Our Wonderful Other Halves

[Naneth.Estel]

I thought that it would be nice to share some of the nice and sweet things that our OHs have said or done. I know that sometimes when things are getting me down he'll say or do something which makes me feel a little bit happier.

Some things that my OH has done:

• Went to get a SA done
• He's started taking men's conception vitamins
• He keeps on having baby dreams and telling me about the weird TTC dreams
• I've been trying not to symptom spot, so he's been doing it for me! (I was moaning about having aching hips yesterday and he was asking 'is that a symptom?' I was like, 'it could be, but it's probably because I've walked miles round the shops today'
• He puts up with me pestering him for baby conversations, we've stayed up late talking about raising our babies, where they'll go to school, how we'll handle holidays, etc.
• Yesterday he took me into Mothercare and M&S and promised to buy me a set of baby outfits that we saw as soon as we got our

So what are some of the lovely and romantic or sweet things that your OH has said or done?

Let's share.

 

[NavyWife84]

My hubby does a lot to take care of me and always has, even before TTC. But the most meaningful thing he has done through all of this is when I was really down about my infertility and tried to convince him to leave me so he could have a woman who isn't "broken" he told me:

"I married you because I wanted to be with YOU the rest of my life. Anything else is just an added bonus."

He tells me all the time that he doesn't need children to make him feel that our family is complete. We already are. He completely supports me through everything and goes along with everything I want to do to ensure that we have our baby.

 

[Naneth.Estel]

Aw, that's lovely NavyWife, you've got a good one there.

 

[dodgercpkl]

I have an amazing hubby and like Navywife, he's done a lot to take care of me even before ttc! Since becoming ttc he's:

• Gotten an SA
• Cut WAAAAY down on his soda intake.
• Cut out snacks like chips and candies so that he doesn't tempt me by having them.
• Goes with me to doctors appointments to support me even if they don't have anything to do with him.
• Helps remind me of all the pills I need to take / rubs lotions and ointments on when & where needed.
• Gives me long hugs if he thinks I even remotely need one.
• Willingly talks baby names with me even though we have one girl and one boy name all picked out.
• Spends hours discussing who we would tell and how once we get our bfp.
• Has volunteered to take men's vitamins if I ask him to.

 

[bdawn8403]

This is a lovely thread

My husband has:

-Gotten an SA, agreed to a second one I just haven't made him do it yet.
-Taking FertilAid and a multi-vitamin
-Agreed to have sex with me
-Let me write all over the bathroom mirror in red lipstick after our mc and left it there for days
-He hugs me when I am upset every month AF shows which incidentally is the same week that our mc was so a monthly reminder
-He assures me I am a mom and will be again
-He made a video of him "grieving" (talking about his feelings and pain) about the loss and had me watch it
-He still puts up with me and my baby obsessed behind and hasn't run off yet
-He gets mad when his mom says stuff to me that may be a little inappropriate and belittling of my feelings and her lack of compassion

This one isn't for our ttc persay.
-He agreed to let my 15 year old pregnant niece move in with us. He deeply cares for her even though she acts like a spoiled brat and has no respect for anybody. He would do anything for her and just wants to help her straighten out. During her ultrasound where she found out the sex of the baby (she has been having complications so we had to go out of town to a specialist) they both held my hand while I cried. He had to finally leave the room because it got too much for him too. My niece is due 4 days after I would've been so its very hard.

 

[Maurie]

This is a wonderful thread!

Some thing My Wonderful DH has done,

• Did a SA even though it took him 4 months to get the courage
• Lets me discuss all things baby
• Hugs, comforts me when I need it
• Tells me to "just relax" mocking people to make me laugh
• Took it upon himself to talked to his parents telling them not to talk baby or TTC unless I bring it up so they don't catch me at a bad time.
• Allows me to have the box in the closet of our future baby stuff
• Sacrifices going to the Dr. (he works a lot) so we can continue with treatment
• Knows my "baby making time" and doesn't resist Even when he is super tired

 

[Armywife84]

-quit chewing tobacco
-put an ice pack on his balls before he had . I had read on the internet it helps with male infertility, but only made him do it once
-holds me when I cry over another pregnancy announcement
-listens to me when I blubber about LTTC and how much it's wearing on me

Overall, he's come a long way in this LTTC. It started to tear our marriage apart, but we've found a way to come together and support each other.

 

[Bethy]

-Cuddles me whenever I need it
-Comes to doctors appointments with me if I need it (And I usually do - Our docs are horrible)
-Says he doesn't mind how long it will take or if it turns out we can't have kids - He will still love me and stay with me because he loves me for me and says we are complete already
-Has cooled down the boiling hot showers and baths that he loves in order to help his spermies
-Says he will take man vits if I want him to to help us TTC
-Doesn't lose patience with me, nomatter how much I moan and worry
-Massages me when I need it
-He gets mad at anyone who tries to rub it in about the fact that it's hard for me to get pregnant
-Helps remind me of any pills I need to take