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[debgreasby]

I have 2 more sleeps till my gender scan .. and i'm terrified of how i'll react if it's a girl. Please don't think badly of me. I really want to have a boy with DH (only Jasmine is his) and obviously we lost Charlie. This will definitely be my last pregnancy, i can't risk it again because my body won't cope, and my mental health certainly won't! I'm not saying that i won't love a girl, because I will, and Jasmine will have a little sister close to her age etc. It's not that I want to replace Charlie, or have him back in some way, I just want to have a son with the love of my life.

 

[Vickieh1981]

Happy belated birthday jen

Nic lovely candle, ruby would be proud

Nice bumpage deb .....oh the thought of choclate cheesecake isnt so nice to me right now

I have a question, for those of you that have had a loss and knew what gender your baby was, how are you feeling about if this baby is the same/differant gender?

Right now im finding the idea of a girl really hard , i know that sounds awful i shouldnt be moaning etc......but the fact i should have a real life son just now.....is making me feel a bit weird about if baby is a girl...yes of course i love my little bubba no matter what and im sure when we find out i wont feel like this.....but then i feel like having a boy would replace max so a girl would make me feel better i dont know really it makes sense in my head lol. x

I have 2 more sleeps till my gender scan .. and i'm terrified of how i'll react if it's a girl. Please don't think badly of me. I really want to have a boy with DH (only Jasmine is his) and obviously we lost Charlie. This will definitely be my last pregnancy, i can't risk it again because my body won't cope, and my mental health certainly won't! I'm not saying that i won't love a girl, because I will, and Jasmine will have a little sister close to her age etc. It's not that I want to replace Charlie, or have him back in some way, I just want to have a son with the love of my life.

I was completely the same with this one. I said I knew I was being a bitch because I only needed baby to be healthy but I really wanted Isabella to send me a little sister. It seemed so important.

 

[Charliemarina]

I have 2 more sleeps till my gender scan .. and i'm terrified of how i'll react if it's a girl. Please don't think badly of me. I really want to have a boy with DH (only Jasmine is his) and obviously we lost Charlie. This will definitely be my last pregnancy, i can't risk it again because my body won't cope, and my mental health certainly won't! I'm not saying that i won't love a girl, because I will, and Jasmine will have a little sister close to her age etc. It's not that I want to replace Charlie, or have him back in some way, I just want to have a son with the love of my life.

dito hunny!! i feel the same as u i only have Marina with mark and this will be our last baby also due to third c-section so we really would love a boy for him, id also be elated with another girl but i feel for a boy for the same reasons as u do,

 

[Mummy2Angel.]

Thank you ladies so much i dont feel like such a horrible person now....knowing that all you ladies 'feel the same' in way x

 

[laura.x.x]

Can you add me to the angels list please.x

 

[debgreasby]

 

[Lianne1986]

 

[tinybutterfly]

before we went to the wedding we visited SIL and her hubby-to-be,
casually brought the topic to their wedding in june next year, then we asked if we could bring someone.
they just said "yeah sure", not even asking "who? why? what?"
so i had to add "no worries, it's only going to be this big *show baby's lenght* and you don't have to get extra food"
"you're bringing a cat???"
"eh...noooo..."


they caught on eventually but weren't excited or anything, they just went "oh"
and then "we're gonna start trying after our wedding".

ugh, fine, i get the disappointment, they're from the principle to do everything in a specific order,
get house, get married, get baby... and bc they are the oldest siblings they should get all those things first (they were furious when we were engaged before they were!)


oh well.. at least, at the wedding, when we told the happy couple (they know 'bout the ectopic and IVF) they were SOOOOO HAPPY for us!

first part of the evening went ok, the last hour or so i spent in the bathroom, terrible cramps...had to push out 3 rocks before feeling somewhat decent afterwards lol

 

[MissMaternal]

It was the hi-bebe one i got sarah, and ended up sending it back got me really stressed lol x

Oh that's reassuring lol, yeah it's really stressing me out too!! Wish i had got the LCD one now! Great scan pic by the way hun!


