Over whelmed

[MissMonty]

Hi, well I haven’t posted on here for ages! So just a little update about me: DH (37) and I (31) have been TTC for 22 months now, we’ve had lots of tests and to date we have unexplained infertility. We are now coming towards the end of our latest test/investigation (follicular tracking) I’ve been going in for internal scans and they have been tracking my cycles measuring my follicles and my uterus lining and everything is looking good once again (which is great news). I’ve got a blood test next week to check I have ovulated (had similar blood test a year ago but they wanted to check again as part of this investigation). Anyways if this comes back ok then the fertility nurse told us today that there are no other tests/investigations they can offer and said the following:

A) You can continue trying naturally or
B) We can start the process of assisted conception (IUI or and IVF)

I’m feeling so over whelmed, DH is so keen to get the ball rolling with assisted conception; I have to make contact with fertility nurse in two weeks to get results of blood test and also arrange next appointment to discuss the above. I understand if we do start the above there would still be a lot of waiting involved so maybe we should start the ball rolling just in case we need it.

Asked the fertility nurse today her thoughts about the above – she just told us that it was our choice and if we felt ready this is something they would be willing to pursue.

I’m so confused – if everything is so perfect why are we not getting pregnant? And if we were going to fall pregnant naturally surely it would have happened already?

I feel so confused and guilty (as there is nothing wrong with us - although maybe there is, its just that its unexplained!).

x

 

[chele]

i say get the ball rolling. Who knows why for some people it just can't be explained. If you fall pregnant naturally while waiting for IUI/IVF then that's a bonus.

Why do you feel guilty? No reason to at all hun.
Best of luck with your decision
xx

 

[hopeful4baby]

Hi MissMonty!

We are also classed as Unexplained Infertility. I'm 33, DH 37. I know how you feel about everything being fine, but no results! Believe or not, we have fallen pregnant twice almost immediately. Unfortunately both times we lost it. The most upsetting experience ever! But since then it has been about 27 cycles? I've lost the track of them already. No doctor knows WHY!! It's so frustrating! Things can just change like that. I think it is such a fragile and still such a mysterious matter, we still don't know so much!! And people who never had to deal with it take it really for granted.

In all those 27 months I've been tested for everything on earth also with regards to both m/c. (so was DH), last nov I had a laparoscopy,which yet again confirmed everything perfect! They kept persuading us to keep on trying naturally, until I couldn't take it any longer.

My FS prescribed Clomid for 6 month and after that we can start discussing IVF. It also sounds incredibly scary to me!

Perhaps what I was mainly going to say is that yes, it is very likely that it takes all this time and all of sudden you just get pregnant. It definitely happened in my case visa versa, so why not other way.

But I think it is good to have some plan of action, it keeps your mind at least a little bit at piece that you are doing something about it.

You really have no reason to feel guilty. I guess we all here struggle from time to time with feelings of uselesness, but it's not something we are intentionally doing that we have to carry feeling of guilt with us.

Good luck! I really hope it won't be too long before you see your first BFP!!

 

[Millnsy]

Hi Miss Monty

WE are about 30 months TTC with unexplained. I'm 32 and hubbie is nearly 35. I used to have quite irregular long cycles and conflicting tests said I didn't always ovulate (but did sometimes). They did the Lap and found mild endo. But everything else is normal and none of the minor problems are bars to conceiving naturally. We've had 6 months of clomid with a couple of breaks of at least 3 months each where we have carried on trying naturally and still not even a sniff of a BFP.

We are due to start IUI but due to holidays, jury service and other committments we havne't been able to start. I really am not looking forward to the IUI then IVF after 3 attempts at that. I have lost faith with the whole TTC and after 2 and a half years don't really believe that it will ever happen so am just going through the motions really.

I suppose what I am trying to say is you need to do what is right for you. Starting on the treatment will probably make you feel proactive and will take you a step closer to your BFP. In one way there is no point in waiting any longer (none of us are getting any younger!) but if you feel you still need some more time to try naturally then it might reassure you that you did everything you could.

But please don't feel guilty. Of all the emotions we go through, there really is no need to bring guilt into the equation.

Good Luck...
M x

 

[MissMonty]

Thanks ladies, I'm feeling more positive again today as I got a peak reading on my CBFM which I've been using for 18 months now

Fertility nurse predicted I should ovulate on Thursday or Friday and we wanted to test the CBFM to make sure it had been working all this time correctly!

Its good to read other peoples stories and experiences - sometimes I forget there are other people out there going through the same experiences, I quite often feel isolated by so many of my friends who already have children.

Best wishes to you all xx