PAL Spring 2011 babies - Welcome Mason, Iris, Lily, Isaac, Luca & Dominic !!!!

[debgreasby]

Thanks .. it has brought a lot back, but i kind of feel like by helping Jenny, i didn't lose Charlie for nothing.

u are such a good friend hun. do u know jenny IRL? if not ur even more of a good friend. hope ur ok

No, Jenny and i don't know each other IRL ... but it really does go to show you how much of a strong bond can be formed over the internet.

Jamie is a beautiful name Jen. I know you don't like to think of "termination". The only way i could get myself through it was by telling myself that i was doing the best thing for Charlie ... as his Mummy, that's my job. xxx

 

[Beadette]

Thanks .. it has brought a lot back, but i kind of feel like by helping Jenny, i didn't lose Charlie for nothing.

u are such a good friend hun. do u know jenny IRL? if not ur even more of a good friend. hope ur ok

No, Jenny and i don't know each other IRL ... but it really does go to show you how much of a strong bond can be formed over the internet.

Jamie is a beautiful name Jen. I know you don't like to think of "termination". The only way i could get myself through it was by telling myself that i was doing the best thing for Charlie ... as his Mummy, that's my job. xxx

 

[Bittersweet]

huge huge jenny Jamie is a lovely name (i would know ) my thoughts are with you anf your family at this tough time for you
xxx

 

[Lianne1986]

Thanks .. it has brought a lot back, but i kind of feel like by helping Jenny, i didn't lose Charlie for nothing.

u are such a good friend hun. do u know jenny IRL? if not ur even more of a good friend. hope ur ok

No, Jenny and i don't know each other IRL ... but it really does go to show you how much of a strong bond can be formed over the internet.

Jamie is a beautiful name Jen. I know you don't like to think of "termination". The only way i could get myself through it was by telling myself that i was doing the best thing for Charlie ... as his Mummy, that's my job. xxx

this has really brought tears to my eyes.

 

[Mummy2Angel.]

jenny x

 

[roonsma]

Thanks .. it has brought a lot back, but i kind of feel like by helping Jenny, i didn't lose Charlie for nothing.

I think thats a wonderful way of looking at it, I'm very proud of you hun x

i want to thank you all for your kind words that you have expressed to me and my paul , i esp want to thank debbie i know this has been hard on you bringing back lots of memorys i will be forever grateful for the help you have personally given me , i am still trying to get my head around things at the moment and to be honest i dont know if i can go through with termination its such a harsh word and its against my beliefs but i know i should for the medical reasons cause the child would not survive so i guess i have basically answered my own question their also would like to add that the genitals have not formed properly which has made the result of the bladder be big and cause the other kidney problems she said i have a 1-4 chance going by the scan today and thats not even looking at my bloods i must say the cvs was the worst experiance of my life it was fine at first but when it got down to cutting the placenta that was so painfull i jumped and i was told to lie still in a nice way of course , i do hope for a miracle but its very unlikely and the problems that our baby has occurs in boys so if the test comes back as a boy we are calling him jamie , i have seen my gp in a emergency appointment she has given me diazipan to help relax me and help me to sleep i will still be around here guys i feel i belong with you all as we have formed a great friendship over the last few months and i would love it to continue once again im thankful for finding you guys xx

You do belong here hun, we all care for you and your baby, i'm gutted for you. Like Deb said you'll do the best thing for your baby and we're all here to help you however we can. I'm not a religious person but i've said a few words to him above for your LO.

 

[Beadette]

I'm so emotional this evening. I'm just so upset for you Jenny! Hugs xxx

I'm also very cross with my work! They've really stressed me out! If your interested it's on the last page of my journal - link below. I don't know if in just being oversensitive! I'm really upset about it! Xx

 

[~BumpyRide~]

Thinking of you and your family now, Jenny. So sorry you're going through this - take good care. Jamie is a lovely name. X

 

[Vickieh1981]

Yeah there's an Event on facebook for it -international wave of light or summat. The idea being if we all light our candles at 7pm our time on the 15th it'll spread like a wave of love

Deb, forgot to say, great news on your dads results - what a relief xxxx

Thanks to all those who thought of Hedgewitch's little miracle Agatha-Grace. She has been suffering from apnoea and stops breathing sometimes. Seems to happen more often when mummy is holding her - the medical team think because she recognises mummy she relaxes too much and forgets to breathe They've been treating her with caffeine and she managed to go all last night with no O2, and to breastfeed a little this morning rather than take it through a tube. I'm hoping she's turned the corner She's only 35+0 today, despite being 5 days old, so is doing really well xx

I hope that the apnoea attacks stop as she gets nearer to her due date. Thanks for letting us know.

OMG i dont even know what to say Deb just wish i could grab her and hug her so tightly and let her know we are all here for her, i really did think things would settle and a simple shunt would be all thats needed but to hear this well im shocked , words cant even explain how much i feel for her and her family right now, thanks for updating hunny

just to let everyone know my scan was good today baby is growing well but i wont be jumping for joy out of respect for jenny

i do however have 3 fibroids at top of womb which need keeping an eye on not sure how i feel about it if honest but have been told they shouldnt bother the pregnancy

i hope everyone is ok today, what a sad sad day xxxx

I'm glad your scan went well sweetie and hope the fibroids are nothing.

