Parents Opinions..

[xarlenex]

Just curious what other peoples parents thought about their teen being pregnant?
I live with my mum, my parents split when I was younger. My mum was shocked, shes delighted now right enough. My dad on the other hand told me I was throwing my life away and should abort it nw hes accepted that Im keeping the baby hes coming around.

What about you guys..?

 

[GAURDIANANGEL]

my parents ware really mad for like 3 weeks
now they accept that i have made my choice to keep it
&& theres nothing that i can do about being pregnant now.
but they are not really happy but are okay with it.

 

[xarlenex]

ma mum was mad too, she just tried to not show it infront of me because she knew it was difficult for me to deal with as well. I guess it helps alot if you have your parents support.

 

[Tilly]

I found out I was pregnant when I was 19, just a few months before turning 20.. my brother said "we will support your decision either way" which upset me a bit. My mum was happy (I think she knew I was pregnant anyway, she bought me the test as I had missed my period) but she had a little cry and said she was happy but also worried as we were young. After a few hours, my brother, boyfriend and mum were sharing a few beers though lol and everyone seemed very happy to be honest! Boyfriends family were happy too! and everyone adores Bethanie now..!

 

[Serene123]

My mum cried for 2 days and then accepted it and realised that I'm alot more grown up than she knows. My dad on the other hand couldn't really comment as he and my half brother had their first kids at 18. Everyone's really excited. Havn't told the grandparents yet!

 

[Mummy87]

xarlenex - My experience was exactly the same as yours, It's taken a while for my dad to come round and now he's ok with the idea! He's bought us tons of stuff to he must have accepted it!

 

[xarlenex]

xarlenex - My experience was exactly the same as yours, It's taken a while for my dad to come round and now he's ok with the idea! He's bought us tons of stuff to he must have accepted it!

Aw good! My dad only asked If we needed anything at the weekend there, better late than never a guess though! Think he expected me to have a list of things we didnt have yet, but we have everything...so we agreed he could by the high chair n the cot/quilt set.

 

[xKimx]

My dad and my 3 big brothers all told my to abort !! i dont get on with my mum so she shes not botherd , my dad threw me out !

 

[xCherylx]

My mum was 17 when she fell pregnant so as I was older than her the family couldn't really say anything. My dad was kind of distant for a week but now he talks about it and I know he is excited. Although not as excited as my mum, if possible more excited lol!

 

[Stef]

Im not a teen but wanted to share this with you any ways... Im currently 21 but I was 20 when I fell pregnant...

When I told my mother she was really understanding, She advised she would support me either way but she had me at 18 so I guess understands. I lost my father in a Road Accident when I was 3 years old so I didnt have that part.

On the other hand. I grew up alot with my great grandparents who are still with us, because they are now approaching their late 80's they still live in quite a tradditional world. IE get married & have children, I was so excited by my pregnancy but my biggest fear was talling my Great Granparents, My grandfather walked out the room after telling me he was dissapointed and my grandmother just said. Oh December. Thats a cold time of year. So Either way I got negativity even if it wasnt directly aimed by my grandmother.

I dont live in the same town as my family any more and felt so ashamed even though i wanted nothing more than to continue with my pregnancy and have my baby after OH and i were TTCing and I suffered a loss in December last year. Which I guess made it easier. But i couldnt concentrate fully through all the emotions i was feeling when having to drive 2.5 hours back to where Chris and I live

They have now come round to the idea, I think both are actually quite excited that they are going to meet the 5th generation of their family but they still ask when Chris and I are going to be wed.

Even when my mother was pregnant with me, they had the same reaction. She was engaged but not yet married. Grandfather made it quite clear to her he wanted nothing to do with me.. BUT who was the one who carried me out of the hospital? He was and he always has had a special bond with me.

Don't let them get you down. They're your parents and they may have had theese feeling and perhaps still have them BUT you are the most precious thing in the world to them and they WILL stick by you.

X

 

[Linzi]

Im 21 too so not quite a teenager either, but I still feel like one!

I told my mam and dad when they came to visit. I was really nervous but my Dad just gave me a hug and said he was happy, and my mum did the same. My little brother (whos 7) had a bit of a harder time accepting it, but he's excited now.

Now that the first day has passed though no one really talks about it anymore... my dads a bit upset because he thinks he's too young to be a grandparent so he doesnt ever mention anything, my grandparents arent happy at all because we arent married (but weve been engaged and living together for over a year!) so they dont talk about it either, and my mum has always had a lot of problems conceiveing and I think she knows this was an accident and I think she's a bit upset by that. I dont really know.

xxx

 

[Leannex]

my mam was over the moon
my dad was rather upset, but hes fine now

parnters parents
his mam looked well cross and angry and wasnt happy
his dad accepted it


just thought id add, my partner hasnt told his 2 sets of grandparents with only 15days left !! MEN!

 

[**ALRE&Bump<3]

*BabyBean* u not had Olivia yet hun?


heya xarlenex, when I found out I was pg with ruby, neither mum nor dad were pleased, tbh they went a bit ape-shite lol! but they came round and coz I was quite far gone they werent keen on me aborting and neither was i coz it wudda been pretty traumatic 4 a 12yr old (13 when gave birth )
then with ella they werent 2 pleased again, spesh as I was 14 (gave birth @ 15) an they actually did try 2 persuade me 2 abort, but liam convinced his parents and they convinced mine 2 not make me terminate
liam even signed a contracty thingy 2 say he wouldnt disappear and would support me whatever
then this time round no1, including me and liam were happy coz we know it's gonna b a shed-load, but we is gonna cope and our parents left it 2 us, coz we both 16, sayin its up 2 us coz its our lives and we the ones gotta cope and that theyd b there 4 us wateva
xx

 

[Serene123]

I was meant to go and tell my nan tonight but I can't face it. I'm not sure I'll be able to tell them atall

 

[**ALRE&Bump<3]

aww hun, u can do it I did x

 

[xarlenex]

my mam was over the moon
my dad was rather upset, but hes fine now

parnters parents
his mam looked well cross and angry and wasnt happy
his dad accepted it


just thought id add, my partner hasnt told his 2 sets of grandparents with only 15days left !! MEN!

gawd you must be hiding it well if they aint noticed!! lol x

 

[xarlenex]

I was meant to go and tell my nan tonight but I can't face it. I'm not sure I'll be able to tell them atall

The longer you leave it the scarier n more worried you'll be n thats not good for baba! Think about it that way, good luck xx

 

[xarlenex]

My dad and my 3 big brothers all told my to abort !! i dont get on with my mum so she shes not botherd , my dad threw me out !

thats harsh. Hope your coping well?
It took for my babys life to be at risk and me being in hospital for my dad to so much as pick up the phone n ask how things were. Up until maybe a month ago.

 

[Stef]

*BabyBean* u not had Olivia yet hun?

Unfortunately not. Im still here.

 

[Linzi]

I was meant to go and tell my nan tonight but I can't face it. I'm not sure I'll be able to tell them atall

It is really hard but I think theyd be more upset hat you kept it from them. I have to say, I was most scared of telling my dads parents because theyre very old fashioned. The fact is, the only reason they might be angry is because they love you, but Im sure theyd come round really soon. It might even give you somewhere else to go to talk to people if youre still hvaing problems at home.

xxx