parental rights

[lilone2013]

hey guys..

me and my partner have being in a relationship for over 2 yyears and we was just wondering if anyone knew how we could about her getting parental rights to lil one

thank - you

 

[Indiapops]

I think outside of a civil partnership you need to go for adoption x

 

[kezza78]

Google 'parental responsibilty'. There's a form you need to sign an get approved by a judge. I think a solicitor may have to be involved but not sure. Hope this helps.

 

[MummyPony]

If you are not in a CP the "non-gestational" mummy has to adopt which can be a long process

If in a CP as long as other mummy is willin to take responsibility both will be named as parents on birth certificate and therefore be legal parents

 

[kezza78]

Adoption is a lengthy process but you can obtain parental responsibilty without adopting ( or waiting for adoption to go through ).

 

[waiting2start]

my partner and i will be going for adoption after are baby is born as well as being married we live in canada so its a bit diffrent here then the states

 

[SLCMommy]

Don't take this the wrong way - but it makes me very sad you even have to ask this question. It's unfair to make same-sex couples go through such a hard time in order to have children, it's discrimination in my book.

Like these other amazing people have already answered, adoption would be your one way, but is there anyway to get a CP or marriage where you live?

Another way (and I don't know if I can legally say this...I wouldn't see the harm but forgive my ignorance if I shouldn't/can't say this) I have know an asexual woman who has done private IUI with a private sperm donor. One of you could try that route too, but if that is a path you'd think about, just make sure the sperm is from a healthy male, etc.. You get the idea She just did IUI in her home. Took her over a year to get pregnant with trying every month, but she just had a daughter

Good luck to you and your partner! xx

 

[SLCMommy]

Oh geez... I totally spaced what your question was! forget the end where I talk about GETTING pregnant. LOL..

 

[rainbowbaby12]

It also depends where you live. In some states like Utah same sex couples can't adopt and civil unions, domestic partnerships, and even marriages legal in other states aren't recognized. Research adoption and parental rights for same sex couples in the area you live in. Once you figure out all of that you can go from there.

 

[ellebob]

I assume you're in London UK? If so, these are the rules:

1. If you conceive using fertility treatment at a licensed clinic, you can elect for your partner to be counted as 2nd parent at the time, then she can go on the birth certificate.

2. If you're civil partners when you conceive, she can go on the birth certificate.

3. If not, you can get make a Parental Responsibility Agreement, which involves all people with Parental Responsibility (which would just be you) sweaing at court an agreement to give another person PR. You would both have to go to court with the firm and swear it in front of someone, then it goes on court record as an official document. You don't need a lawyer, you an just ask the court office for the forms.

4. Because of number 3, adoption isn't necessary. However, some people still choose to go through adoption just so they get a new certificate with both names on. The problem is partner adoption must go through the same procedure as any other so that means social services reports, court hearings etc before it can happen. Also, as partner adoption are seen as lower priority than children in care, it can take a very long time. When I studied 2-3 years ago in our area the average was 2years 7months!