal care and I wouldn't need any more scans or monitoring
So there is my update, on the pregnancy side it is all good, my baby has beena ctively kicking away for the past ten days, the mw's face lit up in surprise at my 16 week check up as she could hear the babys heartbeat immediately loud and strong when she used the doppler. In two days I will be 19 weeks so ever creeping closer to when my baby becomes viable
I am so angry at my ex, I feel abandoned and let down, especially as he was the really really broody one, said he couldn't wait to have a baby and felt miserable at the prospect he might never have one, then when I got pregnant he realised he couldn't take the pressure and the responsibility and so he left. Just as well really that I found out now and not later on after the baby was born, I have time to prepare myself mentally for a life as a single mother and I am lucky in that I don't have much family, but I have great friends and a strong support network
I hope my story of a cervix that starts to open too early offers hope and reassurance to others xxx