Painful sex with possible endometriosis?

[sarahfh]

I'm kind of getting to the end of my tether and hoped maybe some of you ladies may be able to help me.

I'm currently undergoing investigations for endometriosis, once we have moved to our new house I will be booking my investigative laparoscopy so hopefully will get more answers from that. However, at the moment we are having some real problems with me experiencing quite a lot of pain during sex. It's a deep pain, not a lack of lubricant or any of that type of pain, it's when he goes too deep and it's a real stabbing pain and I get a fair bit of cramping afterwards too. It's really starting to get to me and is affecting our sex life.

I know there isn't much I can do for now, and we do the obvious not the positions and things that hurt, but does anyone have any advice or just "been there, it gets better" anecdotes? I really don't know what to do it leaves me feeling guilty for being a rubbish girlfriend and not the girl he fell in love with. I would like to add that OH is so unbelievably supportive and hasn't said a bad word at all, the bad feelings are all coming from me.

Sorry for rambling, it's getting me down and I can't really talk to my friends about it.

 

[Pixoletta]

Hey!!

I am in the same boat as you. I wrote a post called 'Ovarian Cysts' or something and i have exactly the same pain. I'll have my specialist appointment in 2 weeks and then i guess they will go from there. I hate not being able to please my partner and i am in a lot of pain with this whether we do it or not. I hope we can both find answers I'd say don't feel guilty but i know how hard it is too feel guilty when you can't do much or you have to stop.

 

[Cupcake19]

I could have wrote the op myself, I'm in exactly the same position.

In 2010/2011 I had undergone some investigations, tried different meds, scans etc to rule out cysts etc. I was scheduled to have my laparoscopy on a monday but found out I was pregnant with dd thin the Saturday, 2 days before! So obviously I didn't have the op.

I thought my symptoms would have got better after having a baby but they haven't, they've got noticeably worse. I went to the docs last week and she started the ball rolling again and booked me in for a scan, gave me the pill etc but I have had enough. I've done all this before and they didn't work and it was agreed that I needed the laparoscopy to determine one way or another if it was endo so I don't see the point in going through all this again. I'm going back to the docs next week.

I totally relate to your feelings surrounding your sex life, I actually cry sometimes from the pain and sometimes from just feeling like a rubbish gf. But like you I am blessed with an amazing oh.

Good luck with you op, hope you get some of the answers you need

 

[sarahfh]

Sorry for taking a while to respond, always forget to check subscribed threads and just stick to the WTT board!

I'm sorry you ladies are having to go through it too, but I am glad it's not just me. I'm moving next week so hoping that I can get everything sorted soon, it's getting frustrating. It doesn't help that a friend of mines girlfriend was jus told her endo is so bad she will have 12 months to conceive after her surgery then it will become basically impossible.

It got me worried, I mean, what if me and OH get told we have a certain amount of time before it will be impossible? We are waiting for so many things before we have children, I don't know how we would cope with that kind of pressure. I realise I may be getting ahead of myself, but still.