Guppy051708
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Despite being so young (im 25 and DH is a new 26), we have decided to get perminant birth control via Vasectomy. We already have two boys (17 months apart, eldest will be 3 in a couple of months). And we have a baby girl on the way (due right before DS1 turns 3).
I have a plethora of medical conditions such as severe pelvic organ prolapse (2nd degree rectal and uterine prolapse and 2-3rd degree bladder prolapse according to my last specalist exam, before this pregnancy). It's so bad natural measures have not worked, nor will they work and require surgery to fix. But if i get the surgery i am not to get pregnant again as pregnancy alone will likely undo what the surgery fixed.
I have split stomach muscles that may require surgery, but we dont know at this point if it will or not. This is causing a lot of issues and pain in my lower back. It's causing Sciatica (which is ongoing even when not pregnant, but worsened by pregnancy). I see a chiro to help but it's not enough.
With this pregnancy i have severe SPD and Hypermesis Garviduarm (HG). Ive been extremly ill, even now at nearly 33 weeks. So this is another reason i dont want to EVER be pregnant again. It was/is brutal!
I also have endometriosis, estrogen dominance, and a progesterone deficiency which will be treated via Mirena IUD once im done nursing (for hormonal therapy). Every time i am PP it flairs SUPER horribly and its unbearable for months on end. It's almost like giving birth pisses it off and so it goes crazy.
On top of this i have had hypothyroidism since i was 10 years old. Which isn't a big deal, but the problem is every time i am postpartum i develop PP Thyroiditis. My thyroid goes super super hyper for a while (and that is brutal!) and then it goes super super hypo for a long time (ive gained almost 50lbs between both PP periods with my kids). According to my endocrinologist, every time my thyroid takes a hit i am at a much increased risk of thyroid cancer and a plethora of other problems due to the rapid weight gain (i gained 35lbs in 10 days after DS1).
So those are reason enough that i shouldnt be pregnant again.
Besides that, DH and i have zero support as our family is a 10 hour drive away. With having 3 under 3, we need our sanity so we have come to the conclusion the male sterilization is best for us.
The Urhologist totally understood and said he doesn't normally do Vasectomys on someone so young, but given our circumstances (ESPECIALLY my health concerns) he agreed to do it for us.
Here is our experience (taken from my journal):
If you have any questions, please ask! Ive included updates throughout the thread as well.
We are very happy with this choice. We are very much at peace. If you had asked me a year and ahalf ago about this option i would have cried thinking we wouldn't have kids again, but now that the circumstances have changed so much i couldn't be happier. We may be young but our family is complete. We are looking foward to the new adventures that will result once our kids are no longer so little. I feel relieved to have this as well so i dont have to endure more medical hardships. I know this is permianant and viewed as for life, but i feel this is the best choice for us. It was a good compromise with our morals and BC (which we struggled a lot w and actually i dont feel we compromised anything bc it lines up w our beliefs). And between the Vasectomy and the IUD (once i get it) we should def not be getting pregnant again.
I know most ppl would assume this is a horrid choice for a couple so young, but sometimes circumstances are even bigger and a different route needs to be taken. We are doing this for my health (mostly) and for our lifestyle sake. This is truly a blessing to us and very helpful. I know we will not regret this (as so many ppl worry about that). So ladies, if you are in any type of situation similar and getting the 3rd degree about being young, just remember sometimes sterilization is the best choice (though not for everyone! but dont let ppl speak down to you just bc of your age). For us, the benefit is worth the risk.
I have a plethora of medical conditions such as severe pelvic organ prolapse (2nd degree rectal and uterine prolapse and 2-3rd degree bladder prolapse according to my last specalist exam, before this pregnancy). It's so bad natural measures have not worked, nor will they work and require surgery to fix. But if i get the surgery i am not to get pregnant again as pregnancy alone will likely undo what the surgery fixed.
I have split stomach muscles that may require surgery, but we dont know at this point if it will or not. This is causing a lot of issues and pain in my lower back. It's causing Sciatica (which is ongoing even when not pregnant, but worsened by pregnancy). I see a chiro to help but it's not enough.
With this pregnancy i have severe SPD and Hypermesis Garviduarm (HG). Ive been extremly ill, even now at nearly 33 weeks. So this is another reason i dont want to EVER be pregnant again. It was/is brutal!
I also have endometriosis, estrogen dominance, and a progesterone deficiency which will be treated via Mirena IUD once im done nursing (for hormonal therapy). Every time i am PP it flairs SUPER horribly and its unbearable for months on end. It's almost like giving birth pisses it off and so it goes crazy.
On top of this i have had hypothyroidism since i was 10 years old. Which isn't a big deal, but the problem is every time i am postpartum i develop PP Thyroiditis. My thyroid goes super super hyper for a while (and that is brutal!) and then it goes super super hypo for a long time (ive gained almost 50lbs between both PP periods with my kids). According to my endocrinologist, every time my thyroid takes a hit i am at a much increased risk of thyroid cancer and a plethora of other problems due to the rapid weight gain (i gained 35lbs in 10 days after DS1).
So those are reason enough that i shouldnt be pregnant again.
Besides that, DH and i have zero support as our family is a 10 hour drive away. With having 3 under 3, we need our sanity so we have come to the conclusion the male sterilization is best for us.
The Urhologist totally understood and said he doesn't normally do Vasectomys on someone so young, but given our circumstances (ESPECIALLY my health concerns) he agreed to do it for us.
Here is our experience (taken from my journal):
Just writing out the specifics so we have it for our own personal reasons. If this is too long, feel free to skim or skip entirely
Prep/Pre Care:
DH had to eat light foods the 24 hours before (nothing greasy or heavy).
