"over worked and under paid"

[daniellelk]

Sorry if this offend's any one or anything off the sort but just thought I would ask you single parents. Especially those on benifits.

Would any of you ladies ever say that being a single mum is "over worked and under paid"?

 

[aliss]

I am not a single mom. Overworked and underpaid describes moms with husbands/partners - I can't imagine how much more difficult it is for a single mom. It is absolutely a ton of work, especially when you have to shoulder the entire responsibility yourself.

 

[Laura2919]

I work but yeah its tough.

That is what really annoys me sometimes is their dad has a nice carefree life, He is able to go out and have fun with his mates and enjoy nice late nights and late mornings and for me its not like that at all!
I wouldnt change my girls for the world but he clearly dont appreciate how hard it is for me.

I get the weekends off but still then my work dont stop, ironing, washing, cleaning lol..

Ah well one day when they are older I hope they will be proud of all I done. Afterall I done it for them and no one else.

I rarely moan about it simply because they are my kids and it was my choice to have them. Single or not I'd do everything I possibly could for Chloe and Jaycee..

On the flip side of things I am glad I dont have a man to pick up after and cook dinner for. When the girls are in bed I only have me to think about..

 

[daniellelk]

But you wouldn't put on facebook and call looking after your kid's a over worked under paid job?


My reason for this post is my OH's EX chose to be a single mum(she kicked ex out, while pregnant, then after he met their daughter, a text was sent saying if we went near her again police would be rang) she refused to accept any money of him, which if she had wouldn't have effected her benefit's. Then went to the CSA which of course effects her benefits.
Now she is putting on facebook is over worked and underpaid, she's always complaining how she is struggling and never enough money, yet she's refusing my OH accses. Iv just seen on a group that she's after a bed for the LO, if my OH had contact, despite how we are struggling for money HE'D buy her the bed new!
Not having a rant, just annoy's me how she's chose this life now complaining about it and saying OH doesn't pay enough...he pay's what the CSA request he pay.s

 

[21Rach]

think it's the fact she wants 2 do it alone, it's not right but maybe however they split left her reeling thinking she wanted 2 be a martyr and accept as little help as poss but get max sympathy etc. does that even make sense lol x

 

[daniellelk]

think it's the fact she wants 2 do it alone, it's not right but maybe however they split left her reeling thinking she wanted 2 be a martyr and accept as little help as poss but get max sympathy etc. does that even make sense lol x

If she really wanted to do it alone tho she wouldn't have gone to the CSA, and she knew my OH would fight for visitation.
Her intentions when she first got with him was to have a baby, and at the time he was broody as his brother just had a daughter.


It's not about her anyway. Its the stuff she put's on her FB status like this and also other things like she's thought of giving the child away, and someone's said doesn't the dad help and she put "Iv been tempted to take her to her "fathers" but that is just a life threat to my daughter, he doesn't see her at all" fails to say that she chose it that way.

My question was, would any of you single ladies call having a child a "underpaid" job

 

[21Rach]

nope, best job in the world

She puts on fb about giving her child away!!! OMG if she was so broody etc... why is she now moaning. Mine wasn't planned but i can't ever hate the fact i have him/my life having changed/things not working out..... she sounds selfish it's not all about her! She should let the father take a more active role, i do with FOB he pays what he can, and he sees him loads x

 

[21Rach]

and her moaning about not paying enough. sounds like a baby was a meal ticket to her!

 

[daniellelk]

I personally think she just wanted a baby as someone who loved her (she's always had depression, and if my OH refused to do something or they argued she would threaten to harm herself, well so i'v been told)
Also that like you say a meal ticket to money, not realising how dependent a baby would be on her and how much they would cost.

 

[Laura2919]

Just sounds a lot like she wants people to feel sorry for her and think bad of him. Maybe they should know the truth.

I hate people like that!!! So annoying!