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[lemontree12]

Goodness what a horrible man! U poor thing! Although u sound very strong I guess like all of us on here u have bad moments?

I guess from this time last week I have managed to move on loads! I was in a mess last week, but have manage to except things now, and only get tearful when I think of the things iv been threw in such a short time, rather than cry for the man I love and want to be with! I can honestly say I no longer want him in my life, I could never trust or forgive him for the things he has done! I only ask he pays for his daughter!

I guess you could say I am healing, and moved on slightly from how I felt before! Still a way to go though xx

 

[Shezza84uk]

Definately bad moments but I don't regret them I gained so much and couldn't imagine my life without my princess and I'm looking forward to baby number 2! My nan always says the things you go through prepares you for the rest if your life so in hindsight it's something you won't have to endure again as you will be better prepared and more aware next time, keep making progress eventually you won't feel the overwhelming sadness anymore x

 

[teal]

I'm sorry you're hurting so much. It honestly does get better. My ex broke up with me when I found out I was pregnant (June 2009) and I haven't seen him since. He cut all contact and doesn't have any involvement at all. xx

 

[lemontree12]

I'm sorry you're hurting so much. It honestly does get better. My ex broke up with me when I found out I was pregnant (June 2009) and I haven't seen him since. He cut all contact and doesn't have any involvement at all. xx

does he pay child support for your son?
how where u when he was born, i have a fear, that when my daughter comes i will reject her because of the pain he has caused. i know it sound so horrible, and i work with children, so i do have a maternal side, im just honestly afriad that she will look like him and i just see all the pain he has caused.

i pray i dont have any of these feelings

 

[teal]

I'm sorry you're hurting so much. It honestly does get better. My ex broke up with me when I found out I was pregnant (June 2009) and I haven't seen him since. He cut all contact and doesn't have any involvement at all. xx

does he pay child support for your son?
how where u when he was born, i have a fear, that when my daughter comes i will reject her because of the pain he has caused. i know it sound so horrible, and i work with children, so i do have a maternal side, im just honestly afriad that she will look like him and i just see all the pain he has caused.

i pray i dont have any of these feelings

He doesn't pay support but it was my choice not to claim anything from him.

When I was pregnant I worried about how I would feel when my son was born. I was worried that he would look like a mini version of FOB and I wouldn't be able to bond with him etc.

I don't see FOB in my son at all. My son looks a lot like me but I'm not sure if I'm choosing not to see it. Once my son was born all those feelings of worry went away. It didn't matter what he looked like. He was my son and that was all that matters. I'm sure it will be the same for you but I do understand the worries

Your LO will be their own person, just unfortunate that FOB is a waste of space. You honestly won't see beyond your love for your child xx

 

[lemontree12]

thank u, that is a huge weight of my mind, i was so afriad that she would look like him and i would feel feelings towards her that is all her dads fault.

thank u for ur help
x

 

[Terukki]

Believe me it gets better with time my story is probably the most deveststing and although I still feel hurt deep inside I've overcome and still recovering more and more everyday. I was with fob for 7 yrs we were best friends for 5 yrs before we got together, I met him at 16 we became close and he joined the army we stayed together while he continued doing what he loves... I got pregnant with my DD he decided distance was a big issue and left he came back saying he was sorry when she was born fast forward to 2010. I realised he was being distant and wanted to control me so I decided I needed to end it he literally bombarded me with I love you's and asked for a chance to prove himself I said ok! he then proposed and set a date for our wedding in 2011 we went ahead and planned everything 3weeks before the wedding he came home from duty to meet the vicar and sort out the registry etc he left to see his mum and called me to say he didn't love me and wanted nothing to do with me so I need to cancel the wedding!

I did and had to pay all the bits for late cancellation I never saw him again for 2 weeks to move his stuff out no explanation given at all 20 mins later he had on his FB status I'm free single and available to all the ladies! As you can imagine I was distraught! I mean how could someone do that and think its ok to destroy his family... After all that I had no contact until September he just turned up at my home I was welcoming as always somehow I already forgave him and my DD was so excited to see him he spent 2 weeks with us and almost slot back into a routine he went away again with work and I saw him again at Christmas end up falling for it again end up getting together but I realised he was happy to keep using me so I told him it was time to make some decisions he confessed he cheated the entire time as he was searching for true love but preferred if he was around to stop me moving on the wedding was all future faking to distract me from leaving I decided it was time to talk to him he said he was happy the way things were I said its time to end it as we were going in constant circles thats befor i knew I was pregnant now here I am pregnant with number 2 and alone again! Hes always supported our daughter but the most communication ive had with him was a mothers day card nothing else not even a phone call to ask how his daughter is!

The thing for me is I believe that life takes us on uphill struggles but you will eventually find your inner peace I had to start from the bottom by accepting the things I've been through allow myself to mourn and reflect cry when I needed and only then I found the peace to start the healing process.

I'm sure there is someone more deserving for all of us allow yourself to feel the pain go through the steps and follow through to your emotional, physical and mental healing process xxx

I'm sorry you had to go through all this! I glad you ended it when he finally confessed that he was cheating on you throughout your relationship. I'm sure this pain will only make you stronger and a better person.

 

[ameliamummy12]

hi, i was with my ex partner for 7 years and i found out 6 days before i gave birth to my daughter he was seeing someone else i walked out on him, he was still at the birth and for the first couple of months we was very civil but then he got a new partner and since then he hasnt shown any interest at all in his daughter he got her nothing for christmas but his girlfriend loads and its my daughter's first birthday on sunday and i doubt he will see her or get her anything. i know exactly how u feel hurt and betrayed and to be honest i still have my bad days and it has been a year. however i found with help from great close friends things have become easier and i have alot of hope for the future. just thought i would tell u my situation and i am here to talk and vent to if you ever want as i know sometimes you just need to rant!

x