Then he had to fast 12 hours before, so no food/drink (besides water) after 9pm last night.
He was instructed to take the Valium about 2 hours before the procedure. So he woke up at 7am and took one pill. He wasnt allowed to drive or anything like that once he took it (for a good reason too bc it made him super sleepy).
We left around 8am and got there about 8:30am. Around 8:15 he started getting really loopy. He was tired and falling asleep in the car. He must have been pretty out of it bc isaiah kept asking him stuff (loudly) and he never woke up. I tried having a conversation w him but it was useless. He said he felt like his brain was working at half speed. He couldn't formulate words very well bc he couldn't move his mouth to. It was kind of funny actually.
He tried reading me the directions to me but could hardly do so lol
I dropped him off at the facility. I probably should have walked him but he assured me he could get in there. Then i left w the kids and went to the store while he was in there. (it was really weird just dropping him off to go get sterilized )
The procedure:
He got into the office and registered. They asked him if he took the Valium and he said yes to which they replied "We can tell ". Then they took him back (im guessing they helped him walk back there as he was so out of it). The funny part here is what DH remembered the most - how well dressed the [young] doctor was. Haha. he went into detail about everything from his tie to his shoe laces So he must have been pretty drugged if that was the highlight
He got into the room, mentioned he felt too under dressed in his basketball shorts and T-shirt (bc remember, he was so impressed w how well dressed the doctor was ) The doctor responded with "dont worry you'll feel even more under dressed in a minute"
He took off his shorts and tighty whites (they required him to bring them as they support things once everything is done-that or a jock strap) and laid on the bed. The put one of those paper blanket thingsy over him. They used liquid disinfectant stuff to clean the area (i think it probably had a little numbing agent in it too).Then the doctor shaved his nuts. The doctor mentioned it will probably be an itchy mo-fo in a few days from growing back DH responded w/ "yeah, i figured. Thats why ive only ever done it once and not doing it again!" (they even got into this side conversation about why waxing is better, and how the doctor is pretty sure the receptionist gets that done regularly ...dont even want to know how he knows that!)
After that, they gave him a shot of Lidacaine (i thought it was Novocaine, but guess not). Whatever it was, it was just a quick shot and then numbed it. DH said it only pinched for a second and then went numb.
They felt around down there and were especially articulate bc DH had a hernia operation when he was younger, so things dont sit as evenly. So they have to be careful with that as they could be in the wrong area than normal.
They did the left side and all went fine. Didn't take much time at all. DH said he could feel them tugging on things but no pain.
Then they moved to the right side...and DH said it actually really hurt when they punctured him. Apparently he needed more numbing agent, so he got another shot and then was numb enough for them to continue. So on they went and cut that (he had the more modern procedure where they dont use a scapel).
After that they then cauterized both ends (burned them off). DH said it smelled REALLY bad in the room. He said it was a very strong skin , burning smell and super disgusting.
There was tons of tugging and pulling. DH says his lower abdomen is hurting now, almost like he has pulled muscles but nothing too bad.
Next they stiched both holes up. Cleaned him up and put some gauze on it. And off he went.
The entire procedure took about a half hour, maybe 25 minutes. Not long at all.
AFTERCARE:
He booked his follow up for July 24th at 3:45pm.
Bed rest for the first 24 hours, 2-3 days would be better.
Light foods, nothing heavy for the first 3 days.
Ibuprofen for pain relief, as needed.
Wear jock strap or tighty whites to prevent things from moving around
Ice the area for the first 24 hours to help with swelling.
Warm, moist compresses after 24 hours to help reduce swelling.
Keep the area cleaned. Change gauze pads as needed.
The stitches do not need taken out as they will go away on their own.
No showering for 24 hours, then he can do that. Sponge bathe in the meantime.
No heavy lifting or walking.
No sex for the first 5 days. After that he is free to resume once he is without pain. Use protection as he is not yet sterile.
He is not to do any physical exercise for 2 weeks
Since he has an office job he can go back to it on Monday.
FOLLOW-UP:
In about 10 days he will go back to make sure everything has healed correctly.
He needs to have 2 seman samples done in the comming 10-12 weeks. (not sure how long, exactly). But they will test. He needs 2 to come back as 0 before he is considered sterilized. In the meantime he has to use protection (though that wont be hard since im pregnant )
Then he is good to go & we wont have to worry about BC forever
If you have any questions, please ask! Ive included updates throughout the thread as well.
We are very happy with this choice. We are very much at peace. If you had asked me a year and ahalf ago about this option i would have cried thinking we wouldn't have kids again, but now that the circumstances have changed so much i couldn't be happier. We may be young but our family is complete. We are looking foward to the new adventures that will result once our kids are no longer so little. I feel relieved to have this as well so i dont have to endure more medical hardships. I know this is permianant and viewed as for life, but i feel this is the best choice for us. It was a good compromise with our morals and BC (which we struggled a lot w and actually i dont feel we compromised anything bc it lines up w our beliefs). And between the Vasectomy and the IUD (once i get it) we should def not be getting pregnant again.
I know most ppl would assume this is a horrid choice for a couple so young, but sometimes circumstances are even bigger and a different route needs to be taken. We are doing this for my health (mostly) and for our lifestyle sake. This is truly a blessing to us and very helpful. I know we will not regret this (as so many ppl worry about that). So ladies, if you are in any type of situation similar and getting the 3rd degree about being young, just remember sometimes sterilization is the best choice (though not for everyone! but dont let ppl speak down to you just bc of your age). For us, the benefit is worth the risk.