Mislaww thanks hun, seems the Hi Bebe ones aren't as sensitive as i thought they might be. Totally makes sense about the placenta, although at my scan they didnt mention my placenta so i dont know what position it's in I've had another go this morning, but still no luck

Happy Birthday Jenny! xx

 

[Beadette]

Deb, No one will think bad of you. It's not like you'd love a girl any less but IF you could choose you would rather a boy to give OH a son of his own. I totally get that! Have you spoke to OH about what he thinks Badger is? I'm sure OH would be happy either way so don't worry about that. I do ge a very strong feeling that Badger is a boy though. I have from the start. You know with some people you just don't know, but with you I just feel that Charlie has sent a little bro! xxxxxxxxx

AFM - I always pictured myself with a boy and had a strong feeling that this bubs was a boy from the beginning - a few weeks ago I started focussing on trying to come up with girls names as I was worried that I would focus so much on it being a boy that if it was a girl I would be shocked - I don't want to be shocked. I would never be disappointed wth either sex but I was worried that i'd focus so much on it being a boy that I might struggle bonding with a girl. I think I've changed that now though. I've been meeting all my friends brand new baby girls (there hs been a baby girl BOOM amongst my friends) and I can now picture myself with a girl as well as being able to picture me with a boy. I'm so excited to meet my baby! xxxx

 

[debgreasby]

He keeps saying he doesn't mind ... but always refers to Badger as "he" lol

 

[Lianne1986]

Deb i understand what u mean re baby being a boy.

if i could choose i think id g for a girl, as u know i have tyler. then i have jamie-leigh but she isnt biologically mine shes actually my cousin, and i feel kinda bad sayin i would like a girl 'of my own' bcuz jamie-leigh calls me mummy and doesnt know any different.

this will be my DH's 1st baby and he would really like a girl too, having said tht i have a feeling im havin a boy. i have my 20wk scan on friday.

Until ppl know my situation they look at me in a strange way when they find out i will have 3 kids by 3 different men...even tho Jamie-Leigh isnt mine IYKWIM.

 

[EpdTTC]

Hoping that baby cooperates tomorrow and I will know if we are on team pink or blue!

Here is a bump pic that I took on Friday when I was 17+6

 

[debgreasby]

Nice bump! x

 

[Vickieh1981]

I had some slight bleeding last night and then this morning I had pains every few minutes so I rang the hospital and they asked me to come into labour ward.

They did a speculum and could see blood around my cervix but I can't actually see any bleeding anymore. They wrote in my notes ? small abruption due to history. Then they crossed that out because they are happy it's nothing serious like that which is good.

They think the pains were caused by a minor urine infection so I am to drink a lot (water obviously lol)

Was very weird being on labour ward and seeing all the resus table and the cots.

Here is my 19 week bump pic

 

[Minimin]

Nice bumps ladies!
I also had some brown discharge this weekend. I wonder if this is something normal a this stage Vickie? It seems to have resided atm. I didnt call anyone but maybe I should and get it on record?
EPD- what time is your gender scan tomorrow?

 

[debgreasby]

Glad it turned out to be nothin serious Vickie. Bump looking good!

 

[Megg33k]

Honestly, for no specific reason, I feel like I've lost one of each... felt the first would have been a girl and the second would have been a boy. The way I look at it though... I feel my baby's soul will always be my baby's soul... Its only the physical bodies I've lost, and we're just waiting for a healthy male or female body to house that soul!

 

[EpdTTC]

Min-I think brown discharge can be normal because the cervix is so sensitve right now and then I think if it bleeds just a little that sometimes it takes a while for it to make its way out and its brown by then. My scan tomorrow is at 1:30pm Ohio time. I will try to update as soon as I get home!

Vickie-That must have been very scary! So glad all is okay!

 

[braijackava]

First physical therapy appt tomorrow. Hopefully it gives me some relief