Jenny...I am so gutted for you. I checked back in hoping to catch up on all the good news for you ladies. I'm so sorry hun.

I miss you ladies...hope to be around more often very soon.

We miss you too sweets

Hi Amos, its nice to hear from you chick, you'll be back here before you know it xx

Deb, I can imagine Jennys news has been pretty tough on you so i'm thinking of you too hunny xx

Hugs to your too Debs. It must be hard knowing exactly how this is feeling for Jenny

i want to thank you all for your kind words that you have expressed to me and my paul , i esp want to thank debbie i know this has been hard on you bringing back lots of memorys i will be forever grateful for the help you have personally given me , i am still trying to get my head around things at the moment and to be honest i dont know if i can go through with termination its such a harsh word and its against my beliefs but i know i should for the medical reasons cause the child would not survive so i guess i have basically answered my own question their also would like to add that the genitals have not formed properly which has made the result of the bladder be big and cause the other kidney problems she said i have a 1-4 chance going by the scan today and thats not even looking at my bloods i must say the cvs was the worst experiance of my life it was fine at first but when it got down to cutting the placenta that was so painfull i jumped and i was told to lie still in a nice way of course , i do hope for a miracle but its very unlikely and the problems that our baby has occurs in boys so if the test comes back as a boy we are calling him jamie , i have seen my gp in a emergency appointment she has given me diazipan to help relax me and help me to sleep i will still be around here guys i feel i belong with you all as we have formed a great friendship over the last few months and i would love it to continue once again im thankful for finding you guys xx

There are just no words sweetie. I am so sorry you are going through this.

If you can't go through with the termination then don't let them push you into it. You take all the time you need to make the decision that is right for you, Paul and your darling baby. Jamie is a lovely name.

I hope that the diazepam helps and you can get some sleep at least.

I will be thinking of you sooo much over the next few days. And of course you belong with us. You are a Mummy of a spring baby regardless of what happens

I'm so emotional this evening. I'm just so upset for you Jenny! Hugs xxx

I'm also very cross with my work! They've really stressed me out! If your interested it's on the last page of my journal - link below. I don't know if in just being oversensitive! I'm really upset about it! Xx

Off to look now xx

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Jenny that is so sad. Deb is right, it's not 'termination', it's doing the best for your baby.

Thinking of you xxx

 

[EpdTTC]

Jenny-You are a good mum, and ultimately you will make the best decision for Jamie. Only you and Paul can decide what is best for Jamie and your family. I think it is safe to say that we will all support you in your decision, regardless of what you decide.

I am very sorry that on top of everything that the CVS procedure was so painful. I hope that the medication is helping you to relax and sleep. I'm not a super religious person either but I will be praying for a miracle for you, Paul, and Jamie.

Hi Amos honey. I think of you often.

 

[Minimin]

Jenny. You, baby Jamie and Paul are in my thoughts and prayers. xxxxx

 

[mislaww]

So very sad to read what you're going through Jenny. It's not fair.

Lots of love for Jamie. What a lovely name for a lovely little baby.

And the girls are right - it's not a termination. When it's medically necessary, it's a courageous act of love and selflessness.

Debs - so glad you were able to help. What a wonderful way to look at things. Thanks for keeping us up to date.

Lovely to see you again, Amos - hope to see you back here soon.

for everyone...

 

[Tulip]

Hugs all round tonight for my lovely girls. Had a bit of a shock at the hospital myself tonight (young girl from work gave birth and bled out, c/s, hysterectomy, life support, the lot. She's now stable on ICU).

Jen, you will make the right decision for you, Paul and Jamie. Where medically necessary, letting him go will prevent him from suffering. It is an act of compassion from a mummy. It is agonising and there will always be a level of guilt in your heart, but only you know the way forward. My darling girl was already suffering when she was diagnosed, but it was still so hard knowing that was the answer.

Deb - I'm glad that despite reliving the pain you feel that this has given Charlie's life and his death some meaning. My folic crusade has always helped me feel that way about Roo and I hope that it sustains you and helps your mental wellbeing. Xxxxx
Patsy, im so pleased all is well with monkey.

 

[eclipse_xo]

So sorry Jen, lots of hugs and prayers xo

 

[jenny25]

i am finding it hard too accept even after having the meds i woke up alot last night im calling my midwife too see where i can get a 2nd opinion his hb is still their i checked i know i shouldnt of but i wanted to hear it then i will ask her if she can pop out too see me to discuss things x

 

[Tulip]

I think it's normal to refuse to accept it without further proof/clarification - it's a mothering instinct sweetie xxx

 

[debgreasby]

That's a good idea hun, thinking of you x

 

[Tulip]

I'm not doing celebrations at the mo out of respect to Jenny, but best of luck to Ru for your scan today xxx

 

[jenny25]

thank you hun i have my midwife coming out today and im going to contact professor Kypros Nicolaides he is from the fetal foundation he is based at harley street and he does fetal surgery so its worth a try x