Hello guys,
I hope you do not mind me disturbing here, I'm not strictly WTT because I don't have any set plans at the moment! But I wanted to ask some advice, I don't know if anyone here had similar situation or knows someone who had, but any advice or thoughts would be appreciated very much
I gave birth 4 months ago to my first child (a beautiful little girl, Dajana!) and I really love being a mum - I want to have more kids and I would really love to get pregnant again within the next 1 or 2 years to have two children close in age! But, there is at the moment a problem with this: it's a bit embarassing but in my pregnancy and after birth I got a very bad nerves and muscles damage which is apprently unlikely to be reversable and as a result, I got a very bad bladder weakness problem It's actually a mixture of "urge" problem and "stress" problem, and for the urge incontinence I am taking medication which maybe I will always have to take. But for the stress incontinence, I have tried bladder training and kegels and after assessment by specialist, they've told me it will need a bladder suspension operation to change.
I don't want to have an operation because apart from anything, they say you can't give a natural birth after you've had it. but, I am really sick of this problem, of being all the time wet (sorry tmi!) and wearing pads and changing my clothes 3 times a day! So I would have this operation if it would give me back a normal life! But, I am worried I won't be able to have kids and that I cuoldn't give birth naturally or it might make difficulties to conceive. I am so confused and I don't know what to do!
Does anyone have any thoughts or advice which might help??
Thanks xxx
Dana
I hope you do not mind me disturbing here, I'm not strictly WTT because I don't have any set plans at the moment! But I wanted to ask some advice, I don't know if anyone here had similar situation or knows someone who had, but any advice or thoughts would be appreciated very much
I gave birth 4 months ago to my first child (a beautiful little girl, Dajana!) and I really love being a mum - I want to have more kids and I would really love to get pregnant again within the next 1 or 2 years to have two children close in age! But, there is at the moment a problem with this: it's a bit embarassing but in my pregnancy and after birth I got a very bad nerves and muscles damage which is apprently unlikely to be reversable and as a result, I got a very bad bladder weakness problem It's actually a mixture of "urge" problem and "stress" problem, and for the urge incontinence I am taking medication which maybe I will always have to take. But for the stress incontinence, I have tried bladder training and kegels and after assessment by specialist, they've told me it will need a bladder suspension operation to change.
I don't want to have an operation because apart from anything, they say you can't give a natural birth after you've had it. but, I am really sick of this problem, of being all the time wet (sorry tmi!) and wearing pads and changing my clothes 3 times a day! So I would have this operation if it would give me back a normal life! But, I am worried I won't be able to have kids and that I cuoldn't give birth naturally or it might make difficulties to conceive. I am so confused and I don't know what to do!
Does anyone have any thoughts or advice which might help??
Thanks xxx
Dana